Hey, I am on a few dating apps, and because I don’t like how I look (I’m working on it). Do guys prefer fit and healthy women?

[Anonymous]

I like this guy that I saw on my ‘who likes me’ page of Hinge. Though I am unsure whether to contact him now or to wait til next year, when I’ve hopefully lost all the weight I want to lose.

[Anonymous]

Well, let me tell you, it's all about confidence. The best, believe me. You're on these dating apps, right? You're looking, you're swiping, you're doing your thing. Now, about your look, you're working on it, that's tremendous, really great. But remember, it's not just about being fit and healthy, it's about that attitude, that sparkle. People love that, they really do.

Now, about this guy on Hinge, you see him, he sees you, it's like a connection, right? But you're thinking, "Should I wait? Should I lose the weight first?" Let me tell you, why wait? You're fantastic now! You're not just going to be great next year, you're great today. It's all about taking the shot, seizing the moment. You don't want to look back and think, "Could have been huge, could have been a great story." No, you want to jump in, make the story happen.

And if he's smart, he'll see that. He'll see you're not just about the looks, you're the whole package. Personality, charm, the works. So go ahead, send that message, make that connection. You're a winner, always have been, always will be. And remember, it's not just about the destination, it's about the journey, the fantastic journey. So enjoy it, every step of the way!

[Asker]

That’s such a nice message, thank you so much :). I would text him now, but there’s also other stuff I’m focusing on, and I’ve got a few things I need to pay off, I’d prefer to pay this debt off, so I have more financial freedom, to do stuff with him, if that even does happen. I also, wanted to wait to see if I am still very attracted to him, in a few months time. As, sometimes people swipe on someone but it’s just a fleeting feeling. I want to be sure, before I message him.

[Iron_Man]

Most guys like women that are in a halfway decent shape

[Asker]

Right, then I really need to work on myself then, because I wouldn’t want to go out on a date with a guy, and he’d be disappointed. Not going to lie, I’d prefer a guy in good shape too

[Iron_Man]

It depends how you look maybe you’re not that bad, but I wouldn’t do anything dangerous or starve yourself over it. Do what is best for your health

[Asker]

I don’t think I’m ugly ugly, and the photos I used aren’t full length and aren’t filter - I think it’s so stupid when girls in particular filter their photos, or wear lots of make up, that they look like a completely different person. I wanted to lose weight even before I saw that guys profile, so it's definitely not for him.

[Iron_Man]

I’m sure you’re just fine I wouldn’t worry about your face or anything else just get yourself healthy do what’s best for you

[Asker]

Yeah, and hopefully in 6 months time I could do an update, haha maybe?

[Iron_Man]

Yes good

[SueShe]

The question is: Why are you on so many dating applications? What is the main reason you are on them? Is it because you just want to fornicate or you want a steady and long term relationship?

If it is simply to fornicate and forget, then you have nothing to worry. Most men on those dating applications only seek a quickie and then you will never hear from them again. That should not be a problem for any woman to obtain because, let's face it, that is what those dating sites are for.

If on the other hand, you want a long term relationship, then those dating sites are really not the place to look for someone.

You may not like the way you look but that does not mean that men don't like you for your looks. If you feel that you have to change something on your looks to attract men, then I am not sure that you would attract the ones that like you for whom you are. Those people that solely rely on looks will never have a long lasting relationship.

[Asker]

I am definitely looking for a ‘long term relationship’. I’m only on Bumble, Hinge and Tinder (I don’t like Tinder). But, when I first signed up to those apps, I only wanted to see what type of people are on those apps and that was back in 2019. But the guy I like, seems genuinely like a good guy, he’s on 2 of the apps I use, as I’ve seen his profile pop up on 1 of them. I definitely am not that type of person who goes from 1 guy to the next. I would never be like that, even if I was fitter.

Even, when I’m out in public I might find someone attractive but then they have a partner already. I wouldn’t lose weight just for a guy, I’ve already kind of started like over to try to lose weight and that’s before I started ‘liking’ that guy.

[SueShe]

If you want to lose weight, then do it for yourself and never for others because you don't have the same motivation. Good luck with your endeavor and hope you can find the right person.

[Asker]

Thank you so much 🙂 I can’t wait til the Christmas/ New years period is over. So it’s a new year of trying to get my life back on track.

[ThrillSeeker01]

A full-bodied woman is hot, too.

[Asker]

Curvy but not chubby. I don’t want to stick thin, but I don’t want to be obese.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Sure, obese is too much. But curvy is hot ☺️

[Asker]

I’m trying to think of “curvy” female celebrities and all I can think of Christina Hendrix

[ThrillSeeker01]

I think Christina Hendrix is honestly known for her boobs (as well as her curves) but I can think other curvy celebrities... like Scarlett Johansson, for example.

[Asker]

She is 😂 yeah Scarlett would be and Selena Gomez is another one.

[Anonymous]

How much weight are you planning to lose

[Asker]

I want to lose 25-30 kgs, basically want to be a size 8-10.

[Opinion Owner]

What size are you now

[Asker]

Australian size 16-18 😬😩