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Guy A: He is not really handsome but he is very kind. He doesn’t really draw attention. He compliments you a lot and smothers you with his love for you. He is predictable. He gets jealous when another guy is trying to draw your attention but he says nothing about it because he is afraid, even when you feel uncomfortable. He cares a lot and he shows that directly. He is insecure, emotional, and affectionate. He is in touch with his feelings and completely harmless. If something is wrong he has the tendency to act like a victim and expects you to solve the problem. You’re not feeling secure with him but you feel cared about. He talks a lot. He tends to sugarcoat to please you. He never initiates intimacy, intercourse is mainly vanilla and gentle. He prefers you to take the responsibility and do as you like. He seeks your approval and sometimes you feel like you’re coping up with a child/servant.

Guy B: This guy has outstanding looks. He draws attention but he minds his own business. He doesn’t compliment you a lot. He is gentle and treats you well. He is unpredictable. When another guy is trying to draw your attention, he tells him to back off. He doesn’t mind to use violence if necessary for your safety/comfort. He cares about you and shows that mainly indirectly. He is confident and logical. He isn’t easily affected and is calm. Feelings such as sadness, is something you rarely see, only when it’s serious. This guy isn’t harmless but neither harmful to you. He is protective and makes you feel secure. If something is wrong he has the tendency to be logical about it and focuses on solving the problem. He isn’t talkative but he is a great listener. He is honest. He initiates intimacy and intercourse is mainly rough and intense. He takes matters in his hands and the full responsibility. He never seeks your approval, but he wants your opinion. Sometimes you feel like you’re dealing with a robot because he doesn’t always speak his mind or doesn’t feel as much as you do.

I went on 3dates with a guy and he was being hot and cold for 2months yet positive and flirty, I discussed what I’m looking for and yet he got distant then finally he told me he missed me and didn’t think I was genuinely interested in him... I clearly had told him we could continue in getting to know each other. So he asked me to show him effort and that he wants to make me happy (something tells me he was buzzed).

He asked me on another date and we went out, he said he wasn’t ready for anything serious and doesn’t want to waste my time but if something builds from it then great. He named all of the qualities he likes from me and shared things he doesn’t like that his ex did.

I felt he was very contradicting because he’s afraid but it can be many things.
Now I don’t know what to do... any advice?

I can’t read this guy I’ve been seeing. His texts are shorter but he still reaches out, randomly told me he missed me, compliments me on pics in social media randomly.

Guys how do you act when a girl is just an option vs when you’re really into her but afraid to show feelings?