What makes a white guy want to date a black girl?

Question

I’m a fully black girl. He’s white and super handsome. All of his exes are his race. I’ve dated white guys before but they’ve dated a black woman before. He’s never dated a black woman before but he’s head over heels for me. Why is that so?

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

This is a good question. Maybe because he never me a Black girl like you before.

About 26-27 years ago, I had a good friend named Jackie who was a Black girl. We met at the college we were attending and her father was a professor at.

We met because she watched me tutor all sorts of kids including kids who were taking her father's differential equations class. In particular, I tutored a lot of Black kids and, since many of them were from the NYC area which is where I grew up, she realized that I was pretty cool with Black kids as I became rather popular with them.

Anyway, Jackie and I became quite a bit closer. I most definitely would have dated her if I could have and I think she knew that. There was definitely some sexual tension between us but probably more on my end.
I believe she friendzoned me. Jackie already had multiple casual BFs at the time including a White guy. I believe that she eventually married a White guy.

Jackie just came in 4th place in the Mrs. New York contest so, at 52 this year, she is still pretty righteous. I got in touch with her a few weeks ago via social media. Jackue was wonderful and I never forgot her, she had such a magnetic effect on me. You can sense it if you ever visit her website.

So, I guess to answer your question, it isn't so much that you are that special Black girl to him, but that you are a special girl to him who happens to be Black.

ColoradoKid · Accepted Answer

If he is like me... He looks at more than your skin color. He sees your mind and heart. I have only dated white women but that is because of where I live. I live in a small town and I have never seen but one African American in my town.. He was a dear friend of mine but he moved away and we have lost contact. We do have a great deal of Ute and Navajo people here. If I got to know one that was single her race would not matter at all. I have known quite a few native ladies who I would have dated but they were taken. I lived in California for a few months and there was not any one that I talked to who didn't like me. Every race I met and even a few active gang members. Every one that you treat like you want to be treated will normally be happy to talk to you and not be mean.

tatianamay · Accepted Answer

Girlll, stfu. You're a beautiful Queen!! Guys don't really care about race as long as the girl's pretty. Every race has beautiful people. You're beautiful too! I don't know why i've been seeing a lot of questions lately where black girls feel like whit men won't date them, so lemme make this clear:
in the eyes of a man, a girl is a girl
a pretty girl is a pretty girl irrespective of their race or religion
they're gonna approach you if you're pretty. You ARE pretty! Plus guys love personality. My brother says that its the looks which attract him first and its the personality which makes him stay. So your guy loves you for your personality! Men are visual creatures. He finds you beautiful and loves your personality. In short, he's in love with you and someday you guys are gonna get married and have beautiful babies. Periodt
by the way im 16, the age is wrong here, and im not able to change it back

Miah02 · Accepted Answer

He could just be someone who dates women he likes no matter their race and you are the first to accept or first that came along.
If you have a good man that treats you with respect.
Don't over analyze why.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'm not white, but I'll give me 2 cents as I grew up in an Italian neighborhood and pretty white-washed myself. Honestly, black girls can be very attractive. It's all in their demeanor. I would say I definitely stay away from "hood" girls, black and white alike and girls who talk with a lot of slang. I prefer "white-washed" girls. Elegance is the key. Intelligent conversations, decent etiquette, embrace their femininity, have decent sense of fashion. This may sound somewhat racist, but it's not... but I generally prefer the way white girls dress to black ones. If black girls do this, they'll definitely be on my radar.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I think he doesn't really see color. I think there's something about you that he finds irresistible. It could be your laugh, or the sound of your voice, or maybe your total personality. It has nothing to do with race. You appeal to him as a great girl! That's really all it takes, your know.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Maybe you actually care about him? Women are supposed to be the gender that's more in touch with their feelings so it always puzzles me that they don't get guys want to be loved to. Want to feel wanted and valued as well. You think we enjoy being just another one of your accessories?

Hagler14 · Answer

Because he finds you attractive and likes your personality? Also, he may have a thing for black women and since you're interested in him and the first, he's excited about it.

rounddablock · Answer

Just take it as it is: a very good thing.

Race shouldn’t be a big deal anyway. It is an issue but not THE issue. Just quit overthinking it. Sounds like the benefits outweighs the drawbacks. You should be happy.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

'Variety is the spice of life.' Ever heard that saying?

Dinklex3 · Answer

Because he sees you as an individual and likes you?

Anonymous · Answer

Mostly maybe he cause he just likes you for who you are regardless of the race Or he wants to "try" a black girl

anylolone · Answer

She being hot, available, I'd like to say nice but that's not how people work... Ok, hot, available, matching or complementary personalities, these kinds of stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

The white guys you'd dated who had black exes... one of them was their first black girlfriend.  you just happen to be this guys first.

bigfinger4u · Answer

Zzz I don't know because I dated one black girl but normally they have to be like Halle Berry looking you know I can't date a darker I'm sorry if she had the right features I guess but I've never had sex with a black girl and I'm curious and I'm 43

dudeinohio · Answer

I just *liked* her. We got along great and all that. Race factored very little into it.. she was just a nice person.

Anonymous · Answer

I would hope it's because he likes you and is attracted to you. The fact that you are a different race should not have anything to do with it.

007kingifrit · Answer

usually its a superiority fetish like "oh she's black it will be easy to have her"

White_Boy_506 · Answer

Some of us just don’t discriminate is all. Black women are attractive too ❤️

MandyMaiden31 · Answer

Because you're you. just happen to be black

Anonymous · Answer

I thought black girls weren't attracted to caucasians

swettannie · Answer

because you're beautifull !

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You probably have an amazing body.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Get on with the person of course

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Attraction. General attraction

lycanthrope3 · Answer

May be your great personality

Anonymous · Answer

Shut up

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