Do guys usually come back after a break up?

[Lisia]

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9 mo

Talking long term relationships by the way where the ex was loving etc

[NathanDavis]

that can really depend on a few different factors...

how long did the relationship last, was it new? were they together for a good, or longer time?

also, how good or how troubled the relationship was... on and off? one big trouble got in the way? how much tension and trouble was there... where they really good for each other? or did they tested each other's patience

what kind of relationship they had? a very emotional and intimate one? more on the physical and casual side

and also... what were their intentions at first, during the relationship... or by the end of it?

one thing you often hear... is that the guy wants to get back just for the sex, or the good part with no trouble, which for most men... is the sex

and sometimes, in a more toxic relationships, well... the guy would want to come back to do a bit more of that, damage...

there's also times, in which a guy genuinely regrets what happened and wants to try do better or different/better this one time

[Kaneki05]

If someone loves you the only reason things would end is because you did something horribly wrong like cheating, or he cheated but then that would prove he didn't love you so...
As when you know you love said person I don't think there is any small issue that would end it. So whatever it was, it was bad therefore no I don't think one would come back after that and if they did it would be a mistake.

Would be different if he didn't know how much he loved you until time away but your saying it as if he did yet something caused the break up anyway which yeah must've been bad.

[Laciejordan]

There are a lot of variables that come into play. My personal history is the guy will usually reach out to at least see where the relationship stands, especially if it's the first break up between the two of us. It also matters why we ended it and who ended it. I've never been cheated on nor have I cheated on someone but to me, that would end it permanently. I have a friend that breaks up weekly with her boyfriend but she always takes him back, that isn't healthy in my opinion.

[avery58]

I heard that most guys come back after some time but when a girl leaves she usually leaves forever. Reason being because guys are supposedly faster to leave a relationship when they're upset but then cool down, while as women usually stay longer and emotionally checkout before they leave.

That's for a relationship though, in marriage women are faster to divorce than men.

And another thing is that if a girl cheats, the vast majority of guys will never go back to her.

[DishLady]

What do you mean? Will they chase you? Probably not. Should you chase them? Probably not. An ex is an ex for a reason.

[7Phoenix7]

Near the end, we left and came back to each other many times lol. But my situation is very different than the norm.

But sometimes they do come back, hoping to get you back. And it's always up to you to decide what you want for yourself.

Glad to see you back 🙃

[Cutegirl06]

Sometimes they do. How long has he been gone? I'm sorry he broke up with you. I wouldn't chase after him, I mean if he broke up with you then you deserve better! From interacting with you on here you seem like a very caring person and deserve better. If you ever want to chat with me feel free. I'm always here for my friends ❤️

[bobalife]

From my experience, yeah. They usually remember how good & loving I was to them, so they would try again. But honestly, it’s abit tricky, usually this means they realized what they had, still think the person, and wanna fix why it didn’t work out before or no one else wants them lol. It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth trying again, goodluck 🫶🏻

[RebelinSteel]

They can, I’ve been tempted in the past, however we agreed it was the best to not get back together. There does need to be a want from both sides, as it needs both sides to make it work again. Also the reasons for the breakup cannot be a big one. Yeah some get back together but it takes work and commitment.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Personally I try not looking back cause if it didn't work once I don't see why I'd waste time trying to make it work a second time but it's possible on some occasions to maybe learn from mistakes and not make the same mistakes again but it depends on not only that but on the spark and it depends on what the issue is normally as well, it depends on both people's maturities and it depends if they are willing to make changes in the parts that were faulty that collapsed the relationship.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s possible. Typically only when it was the guy that initiated it.




In my case it’s flipped, my last ex (despite now being a mother and in a toxic relationship with the kid’s dad) keeps trying to meet up with me. But I blow her off, I’ll be nice to her, give her advice in sticky situations. But I’ll never meet with her, she doesn’t deserve that from me anymore.

[PatKirby]

Speaking for myself, nope. I break up with them for a reason. Adiós muchacha, don't come back.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Me personally? I make it clear before any breakup that once it's done that's it, so to be certain before calling an end to it..

I would never go back!

[sawno]

Depends entirely on why the breakup happened, if its on bad terms and he blames you chances are he won't come back. If it was on good terms he might come back.

[OfMiceandMen]

I know I don't. Usually, the break-up happens for a reason that cannot be fixed, so why come back around and try again?

[Ms_Facesitter]

If they believe you're worth coming back to, they might. I can't say about "usually" because every person is different, reason for breakup is different.

[genericname85]

no i wouldn't say "usually". it's a phenomenon that isn't rare. but it's not a good sign at all. if you're at the point of breakup, you should not keep wasting time with that person.

[scooogy]

I told her right after she quit that she could come back as soon as she felt like it. Turned out as a huge mistake since it wasn't only once, and never for long. About 4 years later she ended up as an alcoholic sex addict.

[Matadorius]

Well i think it depends on his emotions and his love for you. Sometimes how you break up can be effective in making this decision for him. Like if you broke up with fighting and swearing at each other, he may not even want to see your face again.

[molonski2]

Possible , but I would say most will not come back - some will , circumstance dependent.

[LaurenM1997]

If you guys can work things out and there was no cheating involved or anything like that then I don’t see why not

[JonCobretti]

Only if

1) He was in the wrong and he realized

2) You were in the wrong and he has 0 self respect/dignity

[PeachyPie93]

I'm not sure, sometimes they do and sometimes they are completely finished with you.

[RHK36]

Yeah for sex at minimum. And unless that person has shown growth you should never entertain the idea of trying again. It would be pointless.

[MikeTheBartender]

I don't think so. I definitely don't. Maybe in smaller towns where there's less options.

[Friendlybro79]

We're all different so it's hard to say more than I'm sure some do.

[12karen]

No, I usually don't. Bc for me once it ends it's bc I couldn't handle him anymore

[Still-alive]

Heyy you're back!

And sometimes but you should try to focus on yourself more.

[Nifrayu]

My ex and I spit up and got back together many times. I don't recommend it.

[TonyMetal___86]

It depends, some yes and some no, also or depends on the situation!

[justabuddy]

Sometimes a guy can realize what he had. But honestly, most of the time s breakup happens for a reason and that reason keeps coming back.

[Anonymous]

Speaking for myself, I always come back... I just that kind of person

But I guess everyone is different

Are you after a break up? Sorry to hear that.

[Bklynbadboy12]

If your a good woman they do and if he doesn't his loss right

[Tuti-iMucize]

If they can't find a new lover, they usually come back.

[MisterWack]

Not me, we breakup we done.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

They always come back.

[exitseven]

Nope, they would never see me again,

[Nikki1989]

Most at least try.

[bowenw]

I never have and I've had a few.

[loveslongnails]

Not at your age.

[pass_the_celery98]

Wow you’re back after months, that’s crazy

[nawtee_me]

Not usually, onc it is over it is over

[ChefPapiChulo]

Did you break up with your boyfriend?

[Tomisworthless]

Only if they couldnt find another partner.

[Pterodon]

Only for sex imho

[eagle1951]

no way in hell

[dudeinohio]

Nope, they move on

[Iron_Man]

Yes they do

[TallAnon]

Only for sex

[Heydrich]

Depends guy.

[glaberizm]

yes if he regret it

[Anonymous]

No...