Are you willing to subscribe to another person's way of life?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I see a lot of people on social media saying "who cares what a man/women wants what do you want?"

I think this isn't a healthy thought exercise but it can be toxic if it turns into being self absorbed.

I have kinda adopted this idea that we all spend our lives learning what works for us. But we're not perfect or good at everything. That's a lot of the value of a partner.

For example, one of my ex's got out of working shitty jobs because she trusted me enough to show her a different mentality. And she helped me become less stubborn about certain things.

So it's still a give and take kind of thing but I'm curious what people have to say about it

[OlderAndWiser]

My wife is Chinese-American and there are many times when our cultural differences are magnified. I COULD say, "Well, we're living in the US, so you must do everything my way," but that would not be a loving response, it would be cold, and it would ot help us to stay together. I compromise on many of those differences because, beneath all the differences is the best woman I have ever known.

[MrChinaski]

A healthy relationship sees people grow and develop together and you end up more like each other than you started. I wouldn't use the word 'subscribe'. I think of it as knowing what your core values and being able to think openly about pros and cons of changing values that may be mainly what you grew up with, what you think other people do or want of you, what you are comfortable, what at one time did work for you but now is of much more marginal and you keep doing it from habit and comfort. So, no, not subscribe. Being open to exploring growing some (but not all) values away from where you started is important. I mean, a large purpose of bothering to have a relationship is to learn from someone else, have things challenged and respond in a healthy way.

I dunno. I don't feel like I'm writing well today. Maybe that doesn't make sense.

[UrLoveMocha]

not completely, I would only take the parts that work for me.

[AI Opinion]

Alignment! That's the secret sauce in relationships. It's a dance, a tango of give and take. You're right; being too self-absorbed can lead to a one-way street of "my way or the highway." But subscribing to another person's lifestyle can open doors to new worlds and mindsets. It’s about growing and evolving together. When two people align and learn from each other, it's absolute magic, 😍 and the chemistry becomes electric. Keep it balanced, and you’ll find the sweet spot where love grows! 💖

[slatyb]

I don't know. How much does a subscription cost?