My boyfriend is really close with another girl?

[Anonymous]

I might be thinking too much into it cause he's been friends with (ill call her X) X since two years

The thing is whenever we're sitting together and X is with us he won't let her go anywhere (It kinda gets awkward when its just me and him because I stop talking so he's the only one talking so he's like we should sometimes keep a mutual friend with us to avoid it) but he grabs her arm and she keeps saying let go I'm gonna go now but he's like no you're not going anywhere your staying here or he steals her bag and keeps it with him because then she has to stay with us. Also once he was like "if X or jack (his best guy friend) ask me to come to school I will" and I was like what the hell am I not of any importance but he was like no if you ask me too ill obviously come. Then one time he wanted to get high and he was like OK I'm going with X (he asked me too but I was like nah I don't want to go today) so it was just gonna be her and him but she felt bad so she forced another guy friend of hers to come with them. The thing is he seems way to close to her like not in a friend way but as in he stands really close to her and if she's sitting and there's very little space on the side he won't mind sitting there so itll be like theyre sitting almost on top of eachother but X gets up cause she doesn't want me to feel uncomfortable also one time she was sitting on the stairs and I was about to sit next to her when my guy came up nudged me aside and sat next to her. I know X and she's all the time like he's changed so much after meeting you he really really likes you and is crazy about you and stuff. (he used to be a player before me) he's already told me several times he'll never hurt me and he really likes me and stuff Andd I know X is never gonna get together with him cause she herself doesn't believe in love or relationships so she's kind of a live fast die young type o girl. so I wanted to know your opinion on this is this all okay?

[RositaV]

He's doing wrong. What he's doing is disrespect to the relationship. You don't say how long you've been in the relationship. He clearly is crushing on her. He probably asked her out first, and she turned him down. If you have been with him less than 6 months, you can try to wait it out and see if he cuts it out. But don't wait too long.. In case he's just wasting your time.

[Asker]

It hasn't even been a month since we've started dating. No he didn't ask her out they were friends but then again its clear that X doesn't care about mens feelings at all.

[RositaV]

I started dating this guy. And he was always bringing his "friend" too. He would grab her arm. Playfully tug when laughing. Swore they were "just friends" I later found out they had "tried" dating a year before I came into the picture.. But I stayed. A year later she was STILL around him always. Once she invited us over for pizza with her new boyfriend.. in front of me she said "oh, here tony, this pizza is especially for u, because I know how you like it" . That was the beginning of the end

[glitterberryalisa]

I think he's acting immature. He may like you a lot but it seems to be he doesn't seem to be that serious about a relationship with anyone. You could just calmly talk to him about it, don't accuse him of anything but just ask him if he has feelings for this girl. If he does, then I don't think its a good idea to continue dating this guy.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure he has some type of feelings for her at least, not sure what kind though.. Are you and your boyfriend exclusive? if so, break up and tell him things aren't working out.. no hard feelings.
If you aren't exclusive, then it's all good because you two can keep things light and open, no restrictions on each others "friends" or whatever.

[Asker]

We've made out at least three times and she knows about it if he liked her he'd at least try to hide it right?

[Opinion Owner]

So are you exclusive or not? have you guys discussed this or no? If you haven't talked about it maybe he wants an open relationship?

[Asker]

Yeah we are exclusive everyone knows we're in a relationship

[Opinion Owner]

Oh. Well, you could freak the h^ll out and go all ape sht crazy since he blatantly flirted with this other person in front of you and for his overall lack of respect towards you.. but that would just make you look like an a** lol.. no need to stoop to his level.. :/

Tell him things aren't working and you'd rather just be friends. Stay classy ;)