Should I tell him I’m pregnant?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing someone, I ended after I found out about someone else. He’s now with same girl.

I’ve found out I’m pregnant and don’t know what to do. Do I tell him? I don’t want him thinking I’m doing this to vindictive?

[AvaOneLasTime]

If its HIS, yes, you should probably tell him. If you want ofc. If you think he is not a good person, and would not be a good father, then you may want him out of your life and the child's life.

Don't milk him off money, because he will sense it and take actions. The child is just as yours as is his. You have every right to raise it on your own. He has right to know, but the ball is in your hands.

Still, you may know the guy better than us and figure on your own - Would he like to know?
Because if he would like to know, he may want to be a part of the child's life.
Or not 😶

[Asker]

I don’t need the financial support, unsure on what to decide at this point

[dustybiker]

Your child needs to know their father. It’s both of their right.

[arkward-villain]

It's upto you but I advise that, if you keep it, don't bother him until later, women are empowered nowadays so you should you

[SnakeBoop]

if you are pregnant and keeping it, then yes, you need to tell himj.

[boggboss]

Depends on what your going to do I guess

[Anonymous]

If you're going to keep it then pls tell him that you're pregnanananant

[Agape93]

Abort it is my advice.

[AvaOneLasTime]

What the F...

[Agape93]

Is it not valid advice?

[AvaOneLasTime]

Why the first thing that should come into mind is abortion?

[Agape93]

Because I openly advocate for it? She's young so probably doesn't have a great job yet, and coupled with the fact that her baby daddy ditched her, their lives will be needlessly more difficult.

[AvaOneLasTime]

27 is actually pretty good age for having children. What, she should have been 40? She never said anything about job or money difficulties.
I am neither pro-choice nor pro-life, but damn, i feel like choosing the pro-life side, just because of people like you.

[Agape93]

Still young. Not a whole lot of people are financially independent enough to handle things well enough on their own, much less doing so for a child who requires 18 years worth of time, food, shelter and medical care. That shit is expensive as hell. Not to mention the average birthing at a hospital in the USA is between $30,000 and $40,000, and that's without anything extra to heal you and help you recover and without staying for a few days for observation.

Honey, there is no pro life side. That's a misnomer for the people who value forcing birth due to their sentimentality, and after birth, they literally don't care. The "pro life" advocates are also the ones who legislate and advocate against food stamps, maternity leave, easier adoptions, free child care etc. So unless you are ok with forcing a woman to give birth, and then you're ok with helping her deal with the child forced on her, I don't want to hear anything about "people like me".

[Agape93]

I don't know why you're getting bent out of shape over a jelly bean sized fetus. Does the situation suck? Absolutely. It's expensive and I can understand it being upsetting for some, but a fetus can always be made again later when things are more convenient. But you're welcome to your sentiments, all power to you. But don't start with me just because you don't like advice that is perfectly valid here.

[AvaOneLasTime]

I am all for children, and bein raised properly, not for being born. See, you confused me for someone else. You bring up US expenses, but the asker is anon. and could be from anywhere.

I already made my comment, aside from reply to yours, from which is evident, that no one is forcing her to do anything, much less to give a birth.
And that jelly-bean fetus has once been you.

[Agape93]

True they could be, but without further information, I can only draw upon what I know.

Sorry but when you say that you feel like choosing pro life because of people like me, you are literally putting yourself in their camp or at least more aligned with it. So no, I really haven't confused you, as the anti choice movement is literally as I described, and they promote exactly what I said they do, with laws in my country reflecting it.

So what? I've sent 3 to the afterlife so telling me I was one, is just a really shitty emotional manipulation tactic as old as the debate itself.

Look I get it, you don't like my advice, fine not an issue. But don't go starting shit with me over it. I don't get why you're so upset, but at the same time, I don't really give a damn in the end.

[AvaOneLasTime]

"is just a really shitty emotional manipulation tactic as old as the debate itself."
In the end of the day, that's just opinion right here, used to not allow any rational emotions gets to you, because yes, we all used to be 'jelly-bean sized fetus' once (what a description for a human being and the sanctity of human life, wow!) .

I mean, you are the same person that was okay with underage boys being castrated, over groping to a girl, whether accidental or mistake. For the sake of all children, i hope there aren't more people thinking like you. But there probably are.

[Agape93]

Not really an opinion, it's literally an emotional manipulation tactic used since the beginning of the abortion debate, and not even a good one. That's a fact, not an opinion.

Be glad I'm being nicer here, I personally see them as harmful parasites, like leeches or ticks.

Correct, I'm fine with that. I don't tolerate sexual assault and I don't care if it was a mistake or not. Be it from castration of a groper, to the flaying of a rapist or child molester, I'm fine with it.

I suggest not presuming how I feel, think or anything unless you ask :) I don't talk in depth on these subjects because they aren't exactly conforming.

So are you ready to knock off these petty jabs and walk away, or are you going to keep pushing?

[AvaOneLasTime]

Fine, then i will claim that it is okay for girls to be castrated too, if they are the gropers.
We made our points and we can part ways.

[Agape93]

Sounds fair to me. Alright have a good one.

[Asker]

Financially stable in a solid career. Earn well over my the national average and for my age as well as the babies dad who is a DR ironically. Also own my own home

[AvaOneLasTime]

Ouch. Your assumptions didn't go well, Agape? Guess reality disagreed.

[Agape93]

Oh well, I stand by my advice, but it's your choice in the end