Dates and 2023 ?

[Anonymous]

Why is it that people except sex after a 1st date or in general, but then I have men asking me why am I still single... it's like why would I have sex with some guy I'm not exclusive with or dating
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Is anyone running into this problem?

[Zenpanda]

I completely agree.
Like I get meeting up for the sole purpose of having sex, but who tf expects sex on a first date?
Like I get a goodnight kiss or something if you're really vibing, but I'd want to get to know someone first before having sex with them.
Like I'd want to be dating for a while first.
Do some fun activities and such, just chill, talk and have fun.

[Asker]

35 and have yet to meet anyone on this level

[Zenpanda]

I'm 33, nice to meet you 😅

[Asker]

Same

[Asimiv]

I wouldn't say people expect it. At least not where I am. However, if the vibe is good, I'll probably still have s*x on the first date because it will happen spontaneously (sometimes guys were even surprised, my ex especially when we went on our first), but that's my persona choice bcs I have a high libido.

I've never had problems with that in the sense of a man thinking I was only good for s*x because of it. But I always (or at least usually, but from now on always) discuss some important topics on the first date to see if we share enough of the same values to know if we could even be compatible in the long run. And then I discuss that too with the guy (i. e. I say if there's enough compatibility or if this could only be a casual thing, and ask if we're on the same page)

[Billlewis]

You are to be commended for your character.

[Asker]

Yeah most people don't