Im pregnant with his baby do I tell him?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months and I found out today I’m pregnant and I don’t know what do do. He’s not my boyfriend he’s not anything really we’re just dating and I know it should be the least of my worries but I’m so scared he’s gonna leave me and stop speaking to me since I’m pregnant.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't have a direct answer to give... but let me tell you a story that is part of my life.

So I met this chick when I was on leave after bootcamp... like me she lived in the other chick's place for reasons. She had a boyfriend... but started having sex with me. We had a bunch of sex for about 90 days and then I got sent overseas...

Supposedly she got pregnant by me. She was in contact with me for a while and never said anything. She convinced her boyfriend that the baby was his. She didn't say anything to me about any baby and our communication just dropped naturally.

So my life went on... years... I eventually got married and had my kids. I became a stay-at-home Dad sort of thing and sort of left the military but my wife was the working one in the military... still is.

So out of the blue... I find out this chick is looking for me to pay child support. The kid was obviously mine if you just looked at him... But if I let her get a hold of me, my wife would end up paying my child support for me and that would drain resources from my family and I never even knew she had anything going on... she could've said something at anytime that we were still talking and she choose to just not say shit to me and lie to her boyfriend. My guess... the boyfriend fucking figured it out and shit went downhill for her after that.

So I decided my family was more important than stepping up and being some kid's dad that I didn't even know I had for so many years. Still haven't and I think the kid is over 21 now and I'm still avoiding contact because I don't want to get caught up with some backpay situation.

That's my story... I only told it to you so you can see how it might turn out in the long run. If she told me I got her pregnant I probably would've talked her into leaving the boyfriend, marrying me, and I would've dedicated myself to her and the kid... but she decided to trick her boyfriend and just not tell me I had a kid already.

It's your life but just try to look at how it might turn out over time. It could fall apart for you if you try to be shady and bullshit people around you from the start.

[Guy13]

You have to tel him. Let me give you real life and people lived facts. When it comes to Abortion there are two things you should know.

There is either a Death date or a Birth date. Neither one never goes away. You can abort, live with a Death date, self-hate, downward spiral, and never know what could have come out of that baby’s life that was killed…

OR you can raise the child, give to adopt, and watch or one day find out what became of your child.

You have entered the Adult world.

[Anonymous]

My advice is to think about whether you want to keep the baby. If you think there’s any chance at all that you might, then you need to tell him. He needs to be given the opportunity to be a father and provide support, financial and otherwise. This is an adult situation and should be handled as such. If he gets angry, then so be it but he still has a responsibility to live up to here. He really has nothing to be angry about since he’s 50% responsible. You shouldn’t be alone to deal with this. Now if you are 100% sure you don’t want to have it, then maybe you spare his feelings and don’t tell him. Otherwise, you have to suck it up and have the conversation with him.

[Akam93]

Please don't abort if neither of you want the child. You could still have it and just simply put it in a local baby box. That way it can a life to live. But if you want I'll show you graphic image of a dead baby that was killed during an abortion to hell see what your doing to a little human.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you should go with your gut feeling... would you want to know if you were the father?

[Zandoval]

You're dating but he isn't your boyfriend? Huh? Well, you need to tell him. He is the father.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you are dating, how are you not a couple? Makes no sense..

You gotta tell him either way.

[Avicenna]

You’d better tell him

[Agape93]

Lol oh jesus christ.

[riverrat3]

Talk it out