Y'all I need somebody to talk to, relationship advice?

[Anonymous]

I found videos of my boyfriend cheating with another woman. This happened Oct 31, 2023 and I found them the end of Dec. He don't know I know and I ain't said nothing bc I'm just sitting back watching, if that makes sense. I need some advice honestly, somebody to talk to. Ain't got any friends, lmao.

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3 mo

I mean i hope he will be honest when i talk to him but its been this long and he ain't said anything obviously bc he thought i wouldn't find out. But I planned on talking with him about a few different things, along with that and see if he does what he's supposed to do. If not, then I got my answer.

[Curi0us0ne]

The first question you should ask yourself is “what do you want to do now?”

I respect anyone’s decision to stay or leave but make sure you do it for yourself and don’t let anyone talk you into doing something you don’t want to.

So, what do you want to do?

[FunkyMonkee]

I discovered my fiance was cheating on me so I dropped her like a hot brick! You should either do the same or use that video to, somehow, ruin his rep before breaking it off with him.

[Asker]

See the only reason I haven't addressed this is bc I want him to admit it without me letting him know I already knew. Because my first thought was to knock his teeth down his throat but I chose to take a higher approach and just sit back and observe

[Asker]

And I am sorry to hear that

[FunkyMonkee]

How would go about doing that?

[FunkyMonkee]

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

First off I’m showing my proof and leaving! Lol cheating is cheating babe, he destroyed the relationship and trust, on top of all that he has no intent on tell you.

[Asker]

That's the way I see it, like after seeing that it's like totally ruined my trust. Every time I ain't around I wonder what he's doing and it makes me question everything he's told me in the past. Here I thought everything was going good and then I see that and it happened you know those couple months back but he still did it and didn't say anything but will question me. Like wth.

[Opinion Owner]

Sad part is, that’s only what you’ve caught, if he can do that behind your back lord knows what else has happened. You’ll never be able to have peace in this relationship going forward and it’s his own fault. Get out of that now before you give yourself anymore unnecessary trauma.

[Asker]

Yea like now whenever I think about it, I think what else has he done and lied about that I don't know of. Sad thing is when I first seen it and knew he cheated was damn what did I do to make him do that, and I should. I'm so uncertain now

[Asker]

Shouldn't *

[Opinion Owner]

Like you wanna bring up some topics and hope he tells you he cheated? I could be misunderstanding but in any case I wouldn’t expect him to tell you on his own. Clearly guilt does not eat his ass up.

[Asker]

Yea something like that and oh I know.. he didn't look to damn guilty feeling this other woman's ass and her boobs in the video.

[Opinion Owner]

Damn I’m so sorry! What a POS, you deserve better than that

[Jessica405]

You can always pm me. As an ex moderator, I have an open mail box.