Is being thought of as "sexy," important to you in the dating world/in your relationship?

[Anonymous]

[uniquelyshy]

I mean in the dating world maybe but it's not particularly important to me but if they think so it's a plus, I guess. It's just I used to always think I'm igly no one would want me because I have a lot of let's say insecurities and it's hard ya know. But I found someone who actually thinks I'm so sexy who saw me as beautiful anyways and someone who saw through my outer appearance and saw what I had to offer and what was inside me and it felt amazing. So if you mean a simple your sexy especially in bed type of thing the no I don't want it but what he gave me I loved it and it changed my perspective in such a way that I can say he healed a part of me I didn't know was broken.

[DishLady]

“In the dating world” I couldn’t give a flying fig who thinks I’m sexy. I’ve had my youthful/popular time and just want a peaceful life with my guy — whose the only one I’d hope would find me sexy. 😂

[Asker]

So it matters then.

[HawkPerception]

I think physical attraction is important. I want to able to wake up next to my partner and think "damn what a sexy girl I have".

Looks do fade over time, but while we're young, it definitely is important.

Personality matters more because no matter how physically attractive a girl is, if her personality is shit I'd never want to date her.

So the key is obviously having both.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I guess but it's not the most important thing in the world. I'd rather be viewed as a good, honest, or loving man than sexy. Not to say being viewed as all of the above isn't impossible

Also sexy and attractive are not exactly the same thing, I would hope my partner is attracted to me in some capacity or else why would they want me

[_SilentWolf_]

In my opinion, of course I like it if my partner finds me sexy, but the most important thing in our relationship is mutual love, respect and understanding. A sexy appearance is less important than other factors that affect the depth and health of the relationship. The important thing is to establish a relationship that complements and makes each other happy.

[curiousmandy]

No. I am comfortable and confident in my body and appearance. If someone doesn’t find me attractive or sexy it’s ok, I’m not for everyone and it doesn’t upset me

[ProbablyClueless]

Fairly... It's nice to feel desired and like my girlfriend sees me as a prize worth holding onto.

[Asker]

That's the way I see it. As long as it matters to the one you're with or trying to get with.

[CrabCakes11]

Not particularly. I know my boyfriend thinks I’m sexy, but if he thought I was physically attractive in other ways I wouldn’t mind

[MacDaddyRico]

I don't care what other people think of me, that's their opinions...
I've been told I was a fox, that I resemble Al Pacino, and some dude from the country band Alabama, and Dustin Hoffman, and... You get the idea; I don't look like any of them...

[HappyWoman34]

Yes; except with the guys I’m not attracted to.

[Nikki1989]

No, I just make myself happy. I don't care what others think.

[mandyfire98]

I mean yeah. Who doesn't want to be considered sexy?

[Anonymous]

Yes, important. My hubs better think I'm sexy. I did have my doubts when I was prego. I definitely did not feel sexy.

[clampfan101]

Nice, but not important. What matters is that she loves me for who I am.

[Asker]

Okay, fair play.

[clampfan101]

I do want to be attractive to her, but more for her benefit than my own. I want her to always be happy to see me.

[sheikalana]

It’s important to me that my partner is attracted to me after years together.

[TacosRAwesome]

Within my relationship... Yes. In the dating world, somewhat but not too much.

[dragoblack]

Well, sexy is a sign of intense attraction, where handsome is basically entry level. It also depends on how she says it to.

[elaphe]

Not for ordinary people, but certainly from my girlfriend.

[whistlingwh0res]

Cute and cuddly is more important for Asian I think

[dustybiker2]

Only towards my man. Nobody else matters.

[djcrazy76]

NAH!!