Boyfriend meeting up with another woman behind my back?

[pandah]

Ok I am not the most trusting girlfriend and I shouldn't have done this and I know a lot of girls do it. I looked through my guys phone. We live long distance so I do worry a lot. He's a very loving and serious boyfriend we been together nearly a year and we are moving in together this month!

So basically he was texting his mate saying he started chatting to a girl on an internet site he went out with in school and she's "really tasty now" so he said and he said " she asked me out for a drink what do i do? I really love my girlfriend and I wouldn't cheat on her but I really wanna see her!" His mate replied do what you thinks best. "But aren't you happy where you are?" my bf replied "yeah but it'd be cool to see what might have been, hindsight is powerful" wtf does that mean?

I appreciate fact he says he won't cheat but I'm upset by the fact he wants to go on a date with this girl cuz he said also "I'm 99% sure she's into me" so why if he's happy with me is he doing this? He promised me he would never lie or keep things from me and this hurts me so much and I can't even confront him about it cuz hell know I was going through his phone. I know it's my fault for snooping but how am I meant to trust someone that does this behind my back?

Question is whys he doing this if he loves me and says I'm the best and only girl in the world for him? Is it for an ego boost? A harmless catch up and he won't tell me cuz he think I'll flip out? I'm so upset and hurt he's not the kinda guy I'd thought would ever hurt me.

[CrazyAK]

He's just basically intrigued by the fact that some other girl that is apparently fit, likes him and so he is interested about it. Although, if he seriously loves you and that means he doesn't give a shit about anything else in this world besides you, then he wouldn't be interested in another girl. I'm afraid he's losing interest possibly

[madhatters4]

uh his rationale is b. s. he is playing the field while he's with you. pure and simple. it is cheating. he's trying to see if something else might be better than what he has. that's just nonsense

[pandah]

I don't actually know if he met up with her though he said he was gonna hut whether he did or not idk.

[madhatters4]

you don't know if he did but you know he wants to and was considering it. if my gf told me that she wnted to meet up with an old flame with the rational "I just want to see what's there" I would tell her, go ahead have dinner and don't ever call me again. if someone wants to play the field and see what options are out there, let them, but you shouldn't be with them. you shouldn't be his consolation prize.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

oh girl... this is not good at all. he might say he won't cheat, but fat people on diets say they'll stick to them and end up right back at mcdonalds

[SaltandVinegar]

So true!

[MrHitch]

How in the day and age you women thing long distance relationship works, beats me! Are you nuts? Ofcourse he will, any guy will, how do you expect to stay faithful when you don't get to touch, kiss, fuck and see the person you love at least 2 or 3 times a week, especially at your age group. You guys should break up and move on so you both can enjoy your lives!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Because it's an ego boost to have girls pursuing you. He's enjoying the attention.

[pandah]

He said he will go and see her to see what it might have been whatever that means. It sounds like he's not 100% on me but when we're together he tells me how much he wants to spend the rest of our lives together and loves me more than anything and I believe him cuz he is a genuine guy I just can't figure out what he wants from this girl. He also said in his text that he wouldn't cheat but I worry so much that he would or why go out for a drink and lie? Is it just harmless? I am not handling this well at all what with my insecurities

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It sounds like he wants to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. It could be harmless, but are you going to be ok being in a relationship where a guy goes on 'dates'?

[skeptic007]

thats normal its suppose to happen your man is gonna be attracted to other women, he's gonna talk to other women he's gonna hangout with other women. and there gonna like him back, now whether your his number one is up to him

[ieatDaCake]

If your gut is telling you he cheating, he cheating.

[Anonymous]

Geez long distance is problematic. Just do what he does.