My boyfriend and other girl?

[Anonymous]

My friend with benefits was seeing a girl a few months ago. They went on 2 dates and my friends with benefits being the player he is, wanted physical intimacy very quick. The girl didn't give him and was more like wanted to go slow and get to know him. My friend wasn't interested in that since he really has a really strong sexual attraction to her.

When she wouldn't make any sexual advances, he tried to make her jealous, stop replying to her texts in hopes she would chase him. Instead, she completely stopped texting him which bothered him a lot. He tried to make small talk with her but she still wouldn't text. He made dummy accounts and stalked her socials and even made a girls account with his name on the username to peak her jealousy.

didn't work.

She was talking to him in person though and never seemed bothered by his behaviour. However, she did seem like she cared for him because when my friend fell ill, she did text him and he expected her to ask him out as he wanted to go out with her again.

But he never asked her and neither did she. So he got mad at her again. They still continued to talk in person which my friend forced himself to do so because for some reason he would get mad at her but wouldn't stop talking or remove her contact.

He also saw her with another guy and got incredibly jealous. He told me about it and basically smoked the entire night obsessing over why she didn't tell him that she was going to see that guy ( she only told him she was going grocery shopping).

He later pulled on a stunt of going away for a month on vacation and leaving her wondering where he is but she never texted him. He then went around looking for her on university campus and did see her after a few days and she just waved but didn't say anything. It was my friend who said something to her but she didn't speak herself.

Whats his issue? He never liked her anyways so whats the drama?

[LazerBean]

"he never liked her" lol clearly he is interested, not a genuine interest but rather infatuation with something that he cannot have. Pretty typical of player losers.

[Asker]

But infatuation for so many months and still hooking up with other girls?

[LazerBean]

Of course, players love a tough game.

[LazerBean]

Of course, players love a tough game

[Asker]

But he doesn't text or see her so this is not even playing? He obviously doesn't like her?

[LazerBean]

That's not how that works.

[Asker]

What do you kean thats not how it works?

[Asker]

Heklloo gurl

[Still-alive]

He took her rejections towards his advances very personal and his ego just wouldn’t let it go so he stalked and did all that other shit as a kind of revenge. He couldn’t accept that she didn't want him.

[Asker]

Ok so he doesn't like her right?

[Still-alive]

Hmmm maybe a tad but its clear to me he wanted her more for sex than anything else.

This is a friends with benefits for you right? You concerned with him liming someone else?

[Still-alive]

Liking*

[Asker]

What do you mean tad maybe?

[Asker]

Ok so she didn't give him sex so whats the point?

[Still-alive]

Guys like him are pure ego driven and if a woman dares reject his advances he takes it very personally.

I say a tad because i just think somewhere deep in him he might like her but its hard to really tell.

So yeah… if this is just an friends with benefits for you then id try to not let this get to me if i were you.

[Asker]

But why do you think he might like her deep in him? Any reason for you to think so?

[Still-alive]

Lol why are you so concerned about this?

I just think there —might— be something im him deep down that likes her perhaps because he's not used to having women reject him like her and because she did he's now interested. People are complicated and so are their desires for other people

[Asker]

You think he gets laid very quickly?,
Also she rejected him so why bother? he's hooking up with others?

[Still-alive]

He sounds like a player so yes he might get laid very often.

And i already explained he's pure ego driven so to him that one girl who had the audacity to reject him is now the object of his obsession.

[Asker]

Can he fall in love through this obsession tho? But i mean be doesn't talk, text or see her much so how can he be obsessed?

[Still-alive]

Damn you’re overthinking this. What you wrote up there in your description sounds like an egotistical guy with an obsession to me. You dont go to such lengths as he did like stalking her if you are t obsessed on some level.

I dont think he loves her i just think a very verrrry small part of him likes her because she had the gall to reject him.

[Asker]

No i mean with this obsession do you think he can develop feelings if he does get to go out with her again?

[Still-alive]

Eh doubtful i feel like hed just use her and dump her to get her back kind of thing.

[Danny_dan92]

You say boyfriend in the title but he’s actually your FWB’s…




A little insane if you ask me