Scared or not interested?

[cnj421]

How can you tell if a man is pulling away because he’s scared or because he’s not interested?

All the dating experts say men have a pull away phase some months into dating someone when they start to get feelings and are trying to decide if they should be more serious. Is this true? And if so, how can you determine if it’s this or disinterest?

[smilelots]

I think everybody is different. I’m pretty sure everybody is different for different reasons why somebody would pull away as you call it simple talk to him be honest with him. Let him be honest with you if that’s possible you will have your answer. Maybe you’re just seeing things that aren’t there maybe there’s more there than you want to see

[cnj421]

I don’t think he’s going to give me the opportunity to talk to him unfortunately. But if he does, I will be honest and have a more open convo. Thank you! 🙏🏼

[BLP11520]

They used to call it cold feet. Men who will not commit. You may just have to be blunt and ask him what’s going on

[cnj421]

If it is fear, what’s the best way to be blunt and ask without it triggering the fear more?

[BLP11520]

I don’t know what to tell you hopefully someone else can weigh in

[cnj421]

Okay thanks so much! 😊

[BLP11520]

You are welcome

[HippoDino]

If a man wants you he will make sure you know it. Real men don't play games and they know what they want. If I really like a girl then she will know it because I will make her feel like the most special girl in the world.

[bradley142]

i think best thing is just ask him and tell him to be straight up with you and stop acting like a kid too many people beat around and are to scared to say rather they like someone or not

[cnj421]

Since this post I did ask. It’s been an interesting couple of months. Haha 😂

[bradley142]

whats happened or you can dm me to say which ever

[Dantezam]

It depends on the circumstances, for how long have you been interacting with this person?

[cnj421]

Say they’ve been interacting for like 4-5 months.

[Dantezam]

Well at this point, most likely he's not interested in take the "relationship" to the next level. I mean, after 4-5 months he would if he wanted.

[cnj421]

Interesting. Why would it be that and not a thought of like okay it’s time to take it to the next level now and do I want to, am I ready, etc? Could it be either?

[Dantezam]

Well, when a man finds the woman who has everything what he's looking for, there's no reason to hesitate to take the relationship to the next level

[Anonymous]

When she hurt me extremely bad emotionally and mentally abusing me