He's already seeing someone else.

[Anonymous]

So my ex is a LYING piece of SHIT. And my urge to kill is rising. He told me he has no time for a relationship and he didn't want to see anyone for a long time and yada yada and now I found out he's already dating someone else and it's only been a month since he broke up with me. I feel sick. I don't even want him back now but I just feel disgusted that he lied to me. He made me believe there was a chance we could get back together in the future and now I don't know if anything he ever said was true or not. I feel like he used me and I can't believe this is happening.

[bigblueeyes1]

SAME THING HAPPENED HERE! He told me throughout our entire 1 year 4 mth relationship that if we ever break up (for good because it was always off/on) that he would be alone for a VERY long time. he said for 2 reasons; a)cuz of all the hurt and pain I caused him (seriously this is such a joke) and b) he loved me too much.

HAHA joke was on me because within a month he was "talking" to someone else. now, he does live in another state, so he could be lying, but I don't think he is. he is really insecure so he probably did go find someone quickly. this hurt me a lot. it too, made me want to to just beat the sh*t out of him.

but now, you know what?!?! it doesn't bother me. instead, I feel sorry for him that he is a lying piece of garbage that is so insecure and scared that no one will want him that he went out and probably found another lying piece of garbage just like him. all because he is scared to be alone.

i, on the other hand, have learned SOOOO much and now know 110% what I do and don't want in a man/bf and I am even more picky. I have that right. and another thing I learned...i will NEVER EVER believe another man when they say they will be alone for a long time. I was naive to believe my ex, and I learned my lesson.

so the best thing you can do is keep your head held high, be thankful that this lying piece of crap is out of your life, and be proud that at least YOU aren't settling for anything less than you deserve. I posted a question about if its pathetic if your alone for a long time while your ex is with someone and got a few great responses. go check it out. because we aren't the pathetic ones for staying single, they are the pathetic ones for rushing into another relationship because they can't stand on their own 2 feet. good luck girl

[Asker]

Thank you so much :]

Yeahhh I am really disturbed by his behavior now and I feel like I don't even know who he is anymore. I just keep feeling sad that he's getting excited over some new girl and she looks to be everything that he wanted from what I saw of her facebook :[ I hope he's in for a rude awakening.

[Asker]

I think she's very pretty :[

[bigblueeyes1]

im sorry your going through this. its even worse when the girl is pretty :( truly though, the best revenge is living well and being happy. showing him that you don't need him to be happy and not caring what he is doing with his life now. looking back, I now see so many red flags that I was blind to. and I'm sure if you look back, you will see things that you also overlooked or were blind to. and eventually, like me, you will just be happy they left. keep me posted and I wish you well :)

[confused_gal223]

there reasons "i need time fr myself"... "its not u..its me"...r all BS!plz never believe these reasons again... a person doesn't wan to be with you so he/she says all this crap to not look like a total jerk.

and you certainly don't want him back... right? just pity tht girl...maybe one day she will get to hear those magical words "i have no time for a relationship"

[Belgie]

He was a coward, in not making the break up with you as final and complete as it could have been, but it was probably because he didn't want to hurt you. Making a complete break is painful and sometimes the guy chickens out on doing the right thing, and letting you know it's OVER and he's emotionally already moved on.

Believe it. Be angry about it for as long as you need, but ultimately, you will need to get over it.

[Asker]

I feel so angry. I don't know how to get over the anger...

[Belgie]

Give it time. You don't have to get over the anger straight away. You deserve to be angry.

[zinclozenges]

Except that anger is hindering. The best thing to do is love yourself and forgive. Continuing to be angry is only going to bring you more anger.

"You can never be free of bitterness as long as you continue to think unforgiving thoughts. How can you be happy in this moment if you continue to choose to be angry and resentful? ...

[zinclozenges]

...Thoughts of bitterness can't create joy. No matter how justified you feel you are, no matter what "they" did, if you insist on holding on to the past, then you will never be free."

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[awaken03]

you have every right to get angry..he does not deserve you go for someone better..fix your self and get busy with more important matters.i know it still hurting..but ask your self after the pain and fustration is gone was he worth it? vent it out don't keep it in..

[Anonymous]

exact thing happened to me and my ex. Tells me she is too busy and doesn't want to only be able to see me every couple of weeks as it's not enough. Then 2 weeks later she is seeing someone else! That whole time excuse is total bs! You will always find time to see someone you really like. Be angry/upset about this for a bit but then forget him. He's clearly not bothered so neither should you be!

[lv4lv]

...It's been a month. Yes. I know that sounds bad in some cases, I personally can't get over someone for half a year, but some get over it faster. Some get a rebound girl/boy to make it better. Over all, it's been thirty days. If it was three days, you might have something, but it's thirty.

[Anonymous]

he's a jerk, move on.

[Anonymous]

forget about him.