Do guys like tomboys?

Question

Since I've been at college no guy has come up to me. When I talk to guys they automatically think I'm hitting on them because I ask them to hang out. Some guys even find me intimidating. I'm not ugly or scary looking, but I'm definitely not like the girls at my college. Most of them have long hair and kill their faces with makeup. I have giant scares on my legs from football and soccer games and I am almost always in ripped jeans and a sweater. I don't get why I'm not approachable.

FractalRabbit · Accepted Answer

You are fine. There is a guy that likes every type of girl. There are guys that like all girls.
If you are surrounded by Barbies, don't think there is something wrong with you. You sound awesome and set apart. A strong, confident woman that's comfortable in her own skin is far more attractive than one that is trying to look like everyone else.
The age you are, there are a lot of guys that are just horn-dogs and looking to lay as many girls as possible. You'll find someone worthwhile… until then, don't sweat it and don't settle for less.
Continue to be your kick-arse self… Go enjoy your hobbies and your studies. More than likely, there is already someone around you that likes you a lot, they just haven't said anything.

madpete1111 · Accepted Answer

No. Guys don't like tom boys. The Girlier the better. I'm sorry but you've been misled by the timeless lie - I want a girl that's like one of the guys. No guy wants that. I don't know who came up with that or why. Hope that helps

lemonlimetime · Accepted Answer

Well, I'm not exactly a big tomboy, but I am somewhat familiar with how men think considering that consists of 79% of my family and friends. Anyways it really depends on the guy. I know my guy cousin who's more like my brother really, he loves tomboys and isn't a fan of the prissy makeupy ones. Now my brother is into the girls who dress up and crap. So yeah. Here's one thing I learned though-you don't have to look like you're going to get married, but at least look a little tidy. You know maybe brush your hair, wash your face, put on casual clothes. That's just my opinion, but like I said I ain't a guy so I ain't exactly a pro in this field.

MrsPacquiao · Accepted Answer

Yes.
I my self am a tomboy.
Get approached a lot. Just depends some dude told me they were scared to approach me cause I'd be aggressive and I am haha butt it just depends I smile a lot not with girls though only if we friends. put your hair down it could be that believe it nor guys will think if you have short your automatically a lesbian stupid sense but its men sense. But whatever a lot of guys prefer tomboys :)

lanagirl · Accepted Answer

I'd think you'd be more approachable as a tomboy. If guys think you're intimidating maybe it's more of a vibe you give off as opposed to a certain style of dress. I know most of the time I look pissed off when I'm really not lol. I'd just try and give off a friendlier vibe. It can't hurt.

StopLookingAtMe · Answer

It sounds to me like you simply haven't met someone who's interested in what you love, nor in supporting it.
Don't change who you are, because you'll never be happy, and you won't find someone who shares what you enjoy. Instead, you might find other people or groups who enjoy what you're doing, and they might be able to bring you to the people you need to meet: accepting people who not only won't judge you, but who will embrace you.
As for people who shy away from you: They sound like cowards who assume your intent. Are they worth over-thinking about?

PhoenixItalian · Answer

I like tomboys but not fake tomboys.
If I can say let's go and I don't have to wait for you to change shoes 5 fucking times instead of getting ready, that's a plus. But not knowing how to put on a dress and be feminine is not attractive. That's like me not knowing how to tie a tie. Doesn't mean I have to wear one every time but capabilities are the important factor, in many aspects. Are you capable of reproduction, sex, motherhood, driving without crashing, not spending MY money on dumb stuff etc. Hope that helps. And you will need to find a man who is secure in his masculinity. If a girl has a large bone structure I see that as potential for stronger offspring because in the end, it's about the kids, not how feeble and petite my wife is. Hope that helps

_Charles- · Answer

I definitely like "tomboys" because they aren't so fussy, finicky, whiney etc etc.
tomboys in general are less shallow than girly girls as well.
tomboys enjoy doing things that I like doing. My last girl friend didn't even want to go camping.
There are limits to everything though so you have to find some sort of a balance.
In general tomboys have less "issues" but I am attracted to both tomboys and girly girls

Peter0 · Answer

No one's asked... where are you going to college? That might make a difference - if it's a small conservative christian place in the US South, you might be facing an uphill battle breaking gender stereotypes. If you're in the pacific northwest, then something weird is going on :p

eugwara · Answer

I have a sweet spot for country girls so yeah, I do. If she likes cars and guns, that's amazing.
Also, tomboys are less superficial than other girls in my experience. I don't like anyone who fusses over the small things that won't matter in a short time
So, tomboys are fine by me

TMWLOP · Answer

Man that top comment is just so wrong, -_- I think I like tom boys, I mean I really like girls who can pull off short hair cause its really cute and girls that you can just be yourself around are the best to. me but I don't know really, I just think girls who dont lie to me and are just real about themselves are best

amolak_khehra · Answer

he may like you physically... and for the fact that you are fun to hang out with..
but your "hint of male nature" may be a problem for him... (your both can't be the alpha male)...

personally i do like tom boys with a bit of childish or girly nature..

The_Technomancer · Answer

I know one tomboy (she doesn't consider herself one but she dislikes how girls act and is mainly around guys and really talks like us) and she's actually pretty awesome because she's a lot of fun to hang out with and does epic stuff like paying on dates. Plus she can put up with all the crap we put her through.

RationalMale · Answer

tomboys have less sex appeal... and by your comment on other girls having long hair, i'm guessing you have short? i met a cute girl basketball player i was interested in dating... cute with long hair, then she cut it off. she literally looked like a boy at 10 yards off. talk about attraction killer. if i was gay it would've been awesome, lmao.

Brianc313 · Answer

I like girls who play sports... but I don't want to see you in basketball shorts at a party... dress like a girl and you will be golden.. dress like a girl and you will have more
Opportunities with guys... not saying you're going to get the guy of you're dreams... but dressing nicely rather than wearing basketball shorts is a step in the right direction... probably a
Million steps in the right direction

zagor · Answer

As long as they still look like girls. Just yesterday I went to a small restaurant. There was a line for the restrooms, and a couple girls in line, and then (I thought) a guy. I got in line behind him and was a little irritated that he didn't move further down the hall to where the men's room was so I could have more room. After a minute I started to suspect that is was in fact a girl with a short buzz cut. It was a little awkward.

Kabloosh75 · Answer

Eh, I like tomboys only because they are different and I can take them outside and not hear them complain about how their dress is getting caught in something or whatever.

Loudon · Answer

I love them! Two of my closest friends in college played on the rugby team. They liked to fuck, drink, one of them loved her drugs and both were smart too. One was Italian American and the other Japanese Italian American.

Applefan1 · Answer

I like the personality of tomboys, especially the girls that fart any where at any time in any place including in public places. Girls farting is funny in a good way :) Please don't judge me.

Capper · Answer

Some guys do, some guys don't. It also depends on the degree of tomboy. I know some tomboys who just don't dress well while others dress comfortably, but not repulsively.

jojomojo0102 · Answer

we ( guys ) want a girly girl , a down to earth, genuine girl that we can talk to about other people, joke with and hang out with , but she has to dress and look like a girl

MarinMM · Answer

When I was younger I always went out with tomboys, but the older I get the more I prefer girly girls :) That's me though, for every train there are passengers :)

murphtheman · Answer

YES LOVE rough girls, but you still need to be able to "clean up" and look great on my arm. Ahh the best of both worlds

Homebakedcookies · Answer

Tomboys are gold. Especially the ones that know how to balance a girly appearence with a typically guyish behavior. However, a fake tomboy (feminist forcing herself to be guyish) is a huge turn off.

PT1911 · Answer

Some are intimidated, more likely others are like "damn she's awesome" and are hesitant on looking like a fool and making the first move. Been there before, so no worries, you'll be fine :)

AleDeEurope · Answer

Not really, I want girls that act and look like girls. But I don't like excessive makeup so you're good in that aspect.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a huge crash on a kickboxer chic who was a bit of a tomboy... but she was cute. Hate to say it, but physical beauty is what makes or breaks a guy's attraction to a tomboy. If you are a butch, forget it.

thatkaruguy · Answer

me personally i do even muscle girls too. but they have to be feminine to some degree

Phoenix98 · Answer

I like tomboys they make great gals to date or be friends with my first girlfriend was a tomboy and went on to be a good friend for many years.

Mark01 · Answer

I love tomboys best of all. And I don't care for overly-dolled girls either... I like them to be the way they are... freckles and all. I love that. There are many guys who are the same way out there.

Unseenhero · Answer

Well I'd disagree with the first guy. I think some guys like girly girls but some men like more Tom boy. I like your style because I can be real with you. The only thing is being loyal and there for your partner. That goes for all though.

NotReallyBeethoven · Answer

Heck yeah. I'll take a tomboy over a frilly pink poodle any day.

Nik1hil · Answer

In reality tomboy are not attractive, but if you are a sexy girl then intentionally dress up like a tomboy. That I what make guys go crazy.

LookatDuhDonkay · Answer

I like girls that wear heavy sweaters... I think it's cute.

Anonymous · Answer

As judgmental and stupid as this sounds, if your hair isn't that long they might assume you're a lesbian.

Zorax · Answer

I actually prefer tomboyish girls, I don't like "girly girls".

Anonymous · Answer

I like to tomboy just as much as I do any other woman. Plus, the stats on lesbianism port back me up pretty damn well.

JohnnyKross · Answer

I like girly girls but at the same time there is nothing wrong with a Tom boy

Luvme66 · Answer

I do like them... but i fear of getting puched! Lol...

NiggaInTheField · Answer

Tomboys? Of course best of both worlds 😂😉you can ride while we play call of duty. Are you white?

xintrovertedlonerx · Answer

I like tomboys. if I was in your college and you approached me, I would gladly accept you. But I am pretty sure you wouldn't even notice me :(.

Anonymous · Answer

no worries you will be appreciated by guys.. i've been a tomboy too

Anonymous · Answer

Tbh. Why can't girls be like GIRLS? be a girl cause that's what you are! Rejoice in your Feminine qualities!

Kshppatel · Answer

As long as they are cool and fun to hang out with then sure.

Thatguywholikesagirl · Answer

It depends on the Man himself. I for one like this girl and she is a tomboy.

yourfriendforever · Answer

I actually really like a few of em I've come across not all though :)

Maxemeister · Answer

From this description, you really don't sound like a to, boy, in my opinion.

den1219 · Answer

yes definitely! I wouldn't go on a date if she's too manly though maybe just friends.

donair · Answer

Tom boys can be cute. The can be into sports and Star Wars but they still have to act and dress like a lady

Noxifer626 · Answer

I like tomboys. Not that I can't hang out with girly girls, but I like tomboys better.

Mad_Batman · Answer

really depends  some play it good, some overdo, some just try to be

TheSpartan · Answer

If they are hot, then yes. I probably like tomboys better than normal girls.

mikedegunst · Answer

To me you have to be attractive, whether you are girly or not

cyforbul · Answer

Tomboys to me their the best man i wish i got one as my friend

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

I think their cute Tomboys... ^_^

verd12w · Answer

Lots of guys like tomboys. I like tomboys.

heywhynot23 · Answer

I like tomboys that talk about sex.

atcnew · Answer

some guys do like tomboys.

Iron_Man · Answer

yes as long as there fem

thealphamaleishere · Answer

Girls playing football... Lmao

stevephillips706 · Answer

i dont like them at all

ThisAndThat · Answer

I like feminine girly girls.

Lol132 · Answer

I like tomboys.

RaceAgainstMachine · Answer

Tomboys are way more attractive

Anonymous · Answer

I like a boy named Tom.

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