What does it mean when a guy says "text me sometime" after you just had sex?

[Anonymous]

I have known this guy for about three years. I just started going to the same college as him and we have been hanging out since I got here. He has taken me on a couple dates, we started hooking up, and we just had sex for the first time. When he dropped me off he said text me sometime... was that a way of trying to sound nice but he has now become uninterested? Or does he really want me to text him?

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And if he does want me to text him how long should I wait?

[PhatPat]

Ugh...that' totally sucks! Sorry sweetie! You know what, it does sound like he's wanting to back off. If this happened today though, I would give it a day to see if he texts or calls you (don't text or call him, just give him a chance to initiate something).

If after that 24-48 period, you don't hear a peep, then I think it's pretty safe to say that he's intending to put space between you guys. Now if that's the case, I don't want you to be like "What did I do?" or "Was I bad in bed?". Because if he's out the door right after you guys sleep together, then that means that THAT was all he was after. Because if he really likes you and wants to get more serious than what you are, any way the sex is would be GREAT because it would be ADDING to what connection you guys already have. If that's all he was looking for, then it sounds like you dodged a bullet because this would make him a player.

Bottom line - test it out a little over the next day to see if he comes at ya, if not, then CALL him and ask him if he wants to go on a date this weekend. Whatever his response is, then you'll know if he's in it for just sex or more. Good luck hun!

[Asker]

Thanks I absolutely hate these situations ughhhh I just wish everything was easier....

[PhatPat]

I know...but unfortunately, it's true what they say: "Things that are worth it are worth fighting for." And that includes real love :).

[MysticMoon901]

Means he's interested and might want something more than just random sex and being friends. Who knows, its not like he said I'll text you later and then never did so I would say try talking to him and see where things go!:)

[hazel83]

to be honest I don't think he sounds very interested..
is odd considering he can also text you instead of you doing all the work..
try waiting a few days before you do.. and see what happens.
good luck.

[Koncieved]

I'm going to agree with the first anonymous user, I'm not sure what the women are talking about in their comments, but you should actually text him fairly soon. I don't see any reason why someone would say that if they wanted space. Most women would probably over analyze this. I'm a man who means what he says and says what he means. I think a lot of guys are that way. Even if he isn't sincere you'll find out his intentions the sooner you text him, so why not?

[Anonymous]

You are over analyzing things. He meant exactly what he said, he wants you to text him sometime. By telling you to contact him and saying "sometime" he is looking for your approval after your sex. He figures if you liked it you will text him soon. Text him whenever you feel like it. If you feel like it right now text him now. If you've been friends, going on dates, and now having sex, I think it is safe to assume he likes you and will want to talk to you.

[Asker]

I tend to do that thank you for such a clear and straight forward answer:) I have just been really messed with by guys and so now I'm hesitant to think anything other than he just wanted me for the sex and will stop talking to me now

[Opinion Owner]

I must say that I do not agree with the women saying you should wait and play the stupid phone games. Men and women that play the waiting game have probably missed out on so many relationships it is unimaginable.

Sure there is a very very small chance he is trying to distance himself but if that is not the case which I'm betting on he will wonder what the heck is going on when you don't text him and think it's because he sucked in bed or something.

[Opinion Owner]

Just get it over with and text him. His true intentions will be revealed soon enough after you do.

[Anonymous]

I guess he wants you to talk to him, based on what a lot of other people say, but to me it sounds like a nice letdown, or that's how I would take it. I would assume he doesn't want me but apparently guys say differently and I'm not a guy, so yeah.

[phil2]

yeah you should just text him some time, he probably wants to hear back from you. he had a good time probably and wants you to like him but texting

[foolycooly1001]

He wants you to text him later. I wouldn't wait at all, because I don't want someone who plays games

[Anonymous]

He wants you to text him. Usually if someone was uninterested he would say, "I'll text you later", which is like saying forget it. Whereas if he says "Text me later," it's like an invitation for you talk with him.

[GIntrovert]

He wants to keep seeing you..

[GIntrovert]

If you want to keep seeing him, text him, else don't.. he's giving you that option..