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Here is my first post

I got a lot of different replies so i did a poll.

Basically he is everything I've ever wanted but he's very close to his best friend. She has an amazing body angelic face and great personality. She makes me insecure.

1. Before we started going out she basically lived with him. They both have there own penthouses but she would cuddle with him in bed while wearing his shirt every night (They stopped this after we stated going out)

2. He greets her by calling her Babygirl, Kitten, Princess while back hugging her. He gives her piggyback rides and randomly picks her up sometimes.

3. When he is drunk she is usually all he talks about or he call/text her

4. When he goes back home to visit his parents she comes along. She is basically a part of his family

5. He has her period schedule on his calendar. He says he keeps track for her because she always forgets to write it on her calendar. He also does it so he can prepare snacks and ice cream, movies to watch, and music to listen to. He makes sure she has pads and tampons and if she has run out he will buy some for her. He is really organized and she is kind of go with the flow and doesn’t prepare for things, so he does it for her. He sometimes even builds a blanket fort for them to watch movies. He does all of this to distract her from the pain. When it’s really bad he plays with her hair and sings her to sleep. He also buys her “period prizes”. Apparently her mother used to buy her gifts when she wasn’t feeling good, so he took over and started buying her a present whenever she doesn’t feel good.)

6. I walked in on him moaning and her straddling his bare back as she massaged him in his bed. (She saw me and offered to do me next)

7. He has also canceled some of our dates when she wasn’t feeling well or was upset. She never asks him to do anything for her but he always runs. And he will do literally anything to put a smile on her face when she is upset, no matter how stupid it makes him look.

I wouldn’t snoop through my boyfriend’s phone without his permission. But I honestly feel like I can’t believe what he says because he’s lied to me and broke my trust. He’s recently started talking to a girl he slept with while were on a break, she doesn’t even qualify as an ex. He never wanted to date her and he made that clear. Yet she wanted a relationship with him and was very childish when she found out we were getting back together. I don’t mind if they’re just civil friends, but it does make me uncomfortable to think of them being too close and I don’t believe that’s just jealousy and insecurity talking. I believe if he’s in a committed relationship with me, there should be boundaries between them.

I asked him some time ago if they were talking again, and he lied to me. Then a week later I brought it up saying how uncomfortable it made me felt, and that’s when he decided to tell me. I was hurt. I have been cheated on before, and my ex used text to cheat. So I do have trust issues, but at the same time my current boyfriend is displaying the same behavior my ex did when he started cheating on me and I just can’t ignore it.

I asked if he could show me the texts to clarify there’s nothing going on, and he told me it was an invasion of privacy. But he broke my trust and our relationship is on the fence now. So he told me he’d think about it. I’m so confused, if he has nothing to hide then why would he not want to just show me and things could get back on track. But if he chooses to keep hiding things from me then obviously this relationship isn’t going anywhere.

So is it really controlling of me to ask for the texts? If so, what are some other options for us to work through this?