Has anyone given up on love?

[Anonymous]

Just done with trying to date out here? Don't care if you find someone or don't anymore? I think I reached the end when it came to dating last year after a toxic friendship with a man that put me through some serious trauma and I never did get my life back on track from that entirely.. my entire life was altered due to that traumatic experience..

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I don't trust anymore and lost hope when it comes to dating

[Zenpanda]

Honestly.
I'm the problem in dating.
I get annoyed with people really quickly.
I don't like feeling like I'm tied down.
I don't want to spend time except when I want to.
I think I want an exclusive friend with benefits.
Sort of like a really open relationship.
No relationship with eachother or anyone else but you live together (even sleep together if you both want that).
No drama, no neediness, no obligations.
Wanna watch a movie? Sure
Wanna go shopping? No? Okay
I feel horny, wanna fuck? Nah. Okay I'm going to the bar then, maybe I'll find someone there.
Okay good luck and have fun!
You received a message from *random dude or girl*, want me to read it to you?
Sure, we met last night.
I'm going to a cabin with some friends.
Cool, sounds like fun. Have a good time.

Just imagine that, sounds like heaven to me.
No must or need, just can and could.
No jealousy, no suspicion, none of that.
The only rule is no dating.
Imagine having a friends with benefits like that.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I've come close but then I remember that giving up only assures failure, we all heal to a good point from trauma and you'll be ready again, not everyone is the same and that is what you should hold on too.

[Asker]

Why should I wait around for anyone

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why should you give up? Isn't any percentage of success better than no chances of success?

[Asker]

Most of today hate women and don't desire marriage

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's not true, if anything they just don't take marriage seriously but there's always some that do and there always will be some that do because they are raised by others that think the same, it's just finding them that can be unmotivating but giving up only assures you never do.

[Asker]

I'm kinda done with American men kinda gave up with finding a mate

[Asker]

Realizing it's better to be single these days

[Asker]

Between the misgony and the gender war stuff it's pointless to date

[ChicoFromThe305]

I have also made the same decision when it comes to American women although I know there's probably still women with potential here, it might be easier to search in another country, thanks to the internet i found a women with good potential in India, maybe in gods will ill one day meet up with her if it was meant to be, if not, then someone else, not everyone is the same, there's many men that respect women and treat them good, just dont limit yourself or trap yourself in a bubble because of a bit of failure.

[Asker]

I will probably be part of the 45% of single and childless women in 2030 especially with the nature of most men in the west. I've been single by choice over a decade. The likelihood of me finding a mate who hasn't been corrupted by toxic masculinity or any red pill teachings is slim. I don't date modern men or men indulged in red pill content... I don't think American men are the it and I have standards and beliefs when it comes to a mate so it exempts most American men

[Asker]

I'm kinda over American men though.. haven't dated since my ex ass and that was in 2015 now focused on my career and healing from the toxic patriarchal system... the way how most American men view American women absolutely gabarage

[ChicoFromThe305]

That would be cause both men and women aren't helping the situation in the western civilization, they both behave like total buffoons and then the good men and women that actually played their cards correctly are just generalized and thrown into the same pile, there's a lot of bad influence going around so that doesn't help, but there's good people, if anything just focus on yourself until you run into someone with potential, you just have to be open to the idea when it comes and don't sabotage yourself with it, its seems like it was for the most part just a generation thing, I'm sure as time goes by it will get better and people might even wake up from all this crap, if you haven't noticed Andrew tate fell off, and so did a lot of this misogynistic trendy crap.

[Asker]

I'm no longer interested in American men dating wise or any man moving forward.. a lot of women are having the same issue globally.. these issues haven't reached there yet

[ChicoFromThe305]

That is a shame, I hope one day you can find the motivation and hope again to maybe date again

[Asker]

Yeah the damage is done and those men who consumed that garbage is beyond repair unless they get therapy and do some realization

[Asker]

With social media exposing men that sealed the deal for me even dealing with men

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea, they must humble up, but ey you hold strong anon, and best of luck with the career stuff, hopefully one day you run into a man that will restore your hope in men. 💯

[Asker]

Yeah I've been focused on my career 15: years now.. as for men nothing has changed there pertaining to evolving with men.. gave up on men a long time ago.. I'm done with men

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sorry to hear that, I guess it's a good thing you only need one man to change your mind or mood and opinion on the idea of men, feel better tho anon

[Asker]

I'm fine accepted just what is and done with American men that's that

[ChicoFromThe305]

At least you can focus on yourself now

[Asker]

I've been focused on myself 2 decades now

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sooo what have you accomplished? :3

[Asker]

I have 2 businesses and I'm a content marketing manager

[ChicoFromThe305]

I see, very good anon 😌👏🏽

[TheRealPepperPotts]

You are hurting and afraid and angry, and that is a truly rough place to be. I'm sorry you are going through all of that. Be gentle with and kind to yourself. Work on other types of relationships (friendships, etc) and get a therapist to unload on so you don't run people off with all that you need to process (therapy is designed for that). Hang in there, girl. <3

[Asker]

I'm not afraid and angry - folks are toxic and not seeking relationships these days

[Asker]

It's all about sex these days and with my standards that's hard

[Asker]

The dating world is a cess pool and oversexualized

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I disagree based on what you shared, because you imply that you've given up on love. You said you've had a traumatic experience and that informs your view. It isn't a negative or bad thing, it just is and that's OK. If you aren't hurt, angry and avoiding intimacy because of a toxic and traumatizing relationship, you probably aren't human! :D

[Asker]

Keep on disagreeing most of these men are misogynistic, don't want marriage, fornicating, and entitled plus broke

[Asker]

Not equipped for relationships or marriage

[Asker]

Yes I have because men of today are trash largely

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I was disagreeing that you aren't hurt, angry and afraid, that's all.

[Asker]

No one wants a used up man and a lot of the men approaching me are MARRIED - wanted marriage not anymore and definitely not with American men

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I think that you are justifiably hurt, angry and afraid based on your experience, and that is OK. It just is.

No one is forcing you to date or be in a relationship. If you want to blame dating and all men, that's fine and totally your call. But I think that's an overreaction and basing your happiness on things that you can't control.

[Asker]

It's not my experience it's how the world is - I haven't dated in 15 years and see how trash dating is

[Asker]

I'm not even blaming all men I don't think there's many decent men worth dating and marriage - most of these men have been ruined by toxic women

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Your feelings are based on your experience and there is nothing wrong with that. It's OK.

[Asker]

I'm not the only one complaining or bringing this up

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Thanks for the MHO. :)

[PeachyPie93]

For the most part yes. But if it happens I'm still open to it. I just don't really see it happening lol.

[JHNS98]

I used to be a romantic, but then I started talking to some girls and rediscovered the experience of a true connection 💞

[Anonymous]

Nah, I just give it the amount of attention it deserves. Women make it easy for me a majority of the time by showing no interest. The other times they flake very fast so I'm always returned my regular scheduled program pretty quickly.

[Asker]

I am done dating too complicated these days

[Opinion Owner]

That's fine.👍

[Asker]

people made it complex

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope. But I have mostly lost interest in dating western women.

[Asker]

Yes I lost interest in American Western men

[noohair]

Life is not over at 35.

[Asker]

Yeah , but romantic life is

[noohair]

I know a girl and when she stopped looking, someone appeared and they are dating.

[Asker]

The likelihood of me finding a mate on my level is hard esp since Covid

[Asker]

First thing is I wouldn't date a man whose taken those shots or supports it