Mistakes That Can Ruin Your Relationship

[Anonymous]

It’s clearly not easy being in a relationship today. So many things come in the way, be it your professional life, other personal commitments, expectations, demands, lack of understanding and so on. Here are a few things you should watch out for in your relationship.

Workaholic Nature

If you are too involved in your own life and career then it’s best to part ways. You don’t need to push away your professional or family commitments for anyone but at the same time you have to take out time for your partner. Maintaining the balance between your other commitments and your love life is needed.

Taking Each Other for Granted

It’s true that time changes things, hope not for the worse. Respecting each other’s views, decisions and personality as a whole are very crucial for any successful relationship. Snapping at each other in public, insulting in front of friends, abusing, yelling or laughing off each other’s views, or even keeping each other waiting, are no signs of a healthy relationship.

Unrealistic Expectations

As time passes by, both of you may start expecting way too much out of each other be it the amount of time you need to spend together or making sacrifices for each other. And if these aren’t fulfilled, you may end up feeling disheartened. Instead, take each day as it comes and if you feel things aren’t moving the right way then have a chat about it like adults

No Time for Sex

Believe it or not, if both of you haven’t had time for some steamy lovemaking, you might just lose interest in each other. Or if it’s not as good as it used to be, then you know something is definitely off. However, work this out. Spend more time with each other. Share what you’d like in bed to spice things up

Not Giving Each Other Space

Constant calls, messages or even turning up randomly at your partner’s workplace or home can get more annoying than you may think. This may also dwell from a bigger problem – trust issues! You shouldn’t be justifying yourself on where you were and what you were doing, often. Balancing is key.

Suspicion or Lack of Trust

If you are insecure of your partner and have your eyes on them at all times, then you should stop! Suspecting your partner of cheating, could be a root cause of a list of other problems like, trust issues, lying and may even lead to hiding things from each other

My Way or The Highway

You can’t be stubborn and do things your way all the time. The point of a relationship is that both of you are meant to co-exist happily. You can’t have one person giving in to save the relationship because once that stops, the relationship is going nowhere. Understand each other, adjust for each other’s interests and manage things pleasantly to keep a relationship going strong

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm definitely a workaholic. I don't like to take anyone for granted though. However, I've been taken for granted many times. Having a chat about it like adults is usually what kills the relationship. I find out how much she is still mentally a child rather quickly on this stage. Without common faith, there is no real foundation. Sex is a lousy substitute for that. With time and age, sex will always get worse regardless. I give plenty of space. But if I see a persistent lack of effort for weeks on end, then I do get concerned.

If a repeated sense of something being off occurs, I may begin verifying her stories. And if I catch her in a lie repeatedly and she's never sorry, that's a red flag.

She's usually the one guilty of "My way or the highway." But after the other things I mention above, the highway begins sounding better all the time.

Until I can find a woman who is not like this, I guess I'm better off single - miserable as that feels.

[natured]

I do agree with all of this, there is a limit in everything though, not being sexual for a week or maximum two does not mean there is no interest and that it will get lost, because sometimes relationships are spiced up by just flirting hugging and kissing passionately, sex plays an important role, but too much sex can cause boredom as well.

[TheGreatShepherd]

Taking for granted is the one for me, I do it so much... Its the worse one in my opinion because when you break up because of it, its not because you weren't right for eachother, or there's a big problem to over come... You were just a bloody idiot XD

[Kristie12]

I agree with the space part! Also, lack of respect is definetely a killer.

[Bitterpill]

Sensible advice :)