Hello, I met up with a guy I've been talking to at his place. The whole time we were cuddling & kissing he didn't get hard. Is he not attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

[Avicenna]

I can see why you'd be concerned, but don't assume that

[ThrillSeeker01]

How do you know he didn't get hard? I think a lot of guys can get hard from a cuddle.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Malwi93]

Had the exact same situation. The 2nd time he invited me though! And still didn't stand up

[slatyb]

How old is he? Is he fit?

[Asker]

40 & fit

[slatyb]

Hard to say. It's possible he's just not attracted to women. Did you ask him?

[Asker]

Yes, he said he was trying to be respectful & control himself because he doesn't want to look at me as a conquest or piece of meat

[slatyb]

That's a rather patronizing view of women, and it doesn't explain his lack of arousal. Sexual arousal is not subject to conscious control, although perhaps by concentrating one's mind on something else it can be reduced. Sorry, sounds like BS to me.

[Anonymous]

That means nothing

[Jmmmfi4]

PROBABLY NERVOUS

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't have a sex drive