How can I pay a guy to be my first boyfriend?

[Sugar100]

I’m 26 and never had a boyfriend. I never had a serious relationship.

all guys I meet only want sex & no one wants to be my boyfriend.

I truly cannot find a guy that’s wants a girlfriend, I’m very worried, do I need pay a guy to be my boyfriend & meet family?

the more guys I meet I cannot find a guy that loves me,

I had special condition with my crush but I wasn’t able to give him my number as we got seperated after Christmas & he worked Night Shift & I worked day shift & I think we both are fired.
but who knew if he wanted be my boyfriend or only sex too.
do I need meet 1 million guys to get a boyfriend?

how do I pay a guy to have a short term relationship with me & spend holidays this year with me for first time in my life?

[Finchie40]

All guys’ want sex , so my advice to you is to be open and honest with a guy that you are attracted to. That you are looking for a relationship , before you even consider having sex with him , don’t have sex with him right away , take the slow approach , by getting to really know each other first and making sure you both have a lot in common and share a lot of the same interests , Don’t my get me wrong , it’s still going to be a 50/50 chance , but your chances of finding a relationship , will increase as long as you are honest from the beginning , If a guy really likes you , he will invest a lot of his time into you , by calling you and wanting to see you as much as possible , if he just wants sex , he will only call you when it’s convenient for him , that’s the guys’ you should start distancing yourself from because they clearly just want sex with you and nothing more. But if a guy is calling you or texting you on a daily basis and asking you questions about things that you enjoy and things that you like to do for fun etc. that is clearly trying to get to know you more , than that’s a guy that you should invest your time into as well and get to know him as well before you jump into bed with him. He will ask you on a date and take you on to dinner or for drinks so he can get to know you more as well, if he just wants to have sex , he isn’t really
Going to try to get to know you he is just trying to get into your pants.

[Sugar100]

That’s not true cuz the guy I dated is 32 and he took me for dates but it was becuz he only wanted sex & we never met family, did anything serious. Then I hear some girls say they had sex on first date & now they are married & guy ask to be his girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

That guy would text me daily but it was all fake all just for sex. Not cuz he truly wanted know me more and love me

[Finchie40]

Sadly that’s the chances we all take when it comes to meeting someone new , Most of us encounter bad seeds before finding a good seed , we can’t read each others’ minds and we don’t really know what someone’s true intentions is . I had my fair share of girls’ that did this to me , having me think they were in it for the long haul, to realize they were lying to me and only in it for the short haul , basically thanks for a good time , but not a long time. Again it’s the chances we all take when we meet someone new that seems amazing to us that tells us things we like to hear , to find out they were only after one thing , Sex. Me personally loves sex , so if her and I had a great time playing Twister together in bed and then she eventually decides she no longer wants to continue seeing me? That’s fine , don’t let the door hit ya in the ass on your way out , We can’t force someone to love us and we can’t force someone to stay by our side , all we can do , is treat someone the same way we want to be treated in return , if someone chooses to lie to you to get what they want from you? that’s something they have to live with knowing they were a lying piece of shit person , and Karma usually hits them right in the ass eventually for their selfish actions. Yes it sucks that they lied to you but at least we had great sex together and she got me off even though my intentions was to keep seeing her , but oh well I guess I was wrong , So I move on to the next hoping the next is
Going to be better than what I experienced before. So again it’s the chances we take

[Drew-1990]

Not all guys just want sex there are many guys that want a relationship over sex. I'm in a very similar boat I have never had a serious relationship myself either. I just want a girl to be with. Sex can and will wait till I love that girl if not marriage. The good ones are hard to find not because they don't exist but are the ones that you ignore and don't find because they are doing their own things. Don't pay a guy to be in a relationship that is not a true relationship at all he won't care about you and you will just get hurt in the end. Believe me I understand the want to not be alone.

[DJB72]

Look in better places. You won't find a guy who is high quality in most bars or by paying him. Try a church - horror of horrors. Single guys in churches don't tend to be just looking for sex - or expecting the girl to be either. If they're mid 20s then they're a strong character not easily bowed by peer pressure to conform to immature behaviours - usually.

Importantly, you'll probably be able to have a conversation with them and enjoy time together.

Of course, joining a church to meet the right guy you need to be prepared that you may find more than a man there.

[Sugar100]

At job I had many guys show interest in me but my crush and I got along really well 3 days but we didn’t give each other our numbers , he is introverted like me & now I lost contact with him, & I began like his lookalike but when he tried pursue me I got fired at the same time.

Then I recently met another lookalike on a dating app. & we got along really well but he lives in another state but I don't know if he’ll be my boyfriend in future or not I don't know yet.

[Sugar100]

Yes I haven’t tried church yet.

[DJB72]

It's difficult to meet the right person sometimes. Where you first meet can say a lot. Look at character rather than looks. Looks change over time and not all guys get "distinguished" - most of us get fat.

If you're looking for something serious, the most attractive thing you can do is to work on being the best you can offer. That's true of both genders. Consider what role you want to play in the relationship and make your focus more about becoming the best version of that. You'd be surprised how often the right person just appears when you do that.

Good luck

[hahahmm]

Let's say there's 2 personality types (just for examples). You see women with personality type #1 getting guys with personality type #1. But you have type #2. It doesn't matter if you meet 50,000,000 of these guys none of them will ever be interested in making you his girlfriend. But if you meet a type #2 guy he could be strongly attracted to you on day 1 and it goes deeper than just sex. Well, okay, not day 1, but there's that potential & he realizes it.

A lot of people make the mistake of pretending to be someone they aren't or chasing the type of person who isn't attracted to them.

You may not even be consciously aware of what personality type #1 and #2 are but you can see the surface stuff you have been chasing/ignoring.

[Sugar100]

I don’t chase hot guys I like weird quiet skinny guys that are like me

[hahahmm]

There's an incompatibility between your personality and the guys you chase. Also best not to chase guys. Better to be the woman that a guy decides he wants to go after. But I'm sure you have heard that before.

[Sugar100]

No guy chases me. The only guy that has chased me in my entire life is my ex but he o ly used me for sex, so I have experience on my bad guys chase me. The good quiet guys don’t chase me, At my job the guys liked me but they would. Follow me or be near me on purpose many days many times as a way of showing they like me but they never talked they were waiting for me to make first move and talk.

I talked to my crush. And we got along great 3 days then we got separated and now both fired.

[Sugar100]

First I see crush June wen I begin breaking up with ex, then we r unable meet and talk so then he’s fired August , Sep to nov I meet other guys at job that show interest but none r becoming my boyfriend , some too shy , then crush comes back to job decmeber , we meet finally & we get along perfect together

[Sugar100]

Then people at job begin noticing weight be a couple & gossiping. Then we get separated & I cannot give him my number & we get fired.

[Sugar100]

The job lets u come back 90 days so 90 days is til end may or June.

[Sugar100]

Same shit is happening march to may , i netting other guys and it not working out , I will return to the job June and hope my crush appears at the job June too and we reunite & gvie him my number

[hahahmm]

Go to married couples who have been together a long time and aren't too much older than you or -- not as good but better than nothing - go to couples who have just been together for many years and seem happy. Ask them about when they first met and how. It will give you clues.

[Unit1]

Girl, I remember your questions from years ago. You keep having the exact same problem across several years just like me.

No, do not pay a guy to be your boyfriend. They won't love you. They'll only pretend to love you while happily taking your money to buy themselves fortnite skins or something. Chances are you'll feel used and worse afterwards.

Keep looking. We are the unlucky ones. It is how it is.

[Sugar100]

I’m a very romantic person, I shud be spending my whole life in a relationship each year even if it’s not with the same guy, I’m waisting my life alone, i want be in a relationship every year all year with a boyfriend. Not alone.

[Unit1]

I am very romantic too, girl. I want to be in a relationship with a good girl as well.
However as you have noticed, we'll need to actually do lots of stuff to get the things we want. Nobody will hand it to us.

[DaBiggestBird]

Sounds more like business than a relationship, like back in ancient times when most marriages were forced upon underage girls. That’s some of Da Biggest Bullsh*t in history, it’s so irritating reading that kind of stuff during a school lesson. Plus it’s minors 90% of the time, sometimes I wish I had bombastic vomit so I can nuke people. Been lingering on the idea of actually crafting some kind of tool with the function. Anything is possible after all, and before that I was thinking about making my own signature grenades so knowing how those work might help

[DextroShade]

This is ridiculous, you could easily find some guy to be your boyfriend but most of them are just invisible to you because they aren't Chad and Tyrone. Literally this:

[Sugar100]

I like nerdy dorky guys with glasses

[DextroShade]

🧢🧢🧢

[DryGermanGuy]

That's actually a bit funny, because paying a guy to be a "beard" is allegedly a pretty common occurrence with closeted lesbians in higher positions. :-D

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

A guy that would accept money to be your pretend boyfriend is probably not the type of guy you want to show off to your family. Sex is great and relationships are great; why do these have to be separated in your world?

[Sugar100]

I will have sex with a boyfriend but I can’t find a guy that wants to be my boyfriend

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

@Sugar100 where are you looking?

[Sugar100]

I found a good guy at job but I didn’t give him my number fast and we lost contact , and I think we both r fired. He felt like my soulmate. I think he was the right guy for me & I lost him.

I met his lookalike last wk & he also was a good guy but he lives in another state so I don't know if he’ll pursue me in future and be my boyfriend or no he won’t and it was only fling to him.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

@Sugar100 that sounds like you've fully committed yourself to a specific guy that you haven't even gotten to first base yet. A guy who you have no contact with and might already be married by now. Your first step is going to be getting over that guy.

[Sugar100]

Why I have to get over him? I will visit him may and he’s going to visit me too June and August

[Sugar100]

Are u talking about crush or the lookalike I met and texting?

[Sugar100]

I’m confused who u r talking about, none of them are married

[RavVid]

All guys want sex by the way.

It is harder for introverts - do you talk to guys and be friendly? You can't really pay for a boyfriend.

[Sugar100]

Yes I’m friendly but they all want sex and no girlfriend. I don’t do friends with benefits I am a girlfriend. Not a sex girl.

[RavVid]

I see your problem now. Don't have much to suggest at the moment

[Sugar100]

I’m not a friends with benefits , why did that make you upset?

[RavVid]

I wasn't upset. I was more thinking good for you for having standards. Not that long ago girls would insist on sex being within a relationship. I am not so sure anybody gets what they want with friends with benefits other than sex..

If a guy is thinking in terms of a family then he should want a family oriented girl and average guys are better for you. So look for guys like that. A problem for men is the median marriage is 8 years and two children and he is then unilaterally divorced. For myself that is scary and I expect is to other men. Tinder etc is not very kind to average so while I was going to say stay away from dating apps, maybe it could work if you are selective in the right way.

[Sugar100]

I told you I met a guy on a dating app last wk and we had perfect connection got along perfectly well, he’s a family guy, but he lives in another state,
So I don't know if he’ll want be my girlfriend in the future or he’ll be gone & just was a fling and that’s it.

He is first guy in my life that treated me good. I was so happy and blissful the 2 days I was with him.

[Sugar100]

I don't know yet if he only wants sex & he’s gone won’t pursue me or if he’ll fall in love for me in future and be my boyfriend.

[Sugar100]

I met before him 100 guys on the dating app & all were bad guys don’t want a girlfriend & i he felt like the right one for me that’s y I met him.

[Sugar100]

Also he is an average guy he’s not super hot model , my crush is an average nerdy dorky guy too but I didn’t give him my number fast so we lost contact & I last saw him before Christmas at job.

I think my crush was my soulmate and he’s gone.

[RavVid]

Well the family guy might work out for you and hope it does seeing he treated you well. Could you ask about about your crush at work in the sense of what happened to what his name?

[Phoenix98]

if you start a relationship like that it's going to fail miserably. Not only that but it's not real because you'd be paying someone to pretend.

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex.
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is what freedom and equality looks like.

[JayBones2469]

You give him money. It's that easy. My first girlfriend payed me 8,000 to live with her for a year. We broke up on day 366

[Bklynbadboy12]

No don't pay anyone cause at the point it isn't real and it will feel that way. You won't have the closeness it would feel like a business arrangement

[CubaPirate]

Try an older mature guy you don't need to pay

[Sugar100]

I don’t like older guys , I would feel weird dating someone my dads age. No guy wants a girlfriend , only sex or friends with benefits or fuckboys

[Sugar100]

No new guy has asked me for a date , on dating apps guys plan date with me then ask for hookup when dates over. I don't know if that’s new way of dating now?

[Sugar100]

Only guy that dated me was ex but he only wanted sex & fuckboy

[CubaPirate]

Okay sorry to hear that, but was meaning a more mature guy around 30 to 35 not someone your dad's age

[Anonymous]

Escort agency
They don't sell sex just companionship legally

[Abdulwahh]

There can be 2 reasons first your age and how is your looks?

[jahaims]

That isn't how it works

[Awantika03]

No need to pay

[LiamS95]

You can't

[LEGENDARY4200]

Shouldn't have to

[midoooo]

Here I am