Do skinny guys have a chance with women?

Question

I mean lets be real  looks matter and confidence is attractive = bullshit. Most girls dream of a good looking guys with a hot bod and would take that over anything in a second. (I know a lot of females will argue this but this is the 100% truth that everyone knows)

so as a skinny man do I have a chance with girls? or will they just dump me for the hot guy or sleep with him on my back?

SouthernYankee14 · Accepted Answer

Let me preface this by saying that I am also a skinny guy. Last time I checked, I weighed 134 pounds, and I'm 6 feet tall. So yes, I'm pretty skinny. I started going to the gym recently to try to bulk up. Not because I want other people to like me, but because I want to take care of my body. I have noticed some improvement already, but I haven't weighed myself, so I'm not sure if I've gained much weight. So I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. (Only I really may not be able to change my body. I have crohn's disease and it is really hard for me to put on and maintain weight. My doctor told me I may always be this skinny. Hopefully you're not in the same boat.)

The answer to your question is yes, you will have a chance with girls. I've had girl troubles all my life too. I've never even had 1 girlfriend. At one time, I thought the same as you. the problem is my weight. But here's a secret about dating: when you meet someone, you're not worrying about their imperfections; you only worry about your own. If you are talking to a girl, she is going to be more worried about her looks, her weight, her body, her hair, anything! But don't just take me word for it. Girls, help me out here, because I know it's true. And think about it: have you been worrying about these girls' imperfections? No, only your own.

I've recently started talking to a girl. We're not dating, but things are going really well, and not once have I worried about my weight. And neither has she. In fact, she always pokes fun at her own weight (which she shouldn't because she is a perfectly normal, healthy weight and absolutely beautiful the way she is). But back to the point, she does not care about my weight. I'm hoping that I may have finally found someone special in my life, but even if things don't work out, I know it won't be because of my weight.

Not trying to be harsh here, but did you ever think that maybe your dating mentality is the issue. There have been many girls commenting here that they love skinny guys and don't care about bodies. And I'm sure there's many more girls like that out there. Maybe you just haven't been open to them. If you've been looking for the hot, sexy, perfect 10 face and body girl, you need to wake up. Looks aren't everything. Those types are girls are usually the shallow ones anyway who also only care about looks. That's not the kind of girl you need in your life. Be open to others and their imperfections. No one is perfect.

AleDeEurope · Accepted Answer

It is true that if you put two guys with the exact same personality and one is skinny and the other is muscular, 90% will go for the muscular guy. The first impression is the most important, and unfortunately for us skinny/lean guys, when it comes to attractiveness a muscular guy will most likely be the one chosen.
That's why you gotta have a high confidence so that girls find you interested and don't ditch you for the muscular guy, then prove that your personality is worth it.

This doesn't apply to all women, but it does for the vast majority.

LittleMissCuriousity · Accepted Answer

Actually, I'd take a confident and intelligent guy over an attractive one any day. The way you ask the question makes answering it pointless. Either we agree with you and you accept our answer, or we disagree and you think we're lying (because apparently you know the 100% truth).

I've spent my life being overweight and with visible imperfections that make it hard for me to be in relationships, sexual or otherwise. It's given me a different view of people in general, and led me away from physical attraction. Don't get me wrong, I love to look at hot guys. But that doesn't mean I want them in a relationship.

In other terms, it's great to visit Thailand (or select your country of choice), but I wouldn't want to live there.

I don't care if you're skinny, fat, short, tall, black, or pink with purple polka dots. If I like you, I like you. You being physically "imperfect" doesn't change it.

wOlfNinja04 · Accepted Answer

Reading ur responses to people u seem to think that girls are hollow and only like what they can see, think about this can a blind person find love? Have you ever thought that out there somewhere there is a girl that is wondering the same thing as you? Looks are uncontrollable but who you are is what it comes down to, do me a favor answer this, you are now the hottest guy around, there is this rumor going on that girl really likes you, what do you automatically hope for in her? Now you find out she is overweight and not so pretty what goes through your mind and what do you do?

Take2 · Accepted Answer

I don't l ow why I'm bothering commenting. You already made up your mind that girls lie about looks being important. But here goes.

Maybe some girls are very worried about appearances, but as one where recently got out of a really bad relationship, I care a lot more about how I am treated than how he looks. No amount of looks can console when abuse is in the picture. Furthermore, the idea of a very muscular guy scares me a bit. So skinny is not a turnoff for me. My few extra pounds are probably a bigger turnoff for you.

LittleSally · Accepted Answer

Hmmmm
I've almost always been with either a skinny dude or a huskier dude (more mass than chiseled muscle). I like the latter one better, won't lie about that.

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You see... I just don't find bones attractive. But, on the other hand, I also don't find huge muscles attractive.
I'd take a skinny guy over an overly muscly guy any day.

Bimbobambo · Answer

Ok I tell you how it is. You misunderstood the confidence part. How you understood it, it definetly IS bullshit. You can't just be a fat fuck that looks like this and say "But Im confident with myself that means, I get girls right?"
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No that means you just dont care about your body. Same in the skinny direction. What people mean by confidence in yourself is "Work on yourself until you can allow yourself to be confident with yourself.". You're too skinny? Dont eat just more, eat the right things to gain weight and visit the gym! Drink protein shakes before and after the training! And get a trainer to give you a good plan how to work out and dont just slender through the gym without any idea and just try some mashines to exercise on. Dont be confident as you are right now, make yourself confident.

miserybusiness · Answer

Confidence IS attractive and looks DO matter. Nobody said they didn't.

And, obviously. Plenty of decent looking skinny guys out there. But if you have low self esteem, then it doesn't matter what you look like. Ain't nobody got time to babysit a sad, bitter crybaby.

aamy811 · Answer

I dream of a good looking guy with a hot bod. However to me a hot bod is a skinny guy.
Also look around I want you to sit on a busy street and look at every couple. Are 100% of those guys perfect 10's with amazing bodies? No. Just like guys probably dream of waking up with some model, girls do too. But we know that's never going to happen so and we like real guys too.
And don't get on that "she's settling" stuff because everyone settles

ThatOahuGirl · Answer

Oh yeah totally my first love was WAY skinnier then I am, I'm not overweight or anything he was just very very lean and I have curves lol, anyways to answer your question yes I would totally date a skinny guy it might sound stupid to you, but I would totally take a skinnier guy over a stupidly buff one any day, like channing tatum for instance he's just way to muscular for my taste, I like normal looking guys with normal looking bodies not He-man bodybuilder types lol.

front2back · Answer

As a tall, decently built guy, I can tell you that my scrawny friends have had much more luck with women than I do. There's also a good portion of women who, believe it or not, are turned off by big muscles and would rather have a skinny guy. Seriously.

Frost_Byt3 · Answer

After what I've heard from my female friends. I found out... they don't give a shit about muscles. And if they have muscles, its only attractive if they have a small amount. They also really like skinny guys. I never hear of any girls being attracted to overweight guys, not even average weight guys. They always go for the skinny guys.

Remonster · Answer

Yeah man. Especially if you're a skinny guy with an above-average dong because it will look even bigger on you.

But sexual stuff aside: If a fat bastard like me can get ladies then there are surely girls waiting for a guy on the other end of the spectrum!

singlebee · Answer

Oh come on I have seen girls with skinny guys as well as muscular one...

Different girls have different likes and dislikes... get over it..

And by the way if a girl leaves you or cheats on you for a hot guy then she is bitch and waste of time anyways...

But a girl who really loves you will accept you as you are!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes - in my opinion you definitely have a chance. I know a decent number of girls who actually prefer how skinny guys look... I agree looks matter to more than most of us are willing to admit but not everyone is looking to the same thing. My best friend is actually one of those girls who actually prefer their men thin (although she gets hit on more frequently by more muscular men to her dismay) . As for the confidence being attractive = bullshit, I somewhat disagree. While it won't make you attractive to someone who doesn't appreciate your appearance, it will make you even more attractive to the girls who like slim men. Best of luck :)

Poppykate · Answer

Wow, you really need to work on your self esteem. Relationships are about more than just looks. You really need to have a connection for it to be truly amazing. Interests and common goals in common.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how skinny, if you're really underweight like I once was, just start measuring your calorie intake and bulk up a little. I've been underweight my entire life up until about a couple of years ago, I thought with my metabolism I could never do it but once I began eating more nutritious foods and measuring how many calories a day I took in it helped tremendously.

Touglyforfemales · Answer

Well I'm an overweight guy so I've never been in a relationship
even though women on here have told me if I lost weight I'd
be attractive lol what a bunch bull that is, I do agree with
you a lot of females will argue with what you said they
know your right but don't want to admit their wrong.
But depending on how skinny you are I don't see
you having a problem.

Mercedes1997 · Answer

I don't think it's bad at all. If you dating someone and they choose to leave you for a "better looking guy" then she's obviously the wrong girl for you. You'll find a person that likes you for how you look and who your are.

Littlett25 · Answer

A lot of the girls here actually prefer a skinny guy over a muscular. So if you are moderately attractive, you have good odds.

Miss_Behave · Answer

Well, my current guy is skinny - 5'10", 115 lbs. He doesn't look skin and bones tho. He works out and has a really nice toned body. I also find him really cute and he has an amazing personality :)

badbug · Answer

im 5´9 and my weight is 120 lbs i allways hate this but the same way love it. i can't resist the body atrattion to a girl who weight more than me doesn't matter if she's awful fat i love the huge body of they if she willing to acept herself just i love it xd

DaniaMQ · Answer

My boyfriend. is skinny. And I won't change. Him for ANYTHING OR ANYONE... No matter how attractive. The other guy is 😊

Goldie757 · Answer

I've dated skinny guys, I have known women who prefer skinny guys. If you really think being skinny is unattractive then try to bulk up a bit.

Balcazaurus · Answer

Don't worry, dude. All my skinny friends never had problems with women. If you're self-conscious, bulk up a little bit. Eat more, but healthy. Lift, but smartly.

Tractorbeam · Answer

Considering that 2/3 of the population are overweight, skinny guys have excellent chances. I'd never wish to be fat.

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