How Do I Tell Him I’m Pregnant?

[Anonymous]

So I dated his guy for a year a couple of months back and we broke up about two months but since then I found out that I was pregnant it's been a month since I've known this and I wanted to tell him immediately but I'm waiting until after the first trimester to. We didn't break up on good terms. I kinda just blurted it out when in the middle of the argument and he said fine and walked out and we haven't talked since then. We broke up because I felt like he was stalking me almost every day he would text me asking who I was with or where or was and I thought it was cute when he came to pick me up however it started getting me never after he asked about a photo I got tagged in by a guy. Keep in mind the guy was my half-sister's cousin I told him that and laughed it off but he didn't believe any of it so we got into a fight after he accused me of cheating which I'm not. I grew up with the guy in the photo we've known each other since we were 10 and are like siblings so when he asked me to cut him off I got really mad and he stated that we weren't even blood-related and blah blah blah. So I was feeling a little sick and dizzy before that but brushed it off as a cold or something I ate however it's been a while. I can raise the baby myself and my family will help me because I'm still in Uni only my mom and sisters know. My aunts and uncles and cousins would just get mad and go over to his house to blurt it out. I don't need his help with raising it, he even said he didn't want kids and would rather just grow old with his soulmate himself so I think it would be a waste of time, He's not bad with kids he just doesn't want any. So should I tell him because he deserves to know or not He's probably gonna give me shit about the whole tagged-in photo thing and I just can't deal with that right now I'm already stressing over this I don't need anger being added to the mix?

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+1 y

Thanks for all the opinions and suggestions. He said it wasn't his at first I predicted that and already scripted a calm response @caitjet. And he asked to abort, I told him it wouldn't be something he had to take care of and I'll keep it, he doesn't have to be there and I won't bother him, It went silent after that my brother was outside waiting for me so I left after it seemed like he had nothing else to say. I have an appointment tomorrow which I told him about but maybe that's just me hoping

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+1 y

I lost it, guess it worked out for the best, he didn't want it anyways. And i get to focus on skl i was ginna take a year off guess i dont need to anymore. I dont know what i dud. I read the books i followed the doctor's orders. I wasn't stressed about anything serious just him not showing up since last month. i'll be fine

[Càitjet]

He has the right to know. I know now it doesn't seem like you need him but that baby does, in 5/10/15 years when kids start asking questions you need to have a decent answer or resentment kicks in.

Write down what you want to say to him, keep it to the point and don't break on petty arguments over pictures with boys. Give him space to process everything, his emotions will be mixed and initially angry/upset.

Have someone with you for support and leave it in his court to decide on involvement etc.

[Staximus]

You realize that by having his baby you are going to have to deal with him for the rest of your life, right? If he goes to their baseball game, graduations, birthdays, child support court, etc etc etc it never ends. You feeding need to have his baby. Have a baby with a guy who is going to be there fire you

[Asker]

So I'm just supposed to get rid of the thing, it didn't do anything.

[Staximus]

Rule number one for girls is don't have a baby with a piece of shit

[Staximus]

I hope you've learned your lesson, don't have a baby with another piece of shit. Make sure he's a good guy first

[Staximus]

You should have taken care of it right when you found out instead of being stupid and waiting for the baby to grow. Why are you going to tie yourself to this piece of shit guy with a baby and never been free of him? Are you that dumb?

[AI Opinion]

How to Tell Your Partner About an Unplanned Pregnancy

It's not always easy to break the news to your partner that you're pregnant, especially if it wasn't planned.

Here are a few tips on how to tell them in a way that is both sensitive and effective:

1. Choose the right time and place.

You'll want to have this conversation in a private setting where you won't be interrupted.

2. Be honest and direct.

Tell your partner that you're pregnant and that you're not sure how they're going to react.

3. Be prepared for their reaction.

They may be shocked, scared or even angry.

It's important to let them know that whatever their reaction is, you're there for them.

4. Offer support.

Let them know that you're in this together and that you'll support them through whatever decision they make.

5. Thank them for their support.

No matter what their reaction is, thank them for being there for you.

[Plinko]

Yes you should tell him. He has a right to know.

[Asker]

I don't think, I'd want to hear him say he doesn't want it or worse for me to get rid of it.

[Plinko]

You don't have to listen to any of that, but he has a right to know.

[Danny_dan92]

Um. Yeah

[Anonymous]

Not my problem