When you feel someone is the right for you - you most likely start falling in love. Sometimes this happens with the completely wrong person, maybe they played some game with you, lied or then you lied to yourself. However, I think people can not fall for the right person and then understand the timing is wrong or whatever. No, then the person just is wrong. They were not ready to make the time right for you. Or maybe you were not ready for that?
If in reality you can fall for the wrong person so much, imagine how it will feel with the right one. Do you believe there is a person for you? Maybe you should. Every one of us can find someone, who fits perfectly with us. Of course people need to make compromises and not every little detail goes right, but there is someone out there that can stand you and who you can stand... and love.
When you believe there is someone out there and do not go looking for them but trust that they will come when the time is right, you have found the key. This is the key of happiness. You will not be stuck on the old relationships and the need to be loved.
One story as an example:
I recently met this guy, who right from the start laid eyes on me. He seemed to see magic in me. I liked how he smiled at me and how he was not afraid to show he liked me. This guy was my friends friend and I actually trusted him too much just because of this fact. He was not perfect but he tried to be for me. It was so impressive to see how much he tried for me. This guy almost literally went to lie down in a puddle, so I could step on him. Well, he saved me in many situations and was ready to tell everyone he was ready to defend me if someone tried to say something to me.
In a very short time I understood I was crazy about this man, who was not the kind of guy I usually fall for. Despite that he seemed too good to be true. We shared similar interests and enjoyed each others company even in silence. He had similar thoughts in ethical questions and he was always there for me. Sometimes it seemed like he was maybe a little too clingy, but he was able to balance that too so that it did not go over the boards.
After we had spent a few weekends together twenty-for-seven, he even planned our future together, which was actually a little alarming. He then started to drift away a little, not much though. He still kept contacting me and sending me hearts and being all cute, but there was a clear difference. I felt like he would not walk through fire with me anymore. From time to time he would actually hurt my feelings by saying something weird, like "Oh, I came here for nothing now that I realized the event was on another day! Fuck!". I was swallowing my pride and told him I was hurt. He backed up.
After a week of silence I thought I had said something wrong, maybe showed too much emotions. I thought I was horribly clingy because I revealed to him I was hurt of what he said. I was in a very stressful situation in my life over all, so I cried a lot. I put the blame on myself. After all this I really can not explain why I took it so hard on myself. My life felt upside down and I even blamed myself for even trusting that guy in the first place.
What to learn?
If you have got your heart broken, it is best to understand that there was something wrong and your love was not wrong. You can always find something to learn, maybe it is nothing big. Often it is something bigger we learn, we just do not understand it in the moment when we feel all sad and disappointed.
You will see that you need your friends. Sometimes we do almost forget them, when we are head over heels for someone. It is good to remember that we need our friends and should keep the contact. We also need to remember, that no one is perfect. If a person seems too perfect, they are most likely not sincere. Remember also the things you first noticed in them, not only the good ones. Even you make mistakes and they might be easily made. Words, they hurt, they are powerful. This is something you most likely will learn very vividly. You learn something about yourself or maybe just see that you need to focus on yourself. The process to get over a person can not be made faster, you just need to accept it. Focus on what makes you feel better, not what might numb away the feelings and end up with a worse feeling.
What I think is most important of the things we learn is, that we are going to be okay after all. We are strong enough to stand alone. In the end we do not need someone else, we just fool ourselves to think so. Life is better shared, but does it have to be a perfect match or is our friends and family maybe enough for the moment?