How can you tell if a girl you’re dating is autistic? Would you still want to date them?

[Anonymous]

I’m autistic myself and can never tell if people know it.

[bondjames37]

I have Asperger's. I find it a bit awkward to keep eye contact at points and struggle keeping up a conversation. It's part of it, but most people chalk it up to being socially awkward. I guess it depends on the person.

[Asker]

I have this same problem. I look around or look to their left when I talk to them. I absolutely suck at dating lmao

[Asker]

But I also think it’s cuz I’m not being my true authentic self and maybe they know something is different/odd but can’t put their finger on it

[bondjames37]

Yeah, I've been 21 years single lol. I don't know, I think it's just all in our heads. We gotta get outta that mindset, and just, break the habit I guess. I was wayyy worse when I was younger, I was fortunate to grow up & have most of my symptoms go away.

[Asker]

You’re 21?

[bondjames37]

Yeah

[Asker]

Yeah I always baffled people because I was so cute but so weird and guys didn’t like that about me.

[bondjames37]

We are who we are. We'll figure it out, and whatever is in our future will work itself out. We just gotta be patient

[Anonymous]

What are your symptoms

[Asker]

Stimming - counting syllabus of phrases and lyrics of songs on my fingers in a particular rhythm; horrible eye contact and just generally catatonic when I talk to people. I can’t make expressions easily. I’ll say something rude but don’t realize it til someone ghosts me then tells me later. Hate certain textures and sounds, etc. genuinely can’t function if I’m around them. Social masking. Very weird in general and talk about very certain things I’m passionate about and that’s about it. Extremely funny (apparently) and really good with numbers and coding. Very shy and enjoy doing things by myself.