Spent the weekend?

[Anonymous]

Spent the weekend at my ex girlfriend's place. She messaged me Friday night asking what I was up too and that she didn't know what to eat for dinner.. It was her way of indirectly asking me to come over. So I spent both Friday and Saturday night with her, we just chilled at her place, hanging out, watching TV and eating food and hooked up once. I don't know if she's considering getting back together or not... just looking for some thoughts and opinions on this

[Changiis07]

An ex is an ex for a reason but if you both do want to give it a second chance then do so. My advice was is to talk to her about why she reached out in the first place that way you have a better understanding as to what she wants with you or was she just feeling lonely. Have a conversation so that you both are on the same page and a better understanding otherwise move on. It’s not good to keep talking if it’s not going to help you move on

[Asker]

She's not too good with communication. at least not with me. She used to be good when we were talking and dating but after the break up, it's been bad communication. She doesn't like the uncomfortable conversations. I thought we were progressing but then she'll go days without talking to me

[Changiis07]

You have to have those uncomfortable conversations if you want the relationship to progress in this case on her end. That's means you'll have to see where she stands otherwise it will leave you confused and wasting your time when you could just meet someone else. It depends how bad you both want to make it work

[Asker]

I'm crazy about her. The first time I saw her after she ended things completely was 2 months later. I showed up unannounced to take care of her cuz she was sick. I stayed the night and kissed her. Next day she said we're just friends for now. But yet I've stayed over 3 more times after that and we always cuddle, I kiss her and we hooked up once... so I'm just not sure

[Changiis07]

Maybe she isn't completely ready to be in a relationship. You will have to get her to open up to you so you can have a better understanding if you should take it slow or what it is

[Asker]

There is something I wanna talk to her about next time I see her and I told her that but I'm scared me telling her that will make her not wanna see me cuz she knows I wanna talk about something

[Changiis07]

Then maybe approach it in a different way. Plan a dinner or something and then bring it up let her know that you value what she has to say and that if she rather talk about it over the phone to let you know what works best for her

[Asker]

She just started her new job today and I told her that I wanna take her out and celebrate and my plan is to take her to dinner. Hoping to do that next week

[Changiis07]

Depending on how long it has been that you two started talking again you may want to take a few steps back and actually celebrate with her and then some other time bring this up or just get straight to the point

[Asker]

I was planning on going to dinner and then talking when we got back to her place. We never have these serious conversations but we need to

[Changiis07]

It sounds like to me that yes these need to happen. She needs to get comfortable talking to you. Relationships grow when these uncomfortable conversations happen, so I hope you are able to get some things clear

[Asker]

I've always avoided the uncomfortable conversations too but with her, I wanna have these conversations. Because I want this to work and I'm very comfortable with her

[Changiis07]

That's great. I like to hear that a guy wants to have these. Work on it now before you all move in together and the little things get in the way instead of talking about it.
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