What should I do about my boyfriend who's been seeing another girl behind my back?

[Anonymous]

So I am 10 weeks pregnant, and last week my boyfriend tried breaking up with me, he said he had a list of complaints about me.. then said, "I like someone else" and so I said, "You can't just leave me, I'm pregnant, our families don't even know yet" so he said, "Let's tell my parents then", So we told his parents, then he went outside, and came back, and apologized for trying to break up with me. I have been depressed about this, "Other girl" thing the entire week, and he's been trying to cheer me up, and keeps saying he loves me... I have a friend who goes to school with him, and he said he would try to see what he can find out about this, "Girl".. The other day my boyfriend said, "I will forget about this girl, I only love you, I won't talk to her anymore" and then my friend who goes to school with my boyfriend told me that what my boyfriend says is a bunch of BS and he knows what girl he's seeing. I called my boyfriend and said, "How long has this been going on?" he claims only a week, which is not possible if he tried leaving me a week ago... and he said, "Please don't cry, I love you" and then I said, "So, does she even know you have a girlfriend?" and he said, "Yeah, but she doesn't like it" and I said, "Does she know that I'm pregnant?" and he said, "No... please don't be upset" and so I told him that he needs to tell this girl that, and that he needs to stop whatever has been going on between the two of them. And he claims he will... guys, if you were my boyfriend, would you just tell me that to get me to drop the subject? and girls, what would you do if you were in my situation? I am so stressed out, this is way too much for me to handle right now.

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+1 y

Stuff about me being a whore is going around too.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Are you 100% positive you are going to keep this child? Because TBH I wouldn't have a baby for a guy who didn't want to be with me. Not trying to be an asshole but I am being real, if you do go through with this pregnancy you will be raising this baby by yourself because its clear as day he doesn't really want to be with you.

here is nothing you can do about his actions. you can't control him or change him and you will stress yourself out even trying. I would take a break from him and concentrate on taking care of myself and my child. Dealing with him will only have you going through an emotional rollercoaster and make your pregnancy even more difficult

[Asker]

I am putting the baby up for adoption... We are still young, and his parents said we have to stay together for the pregnancy.. I really should leave him after though..

[alchemy12]

I'd dump his ass. He's a liar and a cheat and you don't need this bullshit in your life right now. It will just cause you extra stress at the time it's most critical to be as stress-free as possible. Just keep your friends and family close.

[alchemy12]

His parents said you have to stay together? Do they know their son is two-timing you and lying to your face? It's hardly their decision. Your life, your choice.

[Asker]

They don't know about that.. and I found out who the girl was, she has been talking with me about my pregnancy, and being all nice, saying she's my "friend" and here she is also going behind my back.. yeah I'm going to think about things..

[alchemy12]

@update. Who's calling you that? This girl? I know you're in a tough circumstance but I would steer clear of these people. It will take strength to go through your pregnancy alone but if they are doing this now you can expect more of the same. They'll just bring you down and you need to be strong for yourself and the baby. He sounds incredibly selfish and immature as does the other girl.

[Asker]

I'm guessing she's the one who's spreading that, because I don't know anyone else that would. She then messaged me and said, "I never went against you, I told him off" BS yeah whatever, and she's kissing up to me now. Makes me mad.

[alchemy12]

Yeah, I'd be concerned if you weren't very angry. Please put yourself first and take care, you deserve better.

[yawst]

Your boyfriend is mean. Tell him he should at least help you with the pregnancy. How did you end up with him.

[Asker]

I don't know how I ended up with him.. he has always been a jerk to most "other" people, but has always been nice to me.. until this happened.. He's just nice to my face I guess.. he says he's "really sorry" and won't talk to this girl anymore.. and I found out who she is, and she has been super friendly with me, and has been talking to me about my pregnancy, and here she is going along with my boyfriend behind my back. I can't trust either of them.

[yawst]

What a mess, I'm sorry about all this. Hopefully the next guy you're with will be a decent man.