If a girl asks you if you have a girlfriend, does it mean she is interested?

[Anonymous]

Lets say it’s a girl you have seen a lot but never really talked to, and one day she asks you that.

[Ευδεμονια]

It can be. On the other hand, if you’re already talking about relationships and you don’t know her so much (per example, is a casual meeting) it’s only pour parle.

[Asker]

We didn’t talk about relationships.

What happened is that i got nervous when she was there and she noticed that, she asked me “why do get so nervous? do you get nervous around girls? Dont you have a girlfriend”?

[Ευδεμονια]

Understood. But I think she’s always in the field of “small talk”. Don’t build castles in the air with you mind, if she’s interested in you she’ll let know you in other ways.

[Asker]

Hmm you're right.

There is some more stuff that is missing, i wish i would have just written everything in the original post.

We were talking about something and while talking she grabbed my upper arm with her hand. I didn't think much of it because some people are just more touchy.

Later on what happened was that she put her hand on my tummy and got really close, right into my personal space. at that point i got really nervous and leaned a bit back so that her hand wouldn’t touch me anymore. She noticed that i leaned away and she just leaned into me and put her hand back on my tummy.

Again i can't tell if she is just a friendly person or interested. She wasn’t even smiling, she looked serious.

[Ευδεμονια]

So you’re saying you know her but you haven’t almost anything to do with her since this time and she put her hands on you?
Mmmm seems suspicious, I think she wanted mostly to tease you. If you’re shy and you showed it, probably she was amazed by her power on you and tried to tease you more.
Some girls are like that, I advise you man, don’t make castles with air because the wind makes them disappear. She probably wanted only to tease you in order to satisfy her need of entertainment and power, since having power to embarrass or make a person blush is… enjoyable.

[Ευδεμονια]

I can tell you I had similar experiences in a late past, I had a girl I crushed on that put her legs on mine, touched my hair. She did that only to tease but at the time I was stupid and immature and I thought about a her interest in me. Don’t fall in the same trap.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that.

What i meant about knowing her is that she is just a familiar face i have seen for 4 months, but we never really talked.

[Ευδεμονια]

Don’t be sorry, it’s something happened a decade ago, so it’s not a problem anymore.
So, given that you know her only by sight, you’re only acquaintances, I think it’s really suspicious of her to behave like that. In my opinion she’s only pleasuring herself. Keep your distance!

[exitseven]

I used to work at a local hospital. My wife worked there as well. One day a nurse came over to me and asked me if I was dating anyone. I asked her if she knew my wife, she worked there.

[Asker]

So there nurse was interested in you or?

[Asker]

The*

[exitseven]

yes, the nurse seemed like she was interested.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[dustybiker]

Yes. It’s a question you would only think ask if somewhat interested.

[Asker]

Would you ask that if you weren’t interested?

[dustybiker]

You wouldn’t. It wouldn’t cross your mind. Unless of the extreme case of a bully trying to get intel.

[Asker]

Hm could it be that she’s just really friendly or no?

I don't know if you saw the other reply but what happened is that after i told her that i dont have a girlfriend, later on we talked about something and she put her hand on my belly and i found that nerve racking

[dustybiker]

That question and touching you are two signs she likes you.

[Asker]

Which question, the nervous or the girlfriend part?

[dustybiker]

Your original question about a girlfriend.

[Asker]

Saying “no” was the right thing, right?
I don’t have a girlfriend but people always say to give funny answers for some reason.

[dustybiker]

Be yourself. It lets you stay comfortable. You do have to be brave and be willing to get hurt. It’s part of attracting someone.

[FilmGuy93]

Usually... not always, but it usually means that she's interested.

[Asker]

How can i find out if she is interested and not just making small talk?

[FilmGuy93]

There’s not a singular set way; just talk with her and feel things out.

[Asker]

Would you say her putting her hand on my upper arm and later on my stomach and also being very close is a sign?

[FilmGuy93]

That’s definitely a more intimate thing for a woman to do, yeah.

[Asker]

Could it be that she was just being friendly, and is a touchy girl in general?

I can understand touching someone’s arm as being touchy, but the belly stuff got me.

[FilmGuy93]

No, that’s not normal touching

[d3n0939]

if she is younger than you and not friendly, then defo likes you

[Asker]

She is younger than me, but i can’t figure out if she is just being friendly or if there is more to it.

Like i have said in the other reply, she touched my tummy for some reason but I don't know if thats just her being touchy.

[d3n0939]

that gesture is friendly. Maybe she is teasing you as a friend

[Fuentes]

Yeah women ask me this a lot at work. They need to chill tho cause I ain't fucking the females I work with..

[Asker]

Maybe they are just making small talk? Or is it a sign they are interested?

[Fuentes]

Nah they tryna smash when I worked at a call center I went through a lot of chick's lol

[Dinosaursandanime65]

That or they’re expecting/hoping you’ll say no to make fun of you

[Asker]

Well i did say “no to her” after she asked me that and she didn’t really say anything. After that she just asked me again “why do you get nervous?”

I like her and get nervous and she picked that up.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Sounds like a script for some ASMR Roleplay, rrrrrrrRHAOU

[Dinosaursandanime65]

But uh to answer your question, this usually is the case. I suppose the second possibility I suggested is more of an anime thing (I can see this totally happening in Nagatoro or something). The population of assholes will always grow though so yeah. But base on what you said, she didn’t make fun so Retiso Neh Neh

[Asker]

Lol im not very aware of anime tbh.

Anyway, would you say she’s interested or am i overthinking?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

….. don’t get your hopes up. I’d say just be normal and see what happens. She probably is, but you could also get bamboozled

[Asker]

There is some more stuff that happened.

We were talking about something and then she put her hand on my belly and was very close. I got really nervous and leaned away so her hand didn't touch me anymore, she noticed that and closed the gap to touch me again.

I can't tell if she is just friendly or interested

[Dinosaursandanime65]

She’s an ASMRtist. That’s what’s happening here

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’m uncertain if I’ve heard this story before….

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. She could just be a nosey b****.

[Guy13]

Yes she is considering you as possibility

[Asker]

Is it a good sign?

[Guy13]

I think it is. She is sizing you up. Was it suddenly or were you two talking and it came up?

[Asker]

I think it was suddenly.

What happened is that i got nervous because i like her, she started asking me why i get nervous, and then asked me if i have a girlfriend.

[Guy13]

Did you say no but I’m in the market. You want to go catch a movie together?

[Asker]

No i didn't say that, i just said “no”.

[Guy13]

Well bring it up again. I gave your question some thought over the weekend…I do not. I am in market and I would like you to accompany me to lay out place time etc for her

[kao118]

Almost certainky

[Asker]

Would you personally ask this to someone you aren't interested in?

[kao118]

I don’t think so unless it was in conversation and was related, like it’s not something I’d bring up if it had nothing to do with me

[Asker]

I’m not sure if this is related but before asking me this what happened is that she noticed that I get nervous around her, so she asked me “why do you get so nervous?” I said i dont know. She then said “you feel nervous around girls? Have you never talked to them? Dont you have a girlfriend?”

[kao118]

On then I don’t think she was interested. It’s still possible she was teasing you. Was she laughing or was it a serious question?

[Asker]

It was a serious question.

The next day what happened is that while we were talking she got really close to me and grabbed my upper arm first, and later she put her hand on my belly.

i froze up and got nervous, so i leaned a bit away so her hand didn't touch my stomach anymore. She noticed that and she leaned towards me to close the gap and put her hand back on my tummy.

I don't know if that means anything.

[kao118]

That’s weird as hell but if it was serious I don’t think it was in an interested way. Judging on other factors you’ll have to decide if she is or not

[Zygum]

Not necessary

[Philyouup]

i’d think so

[driven159]

most likely