Should I date an ugly guy?

[Anonymous]

After unsuccessful dating attempts a family member decides to set me up with this guy saying that “He’s a good guy” and “He’s really sweet”. I figured she knows me so knows what I’m into. This guy should be a little bit decent. Mind you I normally date nerdy guys so I’m not just seeking out very attractive guys. I search this guy up and he’s not attractive not even a little. I feel like I’m being forced with a relationship and I feel bad if I don’t try. Not to mention I get texts from them every day asking how it’s going and the guy’s mom friend requested me. I feel like women are told to date ugly guys or they’re shallow but guys are always told they can do better. I think I’ll just go on a date with him to make everyone leave me alone.

[Anonymous]

Have you thought maybe you’re the one who’s not the best looking either that’s why it’s not working out w these other men? I mean the one thing that’s constant in your attempted relationships is you. So maybe you’re the issue. I’m not saying that to be cruel either. A lot of people fail to look at their self. That maybe they’re the issue.

[Asker]

I am looking at myself which is why I date within my number (rank)

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. What about personality wise? You think you have a personality that a man would like ore more argumentative,?

[Asker]

I’m a Christian so am limited to my options. I’m also wanting a serious relationship because I want to get married. No one wants to get married anymore likely because of divorce court always favoring the women. I don’t blame them really but there’s still good women that pay the price

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you say you’re limited as a Christian woman? I think a lot of men want to get married. They’re not scared of marriage, they’re scared of divorce. Plus honestly a lot of women I’ve encountered these days aren’t worthy of marriage. I know a lot of men who are Christian who are single. Good dudes. Work hard. But they will most likely never find someone cause like you said the person you were set up w is ugly. Which I think if you’re Christian that would be a mean thing to say since God created that man the way he is as far as his looks for a reason. What I’m saying is you’re “shitting” on God’s work, his creation.

[Asker]

I believe people are created looking nice but can make themselves ugly. Example gluttony equals obesity, smoking/ drugs equal messed up teeth. As a woman I’m looking for a provider and protector. For me a heavy set person can’t take care of themselves so how can they take care of me?

[Opinion Owner]

So he’s heavy set?

[Asker]

Yes, he’s heavy set. I’ve decided to go on a date with him. There are people in this world that people find unattractive. I don’t think anyone should be demonized for having a preference. I don’t think I’ll get with a model but I’m not looking for that. I need someone who cares about his ‘temple’.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. What do you look like? Hour glass figure? Pretty face? Is he heavy because of his choices in life or is it something medical?

[Asker]

I think I’m slightly prettier than decent. I’m on the shorter side and I’m curvy. Wouldn’t say hour glass. I don’t know why the guy is heavy. Could be genetics or the massive amount of buffets around this area.

[Opinion Owner]

Could be. Now I don’t know you at all but just the way you’re talking, responding makes it sound like even though you’re thinking you’re a good Christian woman, you’re really not deep down. You could have said maybe it is genetics, a medical problem or just eating too much. But throwing in the whole maybe it’s the massive amount of buffets around this area makes me think otherwise. You're making a judgement on someone you really don’t know. I know I am too on you but I’m not religious for one. Who knows maybe it’s something you can help w if he’s eating too much. Maybe having a beautiful wife around or girlfriend would encourage him to do better. The way you’re describing him sounds as though he probably hasn’t had many women falling into his lap. But facially speaking is he ugly as well? Or what you cos diet ugly?

[Opinion Owner]

*what you consider ugly?

[Asker]

He looks a good bit older than he is.

[Opinion Owner]

So what is it? His looks or that he’s older?

[Asker]

His looks. I said he looks way older than he is

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly I think you’re just looking for all kinds of reasons to disqualify him. He’s probably be better off on his own or meeting someone else. Like I mentioned before you say you’re Christian but you don’t really sound like one. Not from the Christians I know as far as their partners, how they treat each other. This is probably part of the reason why you’re almost 30 but still have not found someone. I think it’s partially your personality, maybe a few other things. Maybe even your looks. I don’t know.

[Asker]

Would you date an ugly woman?

[Opinion Owner]

I have. She wasn’t the best looking girl on this planet but she was loyal, took good care of me. Was there for me. I’d say she was maybe a 6, maybe a 7 w some makeup. I used to date a girl when I was 25 who wasn’t fit, she was actually chubby. But she had a good personality. Always took care of me as well. I’ve also dated cute women.

[Asker]

Ugly is not a six. Four on down is ugly

[Opinion Owner]

To you that’s your standards of what ugly is. It varies from person to person. Based on the women I’ve been w before yes that to me is ugly. Like I said I’ve dated a chubby girl before. Similar to the man you’re being set up w.

[Asker]

Bro legit 5 is average. You can’t compare a six or seven to a four and say yeah that’s ugly I’d date someone ugly. That’s above average

[Opinion Owner]

Again that’s your standards. You can’t tell me my standards are wrong if that’s what I think it is. Besides this isn’t about me. It’s about you. You’re the one who won’t date an ugly dude. Again I think no your personality is a big part of the reason why you’re still single at almost 30. What’s the longest relationship you’ve been in? What happened w that relationship?

[Asker]

There is a universally accepted ranking system. I’m not saying what the numbers are. That’s what they mean. Srry I’m talking to an old man who doesn’t understand rankings

[Opinion Owner]

lol now you’re trying to attack me over my age. Good Christian woman for sure. Grow up. All part of your personality. That is why you’re single. You’re getting your feelings hurt w nothing to really stand on so you’re resorting to trying to hurt me. Not going to work. probably act childish around men too that’s why they don’t want to commit to you.

[Asker]

Simply saying the answer to my question is no you wouldn’t date anyone ugly. A 4 is ugly. A six is above average. Would you date Lizzie if she were poor?

[Asker]

Lizzo*

[Opinion Owner]

No I wouldn’t date her because I don’t approve of what she stands for or what she promotes. You’re getting it twisted, men don’t date women for finances. If you meet a man like that than you need to kick him to the curb. A woman making a lot of money doesn’t make her more attractive. It actually makes her less attractive a majority of the time. Because a lot of women like that are bossy, argumentative. No it’s not cause men can’t handle them or were intimidated by them the way women think we are. It’s because we choose not to handle them. Who wants to go out in the world battling your boss, other people, and so on them come home to a woman like that? A majority of men don’t that’s for sure. Women look at men’s finances. We tend to look at their past.

[Asker]

Lizzo for me is a four. She has a pretty face but her body is a no and her personality is even worse. Might even put her at a two. So being you wouldn’t date someone that looks like her and she’s a four then me not wanting to date a four is normal. I only said without her money because I know you can’t get with a millionaire

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, I already said I’ve dated someone who was chubby. By chubby yes someone like her size. To me what makes Lizzo a 4 according to your option is not that she’s that big, but her personality. What she stands for. What she promotes. As far as my status w getting a girl who’s a millionaire, you have no idea what my relationship status is or who I am so you have no idea what I’m capable of. I don’t need a millionaire. I make plenty as it is to take care of not only myself, but my girl of 15 years, my kids as well as our 8 dogs and the 5 bedroom house we have. No she doesn’t work. But that’s the type of person I wanted in my life. She does it cause she wants that type of life. Not cause I told her she had to.

[Asker]

Bro chill. I can’t get with a millionaire either. Why do you keep assuming I’m attacking you over ever little thing? So in closing you as a man wouldn’t date a 4 or below so me not wanting to date a four is okay. But as I posted earlier I’ll go on one date with him just to appease my family.

[Opinion Owner]

I am chill. See the difference between men and women so we speak directly. Women don’t like that cause it hurts their feelings. I’m fine w it. I’m actually surprised you’re still having a conversation w me because most women start getting emotionally involved w their hurt feelings so they start trying to throw things out like you’re just old. I’m lot mad. Just sitting here.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve already said I’ve date a girl who was big. She wasn’t a 4 to me but I guess if we’re just looking at it that she’s fat by your standards than ok she was a 4. But what boosted her to more than just a 4 was that she was a good person. Took care of me in many ways. I don’t think I’ll ever date again. I’ve been w someone now for 15 years.

[Asker]

I said you’re an old man because you’re a man and are older than me which is the definition of old man to me. You got mad at that. Don’t know why. Whatever. I don’t know. Debating is fun to me. I’m quite entertained.

[Opinion Owner]

Never got mad.. Reread what I said. I don’t care if you call me old. But you claiming to be Christian, far from Christian to me. You can call me whatever it doesn’t bother me. When you’ve worked in Rosina, spent time in the military, been shot at as well as all kinds of racial slurs, etc, etc, you don’t care what people say about you. Or when others have tried to kill you. So no I’m not sitting on my computer crying that you called me old lol

[Opinion Owner]

*prisons

[Asker]

Oh you were in the military? Thank you for your service. I appreciate the sacrifice for my freedom.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes for about 10 years. Worked in the resins for about 9. What about you?

[Asker]

I wish I could’ve joined but got vaccine injured and got epilepsy. I think they should’ve let me join anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

What sort of vaccine?

[Asker]

Gardisil

[Opinion Owner]

Well that’s no good. Something that supposed to do good for you didn’t. I myself aside from vaccines as a kid don’t mess w that stuff.
Yes military won’t let you in for a lot of things. It’s one thing to develop it while you’re in, but if you have it before than more than likely it’ll disqualify you. If you could have gone in what branch would you have gone into?

[Asker]

Air Force or national guard

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So what is life like for you ole? What do you do? Hobbies? Family?

[Asker]

Well I’m southern so the humidity is making summer hotter and we have all these mosquitos tearing us up. I like gardening and fishing. I live alone with my two dogs.

[Opinion Owner]

So you’re in the states? I was stationed in North Carolina as well as Texas so I know all about the heat. I also like gardening. Mainly flowers. But right now it’s way too hot. It’s been in the triple digits for quite sometime now so a majority of plants die. Haven’t been fishing in a long time. Looking forward to sometime in the near future.

[Asker]

Almost time to plant pumpkins

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve never planted pumpkins. Maybe one day. What time is it where you’re at? It’s 0100 here.
So what made you decide to go on a date w this man?

[Asker]

It’s 3 am. Well my cousin tried to set me up with her friends brother. I feel kinda forced to date him

[Opinion Owner]

I see. But did she ask you first before she did this? Don’t go if you feel forced. Go because you want to. Have you been in a long term relationship before?

[Asker]

I pretty much wasn’t asked. The guy was already told about me so was excited and they told me he was expecting me to friend request him. Anyway I was never in a long term relationship. I let my epilepsy hold me back. Didn’t think anyone would want me with that so I started dating late. I regret it now.

[Opinion Owner]

Is the epilepsy that bad? I’m sure you take some meds for it yes?

[Asker]

I don’t have them anymore. God cured me

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. That’s good. So do you think men don’t like you as far as what you look like? I guess I’m trying to figure out what you think the reason is that you haven’t met someone? Maybe you sabotage some of the relationships you’ve tried to make because you were afraid of rejection because of the epilepsy?

[Asker]

Normally they run away when I say I’m on disability which I should get off soon and go find a job but mostly it’s because they want to focus on their career first or they have weird fetishes

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So when you say disability it’s because of the epilepsy? Nothing else?

[Asker]

They put me on there because my medicine was expensive

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So physically speaking you’re fine? Look wise you said you’re curvy. Shorter. Which most men look at. Besides this dude you were set up w do you have any other potential suitors?

[Asker]

I’m sure I can find someone on a dating site or Facebook even the gym

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure you could. What would you say is your best physical feature? I think you could find someone. Like I said don’t go if you feel obligated to go on this date. Especially if you weren’t even asked first. That’s not right.

[Asker]

I’ve been told I have nice lips

[Opinion Owner]

Nice lips are always a plus. Do you wear makeup? What type of man ideally would you like?

[Asker]

I wear makeup. I prefer guys on the shorter side around 5 7 and I like nerdy dudes. A little muscle is nice but not necessary. I really like smart dudes. I need someone to challenge me

[Opinion Owner]

Challenge you in what way?

[Asker]

If I don’t know something I like to learn and if I know something I like to teach

[Opinion Owner]

I see. I like to learn as much as I can. Listen to a lot of audiobooks. Like to travel. There’s a lot of things I like to do. What do you like to do for fun?

[Asker]

I like to paint

[Opinion Owner]

You good at it? I used to draw a lot when I was younger, but not much now. I do like art though. Been messing w AI, trying to create some things. I’m Natove American so supposedly we draw good lol

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say I’m good but I like getting messy. It’s cool that you’re native. I found out I have some Ottawa in my family

[Opinion Owner]

Oh nice. A lot of my family member draw. Very good at it too. I like messing w the computer, trying to draw things or make things on AI. It’s fun.

[Sasquach]

You should probably just end it now rather than give him false hope for a relationship you have no desire to be in

[DishLady]

Honestly? If there’s no attraction between you then there’s no point in leading the guy on by forcing something that ain’t there for you. If you’re already considering him “ugly” then why are you wasting his time?

[Nikki1989]

You date the most compatible ones. Looks have little to do with anything.

[SweetJoyGirl]

What do YOU want to do?

[Asker]

I do not like being set up much less dating someone ugly. If I ever did marry someone I was set up with I’d always be reminded I’m only married because of them.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Then let them know you are not interested. Just done it in a way that won’t hurt anyone in the process. 💜

[Asker]

This dude is literally telling everyone around him that he’s ugly and no one will ever love him so everyone is hounding me to date him. I don’t care as much that he’s ugly. That kind of behavior is a turn off.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yea, don’t even try. It would end badly.

[HelpfulWoman]

there's no reason to date someone you're not into

[Iron_Man]

Yeah why not lol

[Asker]

Because you probably wouldn’t want to date an ugly woman. Tell me if I’m wrong.

[Iron_Man]

Who says you’re ugly

[Asker]

I’m saying it isn’t fair to tell a woman to date someone ugly when a man wouldn’t want to date someone they think is ugly.

[Iron_Man]

I’m just answering you yes because you made the question on should I. so I said basically why not. So this is a trick question