When a guy barely texts you, doesn't call, but asks you out on dates, is he stringing you along?

[Anonymous]

If a guy barely texts you throughout the week, but continually asks you on dates, is he stringing you along? Does he only see me as booty call material? Been seeing a guy for a month and he didn't text or call on Christmas day. But he asked me out again.

[Anonymous]

He could just be someone who doesn’t like text/phone and prefers in-person interactions. Still, if you want more communication and he’s not giving you that then don’t settle. He could even be dating other people, Especially since you guys are still pretty new, he’s probably exploring his options. But you should be doing the same rather than put all your eggs in his basket too soon. That way if you decide you aren’t a fan of his behavior you won’t feel cheated for having too many expectations of him already.

[In_Trance]

Not necessarily

[Asker]

Does he only see her as hookup material? (We never had sex)

[In_Trance]

That's possible too you've got to give it time and find out

[Asker]

Should I ask him what he's looking for?

[In_Trance]

No just give it time

[Asker]

Should I let him know I'm looking for a potential relationship? I'm not asking for exclusivity. I just dont want to be led on.

[In_Trance]

Chill.. just be cool and enjoy your time together. No need to talk about anything like that

[Asker]

Ok. Should I bring it up at 2 month mark?

[In_Trance]

Why then specifically?

[Asker]

I don't want to catch feelings and fall hard for someone just to find out he wants no labels

[In_Trance]

So what's wrong with Wednesday?

[Asker]

You mean our next date?

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Asker]

Would it turn you off if a girl brought this up 5 weeks into dating?

[In_Trance]

100% yes

[Asker]

The reason why I want to bring it up is because he ignored me on Christmas day and texted the next day like nothing happened. I don't know if he's wasting my time stringing me along

[Asker]

What would be less of a turn off--telling him what i'm looking for or asking what he's looking for?

[In_Trance]

Why do you have to ask anything? Instead of looking at what's not happening, why not focus on what it happening and have fun?

[Asker]

Good point. I just don't want to fall hard in love just for him to tell me he doesn't see it as anything serious

[In_Trance]

But if you just have a good time, maybe he will too. If you start putting expectations and timelines on things when you don't even know each other, you're asking for a disaster

[Asker]

I get it. I'm not really wanting a timelime, just to be informed if he doesn't see me as girlfriend material

[In_Trance]

he doesn't know yet

[Asker]

He asked me to be his girlfriend. He said he's been wanting to for awhile now. He was worried I felt like he was a friend