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Ok, so we have farm girl Dorothy Gale and then we have "proper" British girl Alice Liddell. One rolled around in a field of poppies. One indulged in Amanita muscaria. They both proceeded on journeys of self-discovery.

The following summary was entirely worded up by AI:

Dorothy’s discovery: What you need is already within you

Dorothy travels to Oz believing happiness lies somewhere else—“over the rainbow.” By the end, she learns:

Home isn’t just a place; it’s belonging, love, and self-acceptance.

Power was largely an illusion.

Deeper meaning:
Dorothy discovers that external authorities and magical solutions are often false. Growth comes from recognizing the value and strength you already possess. Oz is a lesson in self-reliance and emotional maturity.

Alice’s discovery: The instability of identity and logic

Alice’s journey is less about arriving somewhere and more about questioning everything:

Language doesn’t mean what she expects.

Rules change constantly.

Adults and authority figures are irrational or arbitrary.

Her own size and identity are unstable (“Who in the world am I?”).

Deeper meaning:
Alice discovers that the world—especially the adult world—is often nonsensical, and that logic, identity, and social rules are constructed rather than fixed. Her growth comes from learning to navigate ambiguity without losing herself.

The key difference

Dorothy learns a comforting truth: the world makes sense if you trust yourself.

Alice learns a challenging truth: the world doesn’t make sense, and that’s something you must learn to live with.

Shared revelation

Both stories suggest that childhood journeys into fantasy are really psychological awakenings:

You cannot rely blindly on authority.

Meaning is not handed to you.

Growing up involves learning how to interpret reality on your own terms.

In short:
Dorothy discovers inner wholeness.
Alice discovers existential uncertainty.

Which finally brings me to my question of the day, Who had the biggest trip?

I’m possibly moving to another country to make my family with someone from that other country.

I don’t know the language I just know some words. So i told him that while he’s at work, I’m gonna be going to school to learn his language

he quickly said no!
I thought he was joking so I laughed

he said no.
Because I could meet someone there better than him & leave him.

that never crossed my mind. I’m going there to make a family not to try to find someone else. I’m 39 years old. I can’t be wasting time. I look really young but I’m not young. If I were younger then I would understand him, but I just want to make a family.

he said I should find something to do in his flat while he returns from work. Also that I should not work because I have to raise our kids.

I agree with him mostly as I don’t trust random babysitters but I want to go to school at least for learning the language and to the gym to stay fit but after he said this I didn’t even mention the gym anymore

I’ve been single almost my whole life. I don’t really find anyone attractive around me and I almost never go out so nobody approaches me. I feel he is my only chance If I even want to try to have a family.

BUT does what he said sound Scary? Creepy?
I also notice one of the doors in the videos and photos he’s sent me, has multiple locks on it. I asked why so many locks on a door, it seems rather creepy. And he was insulted by it saying I think he’s a serial killer. I didn’t say that. But it did cross my mind.

if I don’t go to him, the chances of me finding someone fast and telling him I need to make babies asap! Is very low probably less than 1% most men would flee at the sound of me saying any of that. They would want to get to know me first and then see how it goes etc etc

don’t really have time for that. I need to make a baby asap.

so having said all that,

what would you do if you were me? After what he said. Is it very weird or just a little?