Did she say this to provoke the argument further?

[Anonymous]

So this relationship was 2 years I poured my heart and soul into it I was not only there for her but her sister as well. This girl was both physically abusive and verbally abusive the day she went home and called her mom breaking up with me she was being abusive towards me. She was bullying me in my car and I pulled over and told her to get out because she wouldn’t stop. She went home and called her mom saying she couldn’t be with a man who kicks her out of their car. I also want to mention how when we were riding In her car she did the same thing and I in the same way politely asked her to stop and she goes no you can get out of the car and had it stopped in the middle of a business 4 way road and I responded I can’t because if I get out I will get killed. A few days after the breakup I felt like a complete fool for giving 2 years of my life to this girl for it to end like this and I directly asked her why I didn’t gain anything from this relationship except a new layer of trauma and trust issues that honestly could hinder me from dating other girls and she goes you got your dick sucked and i honestly had to walk away because that’s the only thing she can say that she provided in the relationship. I’ll be honest even there it wasn’t equal often times she wanted pleased but didn’t want to on me

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[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's just messed up how she treated you. No one has the right to put their hands on someone else or bully them like that, girl or not. You didn't deserve to be her punching bag for 2 whole years only for her to break up with you in such a cold way. I can't believe she actually had the nerve to say all you got out of the relationship was your dick sucked - like that's all that matters! She was clearly just trying to hurt you after you called her abusive behavior out. Don't let what she said get in your head though, bro. You seem like a nice dude who cared about her a lot more than she cared about you. It's gonna suck for a while since you invested so much time into someone who turned out to be so cruel, but don't lose hope that there are better girls out there who will treat you with respect. Try to keep busy with the homies, play some video games, work out - anything to keep your mind off her for a bit until the pain starts fading. You deserve way better than how she treated you, and now you got a lesson learned for future relationships on what red flags to look out for. I know it's rough now but you'll get through this and come out stronger!

[Asker]

It’s not her that I’m hung up on I’m hung up on how everyone around who seen it going on didn’t really seem to care and enabled her doing it even going so far as to blame me. Like in what world am I causing her to hit me that’s what stuck with me when I would tell her family they would downplay it

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that makes it even worse that her family and friends kinda enabled her behavior and blamed you too. Like it's never okay to put your hands on someone, no matter what. How could they downplay her actually hitting you like that's no big deal? That's so messed up.

I get why that part would stick with you more than her herself at this point. Feeling like no one had your back in that situation and seeing them side with her must have felt really crappy. You didn't deserve to be treated like that was normal or your fault somehow. Sometimes it's the people closest who should step in and call that stuff out the most, you know? Not just brush it off.

It really sucks when toxic people get away with that kind of abusive crap because the people around them refuse to hold them accountable. But at least now you know not to waste any more time worrying about what those enabling people might think either. As long as you know the truth about what really went down, that's all that matters. They're the ones with the issues for thinking it's okay. You did the right thing removing yourself from all that abusive BS.

[CuriousHubby]

Yes girls say things to make the fight worse for fun.

You got mentally and physically abused block her mourn the relationship and move on and look for someone worth your time!

Takes a lot of effort

[Asker]

Yeah the part that screws with me is 2 years that’s so much lost time you can’t get back

[CuriousHubby]

Nope it's sad 😢
During that time no one but you can realize how much she is using you!
Those rose colored glasses!

Did she use you for sex too or did you not get any unless she wanted