Differences between a guy and a girl when it comes to sexual dms?

[Siegram173]

Why is it that when a woman messages a man saying something sexual like "you're hot" the guy would be happy about it. But if a guy messaged a girl with the exact same thing the woman gets mad?

[WonderBell99]

I have never told someone that they looked “hot” unless they’re my boyfriend. I’m single now, but I used to say that to my ex whenever he was feeling insecure/needed a confident boost. Or just to flirt, in general.

Why would I never say that to a person I’m casually chatting with? The term “hot” has sexual connotations. I do not want to give them a wrong idea that I want to be sexual with them. I would much rather compliment them on certain aspects of their personality. For example, if the person was a good conversationalist, I would tell them that. I always give out only genuine compliments.

If someone (around my age) says I’m hot, I’d say: “thank you very much for the compliment. I appreciate it”. If it was someone much older, I would not hesitate to kick their butt.

[PrettyPriya]

@wonderbell99 🥵

[PrettyPriya]

Use your emojis.

[WonderBell99]

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[PrettyPriya]

@wonderbell99 Lol 🤣

[Siegram173]

you wrote a whole paragraph but you didn't answer my question

[WonderBell99]

I will never get sexual with a guy online because :-

- he might as well just be a f-boi and be using me for my body

- sexting online is extremely risky. He has got nothing to lose, but I very much do.

- I don’t trust people easily.

[WonderBell99]

And by the way, I did reply to the question you’ve asked in the description.

[Siegram173]

ok so is that why women hate sexual dms in general? also why are men more open to that stuff?

[WonderBell99]

Men are a lot more visual than women. Most men get off of visuals. Also, a lot of women won’t get close with a man (sexually) unless they have some amount of trust in that person.

Not only that, when a guy sends you an unsolicited dick picture, it shows that he does not care about you as a person. That is extremely disrespectful

[Siegram173]

thats lie. women are just as visual as men. they just go for the top 20% of men in terms of attractiveness. women care about looks more than guys do and are way more picky about it statistically speaking.

[WonderBell99]

lmao.. there are crackheads who have got girlfriends. Surely they don’t make up the 20%. Stop believing in bs

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s fairly easy, it’s down to consent, which we know is A Cup of Tea.

This is girls ( mainly, some guys fall into this group).

https://www.youtube.com/embed/pZwvrxVavnQ

For guys the following Video sums it up.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_Vr8LMgGr-M

That’s Guys.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because initially girls are being defensive and protecting themselves from someone who will use them. They want to be complimented but instead of focusing on their appearance find a part of their personality you like.


Make sense?

[Siegram173]

Yeah that makes sense.

Here is my POV:

Men have higher sex drives + are lonelier than women so they are more open.

Most women would not be happy if they received a d*ck pic but most men would be ecstatic from receiving a nude selfie.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sex drive is an individual thing. I’ve known lots of girls with very high sex drives. They just couldn’t be open in the beginning for fears of being shamed and judged.

As a guy you would be happy getting a good looking selfie but would you like a less attractive selfie?

It kinda comes down to intent. As a guy if you just wanna be casual and dm sexually then you will be happy with the attention. But girls get burned and ghosted often by guys so it takes more time for them to open up

[Siegram173]

Girls ghost guys way more than guys ghost girls. we are the lonely and desparate ones. Also in general men have higher sex drives than women. this still doesn't answer my question properly

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way I know what it feels like to be horny and get excited when you are DMing someone hot. But one thing I’ve learned is girls prefer flirting and to be less direct and more subtle. My advice is try to ask about other things and over time she will see you can be trusted and then will be able to open up

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s your goal, what do you want when DMing someone hot?

[Siegram173]

>But one thing I’ve learned is girls prefer flirting and to be less direct and more subtle.

They can see right through it, they only want sexual DMs from good looking (objectively handsome) dudes like a model, if you're unattractive or average they will treat you like a subhuman. Tbh from my observation, they would treat a dog better than an unattractive male.

[BarryLiverstone]

So? Aren’t you attractive?

[BarryLiverstone]

Seriously dude what you just said is very unattractive. Girls can sense zero confidence and will eat you up. Do girls only want to talk to models? No

1. Don’t use them when you are horny

2. Don’t complain that ‘chads’ are the only guys girls like

3. Work on your self esteem to know your value

4. Don’t even talk sexually with someone new for 2 weeks

5. Work on getting more friends (girls and guys) to increase your social value

[Siegram173]

ok thanks for the advice