Have you ever let your guard down for the wrong person?

[DishLady]

Have you ever tried to share and show kindness to someone who is hellbent on kicking you in the teeth?

[Anonymous]

Yes
I liked a girl that wanted to be in a non monogamous relationship and I was not into that
We stayed friends (Big mistake )
every time I decide to move on she comes with a story about how she was hurt and how much she is vulnerable and how much she trusts me
She had sex with 4 guys I know and specifically told them not to tell me anything

She had no problem ending things with other people and push them away but she always told me how important I am to her


When I started dating a girl and it was getting serious she invited me to her place , complained about how people treat her acted very vulnerable and we kissed
then said this was a mistake
then she said she will drop all the non monogamy ideas if we can date
She I stopped dating the other girl


2 weeks after dating, she tried to fuck one of my friends 1 day before going abroad
He rejected her and told me


I confronted her on text
She said we were not a couple
And she could do whatever she wants
And that she never liked me and I was the one who was chasing her


It has been months and I still have not fully recovered
How can someone that I cared about that much not care about me at all
Next time , I am not trying to save anyone. they don’t need saving

[Opinion Owner]

I also leaned
I should have more self respect

[HawkPerception]

I won't go into the details of it, but yes... once. There was a girl that I actually read entirely wrong (first time I've been wrong about someone in my life that I can remember). I saw her for 2 weeks. After she stopped seeing me, I didn't think anything of it, but she turned a complete 180 on me and I can honestly say if demons do exist, that girl might have been possessed by one. Even long after we stopped seeing each other, she contacted my most current ex many times with different numbers explaining some very graphic things and threatening her as well as me with some stuff, trying to get her to break up with me. She even used an app to fake a message from me to her and make my ex jealous and break up with me. My ex was smart enough to realize even without me telling her that it was an app, but it definitely shook her.

Getting involved with her was one of the biggest regrets of my whole life.

[DishLady]

My goodness! Total psycho! Sorry you went through that!

[HawkPerception]

Yeah the real psychos are the ones that can fake their personalities to that extent. My first time encountering one of that caliber. I feel I got Ted Bundy'd a bit 😅

[7Phoenix7]

Yep, when I was younger and more naive. I had some friends that I decided to trust, and they totally let me down. And I had trust issues for while afterwards.

[elizamichale1]

I think we have all been there one way or another

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for the mho honey

[OlderAndWiser]

Oh, yes, in a story that I am too embarrassed to repeat.

[MicahRaine]

No, I haven't. I think of letting my guard down as telling someone about my struggles in life.

I have, however, shown kindness to people who want to destroy me. Sometimes I have a hard time being "cold" or "mean" on real life. I'm just naturally more inclined towards kindness.

[DishLady]

It's not so much about being kind to others, but about whether you let the wrong person into your life... too close when they don't deserve that space in your inner circle.

[MicahRaine]

Ah gotcha. Yeah, I did make that mistake once and right now I'm digging myself out of that hole. It was for family 🙄

[DishLady]

Hmm. Yeah, that's a very common one.

[MicahRaine]

Oh well 😂

[Yannae]

It happened before where I told her something in confidence and then she told it people anyway. But she does gossip and ends things with "you don't know this from me" or "I didn't tell you this" so I should have known better. They care about you but you can't trust them with everything.

[Mark987]

Yup... it was my second girlfriend.. she ended up cheating on me with my friend.

[DishLady]

Sorry to hear that. :(

[Mark987]

Ya it happens.. gotta learn from it

[RetroReviews]

I sure have when you get burned it makes you put walls up

[Anonymous]

Yes, but even if it feels like people are using me, I'll still be nice to them

[BCRanger10]

Yes, several times in the past.

[thegreenyogi]

Yes unfortunately I did.

[exitseven]

No, I never let my guard down.

[legalboxers]

too many times

[katiesmuff]

Yes I did!

[Unknown_Stranger_0]

Yes now I’m in threapy💔💔💔

[justme444]

Yes my child's father. And I do regret it.

[eagle1951]

yes twice