For the peeps who may be apart of the lgbt+ and getting ready for the college experience. I think I’m qualified to talk about this since I am a pansexual woman, about to graduate in just a few months.
1. For the most part, no one cares
If you happen to still be in the closet and university is around the corner, do not fret. College is the time to be OUT of that gosh darned closet 😂 It won't even matter if there aren’t a ton of other young adults like you at your school of choice. Why? Because now you’re dealing with actual like-minded adults who are too busy trying to not be broke. Not a lot of people have the free time to be loud n proud bigots. Of course there will be those group of people who are totally against your preference, lifestyle, and/or identity. But I guarantee you 99% of them won’t have the balls to say it to your face. If you want to watch out for the rest of he 1%, you can. But it isn’t necessary.
Now if you just so happen to live in a conservative area or if your school of choice is in a conservative area then...oof. That 99% might drop significantly. But I encourage you to not be discouraged. Let your freak flag fly and do not be afraid to be yourself. You are an adult now. Do you, make your money, get your education and keep it pushing.
2. The bi curious George’s 😐
These people can either be extremely annoying or extremely fun. This depends on you. Are you a gay man or lesbian lady? Or even bisexual? Well congratulations, that easily makes you a target for all the busy bodies who can’t/won’t make up their mind.
Bi curious people in college usually aren’t serious about their “curiosity”. A lot of them just want to dib and dabble for the hell of it, and that’s fine. Just don’t make anyone make you feel like a science experiment. Yes, hookup culture does exist in most schools but at the end of the day every individual has feelings. And maybe your heart is not capable of feeling used, especially when it comes to the amusement of those who don’t take sexual identity seriously.
But like I said, they could be extremely fun as well. Maybe college will be your time to experiment yourself and bi curious people usually come with no strings attached. Most of them end up deciding they are straight anyway.
3. Your choice of voice
University life is sort of notorious for the ongoing protests the students involve themselves in.
I know there are some lgbt+ people who really don’t care about the politics or the “community” aspect that comes with the territory of not being straight. So if you have lgbt friends who want to march or go to pride or whatever kind of big event... you don’t have to join in on all the fuss.
I say this because one of my friends got really hot headed about me not going to last pride parade. Some will feel like if you aren’t full on SJW for Queers, then you’re not really gay/les/trans/non-binary, whatever. Just don’t let anyone pressure you into doing the most when it’s just not in your character. But maybe you do want to do the most and that is fine, but don’t go pressuring others as well.
4. For my trans folks...
Unfortunately, you probably won’t find many people such as yourselves specifically. And I know that for people like you, it can be a lot easier to express yourself when you’re not the only one “out”. Sometimes it really sucks to be a minority.
Yes, the media does normalize and promote the acceptance of minorities (no matter who it is). But don’t get it confused. You’re still a minority.
So you probably won’t get to connect with other tans people in college, but what you can do (if it matters to you that much) is try to find drag shows around/near your area. Yes, for the most part it’s filled with gays. But there are also trans people there. If if you cannot find that environment then I encourage you to either embrace the rest of the lgbt+ community or find an online group for trans folks.
I love you ❤️ and I don’t want you to feel lonely when you don’t have to. Because when you haven’t 100% transitioned, I know it can be really hard to find your crowd.
And not every trans person is going to have a lonely experience, so hopefully that won’t be you. However you should mentally prepare yourself for the negative reality you may face as you become a trans adult.
5. Semi-Serious relationships
Now this last one is for my females who swing on both sides...if you date a guy who KNOWS you are bi/pan, do not be surprised if he asks you for a threesome.
Why am I calling this a semi serious relationship?
Well, because not a lot of people in college want long term deals. But the many who try will still have sneaky ways to dib and dabble, you know 😏
6. Yes, the DEVILS TANGO!
Be safe. Be responsible with your own body. Get checked regularly and REQUIRE your partners to get checked as well. Look at them document👀
It better say “clean” or “negative” or any other word that means they ain’t got nothing nasty.
Everyone should be safe yes but we all know hat gay men in particular have the highest std rates...unfortunately.
Aside from all that, roofies and date rape and all that stuff is real so be extra careful at parties. And sometimes you being open and out of the closet can make you a target for the creeps in the world. Bring a water bottle, and drink with a foil cover and a straw to limit the possibility of someone spiking your water. If you wanna get lit, fine, but please pour your own drink!!!
That is all. I love you, lovelies 💕 Thanks for reading!