Why don't short women and tall men accept height differences that aren't big?

[purplesnow33]

I'm a tall woman thats 5'11 and tall men reject me all the time because i'm too tall. I talked to this 6'4 guy and he said that if I was 10 inches shorter at 5'1 I would be more attractive. Similarly a lot of short women don't like guys under 6 feet as well. Is there something special about a 12+ inch height difference? I don't even get it. I can't even feel comfortable with a guy thats 6'4 yet women that are like almost a foot shorter than me seem to find it comfortable. Its stange

[MCheetah]

Why did you ask it about only short women and tall men, and not women and men in general?

Well, I said it before, but to short women and tall men, tall equals masculinity and short equals femininity. And women 5'6" and under, as well as women 5'9" and above, as well as any other women inbetween, ALL want men who are tall (minimum six feet). That is what they truly 100% want in their heart of hearts. Some women will SETTLE for short guys; men under six feet tall, but they just decide to look at their other positive qualities and try to overlook their negative height flaw.

(I meant to post this here, but posted it in the other question by mistake.)

I've written PLENTY of MyTakes expressing just how much I *loathe* and *despise* being small and weak, especially due to having Precocious Puberty and stopping growth and puberty at age ten. I'm only 180 cm, or 71 inches in height, and only one woman in my entire life was fine with being with a man as short as I am, and she was 191 cm, or 6'3" tall.

In fact I could mirror what you said here and it'd apply to me perfectly.

"I'm a short guy and women reject me ALL THE TIME because of it. I talked to this one 5'8" girl, which isn't even very tall, and she said that if I was five inches taller at 6'4", I would be her dream guy, but that she wouldn't date me as I am now. Similarly, a lot of tall men don't like girls over 5'6" either. Is there something special about a twelve or more inch height difference? I don't get it. I even love women that are 5'10" or taller, yet these same women would rather go after the 6'4" men who want a 5'4" girl more than them. It's bizarre."

@purplesnow33, would YOU even date a short guy (less than 6'0"/183 cm tall)?

I would love to meet a tall girl who doesn't mind a short guy like me. But you know... Besides two attached women on this site, @Passion_Devil and @JosyJosy, they don't exist.

[JosyJosy]

What about that list you kept? Those don't count?

[Berethor]

They are extremists, a guy being half a head taller than the girl should be enough.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TeensAreShort

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/OneHeadTaller

[JoyGirl]

Maybe a taller guy is seen as dominant, and a short women is seen as submissive. Perhaps it has to do with the way we are wired as humans. 🤔

[Sonorous]

Because humans are biologically programmed to have ideal masculine and feminine ideals. Then, as they go through life, their preferences may change due to a variety of external influences. But ultimately, humans are only like that because of their physiology. We have the ability to persuade ourselves of a particular way of thinking. Our bodies, however, will continue to react as they are meant to.

[Sonorous]

to have masculine and feminine ideals*

[htmndg183]

I only date tall women. Taller women are relatively more reasonable with height requirements it seems. I am 5'10. I prefer her to be same height or taller than me. Short women can have tall men. I'm happy with more taller women out there for the not so tall men like me :p

by the way, you used to claim you are 5'4 on your previous account.

[purplesnow33]

I never said I was 5'4

[htmndg183]

Oh sorry. 5'5. Purplehaze33.

[Mpodere]

I don't known which is their problem!
I would not reject a woman who is taller than me, I find do it strange
I'm 5'10 it would be hypothetically a problem for you if you found me attractive?

[purplesnow33]

No I don't care either. Most of the women obsessed with tall guys are much shorter than me

[Avicenna]

Well, IRL one sees tall women mostly together with tall men. I guess you just encountered some of the tall guys who prefer much shorter women. But rest assured there are plenty of tall guys interested in you.

[Avicenna]

At any rate, everyone has their preferences. They'd probably say "why should we be limited to those closer to our height when we prefer something else".

[Anonymous]

You think it's your height. In actuality it's your attitude towards your height. I'm 6'5" and I really don't care about a woman's height. But taller women tend to be more standoffish. While short women actually show interest towards me.
Put yourself in my shoes, who would you pick?

[abc3643]

How would you feel with a guy considerably shorter than you? After all, you are taller than the average male.

[purplesnow33]

I personally don't care. Women a foot shorter than me care more about height than I do. I've legit heard of 4'11 women saying guys that are 5'10 aren't tall enough. A lot of short women seem entitled to tall guys and vice versa. I can't be picky because that would limit my options. It sucks for women that usually like tall guys, most of them are weird, assholes or just not what you would expect tbh. I don't see why height even has to matter. I'd be more interested in a short guy that is great all around than a tall guy that isn't. Height doesn't really mean shit. I even think a height difference of like 6 inches is even too big, a lot of women much shorter than me go way beyond that and i'm just mind boggled of how thats "comfortable"

[abc3643]

I understand how you feel, but there is an instinctive attraction to height - especially where women (and insecure men) are concerned.

Even you imply that being with a man shorter than you is not a problem as long as he is "great all around", but, you need to be honest with yourself. Is there a "too short" of a man for you? Fortunately, you are 5' 11" and, while that is tall for a woman, that is not very tall so you will be close in height to the vast majority of men, so my question may be moot. Still, what if the guy was 4 or more inches shorter than you... is that a problem for you even if he is "great all around"?

[purplesnow33]

I honestly don't care. Like I said there's women way shorter than me that care about height than I do. I have to be attracted to the person. If I don't find them overall attractive in my opinion then I won't be as interested. If they have a great personality but not too great in other traits, then I might not be as interested but it's better than a tall guy whose a cocky POS

[abc3643]

You aren't really answering my question.

Personally, I am happy that you are as open-minded about height differences in relationships.

But, all of us also have instinct needs and reactions.

My point is that I DO suspect that you have limits on how short or tall a man you would be with regardless of other factors. These limits exist because your instincts, which can override your intellect at times, causes you to reject that man.

With women, this is particularly so: Many a woman will have a strong instinctive need to be with a tall male because it makes her feel safer and, subconsciously but instinctively, that any children she has with him will better succeed and survive and take care of her when she is old.

So, to these women, normal-sized or short men are just that - normal or underwhelming - so they do not trigger that instinct as strongly.

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For men wanting short women, that is because of insecurity and idiocy. For these men, almost instinctively, they feel safer, in a sense, because a small woman is easier to dominate and will be less confrontational. In a way, they don't want a relationship to be a democracy of 2 people. Many men view the world as a gigantic series of threats that need to be addressed and so we want partners. A larger woman might be a more capable partner but she is likely to be more confrontational and, instinctively to a man, that just delays solving the problems of life. He wants a partner on the same page as him and a smaller woman, he subconsciously feels, is more likely to do that especially since, with small women, they WANT the male to lead and make her feel safe.

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As to your original question, there are plenty of men and women who are fine with small differences in height or even when she is taller than him.

[KostasKouvalis]

They're stupid. Tall women are awsome. If he's so smart, then she can kiss dick, 'cuz she sure as hell won't be able to reach his face. And he'll always have to listen to her complain that he walks too fast. Fucking bozo.

[DryGermanGuy]

That guy sounds ridiculous! Your height is perfect from where I stand...

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't care about height, nor has any woman I've shown any interest in, this sort of thing is way bigger on the internet than in real life.

[In_Trance]

I don't think anyone really gives a shit. The people that do are the ones sitting in their bedrooms wondering why they can't find anyone

[purplesnow33]

No I do think height matters. I don't know why tall guys are obsessed with wanting like a 20 inch difference. The only problem is that tall women are still attractive, short men aren't usually attractive to women no matter how attractive they are.

[In_Trance]

Again review my first response. People that are this picky are the ones wondering why they can't find a partner. Sooner or later everyone comes to the realization that is extremely difficult to find someone to spend your life with. Height difference does not matter if you're happy

[purplesnow33]

Then why do people think huge height differences equals happiness?

[In_Trance]

Inexperience with relationships

[Sorn40]

I really don't care on this issue. This is a petty issue. I evaluate women on many factors and height is well eh not a deal breaker for me. It's so petty compared to so many other important things in life.

[ArtemisSilver]

I'd like to date a tall women. I'm used to shortstacks

[Anonymous]

I only date tall women 5'10 and up I'm 6'1 and i don't want my. kids to be. midgets

[purplesnow33]

Yeah makes sense. Short women seem to think that fucking a tall guy makes tall kids pop out of their vagina. I've hardly seen that many tall men with short mothers let alone tall women

[Opinion Owner]

I mean it can happen.
but my friends mom is tall and so is his dad and everybody I. His family is tall so I rather take my chance with a tall chick.

Like Kendall jenner height or taller

[purplesnow33]

Not usually. It depends on how short a woman is. I would think a woman shorter than 5'4 the likelihood of the son reaching at least 6 feet is low. Women that are like 5'4 - 5'6 I've seen have sons like 6'0 - 6'2, not that tall but still slightly tall. But it makes sense to breed with a tall woman. Sons will be athletes and girls will be models, its a win win

[Berethor]

Girls exploit the fact that guys care less about height, but yea tall people are superior.

[Ragingwhisper]

Any "guy" that judges you by your height is worthless. Go find a man. We like all women.

[Anonymous]

Be glad that as a girl you're not expected to be The confident assertive one

[Browneye57]

You're hung up on the wrong things.

[jasco]

Because we don't want to