This chick broke us up for her self ego and my ex boyfriend has no idea? Will he ever realise his mistake?

[Gabrielle9823]

So I dated this guy for 7-8 months and he really persuaded me to be with him for quite some time before. This other chick who has a track record of being a player (I don’t think he knows) was texting and talking to him, hanging out and also making sure he wasn’t giving attention to any other girls but also telling him she’s not interested in dating. He Wanted to date her but she stopped talking to him and asked him to move on. Once he did move in with me, she came right back into texting him and getting him to meet up with her. We are polar opposites in the sense she’s a huge extrovert and has a habit of crying about all her problems to one guy making him feel special and repeating it with others. She obviously couldn’t handle the fact that he moved on and kept texting him everyday. There was a point I was angry but trusted him and didn’t want to come off as controlling. We were still getting to know eachother and me being shy takes a while for me to open up (I mentioned this to him ). It was going well until he stopped talking to me as much and just when I was warming up to him and opening up more. I was going to leave to college and we talked about it and ok with ldr. The week before I left he told me he couldn’t be with me anymore but lied about the reason. I found out through mutuals friends and confronted him but realised I had to move on and told him we should never have dated and it’s over. A week after I left I see she calls him to her party ( she didn’t even care about him until I dated him). I didn’t know her true nature until recently, a few months after we broke up. She has no intentions of being with him other than getting attention. She makes sure he follows her around while also saying she won’t date him and tells everyone how he won’t leave her alone. I feel bad for him but also myself over the fact that I cried sooo much cause of this chick. I found out he blocked her recently and hopefully knows the truth. It’s either that or he loves her.

[iseekpinetrees]

Sounds like u were the rebound chick. He must of actually wanted her but settled for you and once an opportunity for her came he jumped on it. So I'd say you didn't lose anything. He wouldn't of been much of a boyfriend to you when someone else was clearly a better catch to him. You sound like your more self aware than him so its more his loss not yours.

[Gabrielle9823]

Ya that sounds right. I can’t believe he lied to me saying I was no rebound and it wasn’t like that. He probably wasn’t aware of the fact and just realised it later on? I did forgive him and told him we shouldn’t have dated along with telling him I shouldn’t have come midway. I don’t talk to him tho he’s on my insta which is true but that’s that. Also this chick all of a sudden started acting super nice to me. I played along to find out stuff and oh boy I found out a lot. Can’t believe people like this exist just to break others up for ego.

[iseekpinetrees]

Yea I had someone do that with an ex also. Made me laugh because I was like dude if u can't see how much better I am than her your just dumb af n not worth my time.

[Gabrielle9823]

Surprising to know how common this is. Boys really are dumb.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

It’s unusual how some things work out & maybe this was meant to happen & she was meant to break you two up. Move forward, you can do better.

[Gabrielle9823]

Ya I agree. Maybe this was meant to end and teach me how immature and indecisive some people can be no matter how understanding and forgiving others are. I’m happy to move on knowing I didn’t lose anything worth saving.

[boggboss]

Probably not as he still decided to break up with u himself at that point if it was bot her it could have been anyone

[Gabrielle9823]

What do you mean? He told all his friends that he couldn’t stop thinking about her after she was texting him the way she was.

[boggboss]

Which means again if he didn't leave u for her he could have left u for anyone he was not committed

[Gabrielle9823]

Well then why did he persuade me for a year and a half before that. Trying super hard to get me to talk? He really really tried hard and asked all my friends about me. Would you say all of that was just some chase thing?

[boggboss]

Clearly it was as he wouldn't have simply ended things if he cared for u

[Gabrielle9823]

I don’t agree with the part where you said he might not have been committed or left for another girl. He was confused and immature considering age and also long distance. There are many people who take the wrong decisions to later realise. my gut says he did love me at one point but later really wanted out to be with this girl, her talk definitely infatuated this boy. But I do agree with he wouldn’t have ended it if he cared enough. This actually made me think a bit and made me realise I would never want to be with someone who wouldn’t give me time and appreciate what they had. So thank you

[boggboss]

The issue I have is that your blame falls on the girl more then the guy what u need to understand is she owes u no loyalty your partner does if he allows himself to fall for another girl then he is the one in the wrong

[Gabrielle9823]

I do agree with that. That’s exactly why I didn’t go after her once it ended. The majority of the blame would definitely fall on him in respect to what happened to me. Her talking that was opened my eyes and showed me the kind of guy I was dating. He didn’t even deal with the breakup maturely. Shows our relationships wouldn’t have lasted with someone who lies so much. It’s hard when emotions are involved cause I actually liked this guy and so knowing someone sabotaged it kind of hurts and makes you think if he knows what he’s putting himself through. I get why the post must have come out insensitive but these things are super complicated.

[boggboss]

No I completely get that

[Iron_Man]

I’m not sure how long is it been now

[Gabrielle9823]

It’s been a year

[Iron_Man]

Well if you’re not talking to him how are you going to find out

[Gabrielle9823]

He does text me once in a while asking how I am but it’s very hard for me to continue any conversation keeping in mind what happened. He once left me on seen after talking for a while. I don’t know what’s going on in his head. But don’t you think he should come forward if he has anything? There is also this other guy who likes me and is in the same circle as him. We have gotten close but not dating. Maybe that’s playing a role too? My ex supposedly talks to this guy a lot now after he found out about us talking.

[Iron_Man]

Ask the guy does he have anything to say about that and then start dating the older guy

[TheFlak38]

what a shit show :D

[Gabrielle9823]

I really do need to stop caring don’t I 😬