Do you think the desire for change is a strong enough motivation to change yourself?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have found some traits in my personality that I don’t really care much about but I think - aren’t that nice and good for others.
I want to change myself to be a better person. Do you think a desire to change is a good beginning?

[ohsheeT]

... Of course I would say yes I mean I read some of the things you say and I would have to say this question popped into your mind last year and it might just be doing baby steps to get there but you're doing it and you will get there.

When you think about life and you acknowledge things that you know about yourself and things that you want to change change comes once you acknowledge something you think about it what you think about it you have to do something about it it might be in baby steps it might be one big bold move I've never seen that happen before but I'm never going to say never.

And I love this question because I think we should all ask ourselves that and we should all acknowledge it and then we'll have to think about it and do something about it thank you for this question

[Damaged00]

It depends on what you're trying to change and the reasons behind it. I used to think I was too nice and too understanding and it would frustrate me that I would always get taken advantage of. I thought I was a good person and would blame others. But in reality I was a people pleaser, which stemmed from childhood trauma, and I only have myself to blame for allowing people the opportunity to take advantage of me. Not saying they weren't to blame as well but when they were able to do it multiple times to me, that became a me problem. And it took something big and destructive in my life to realize this and then it took hard work, dedication and being able to look inwards at all the darker things in my life in order for me to change. Self reflection is not easy at all but I do believe the first step is realizing that you need to change but desire to change won't be enough.

[PickleTree303]

Fear gets in the way of love. You may go so far as to try to change and use this new way of approach but if fear is still there then you’ll need to go deeper than you’ve ever been, there you will search out the love. It’s not easy but life is what you make of it. Whether you want to know the desire for the condition in which you are in, you must accept the truth that love is not forceful therefore it doesn’t change in an instant moment. The journey belongs to those willing to sacrifice for their community in order to become what I call a loving embodiment of the Earth. Call on your guides within and be honest with them. To let them show you the key to unlocking your true potential. That is love my friend.

[WindAtMyBack]

A desire and real motivation are two different things.

When it comes to changing yourself, it's a heck of a lot easier to change things on the surface than things that are a deeper part of who you are. Very often, simply being aware of something and wanting to change is enough. But if it's a core part of your being, that's a whole different story.

As you get older you WILL change. Usually the more superficial stuff fades naturally, but that is not always the case.

[DishLady]

Yeah, but it has to be sincere and a daily effort.

[NathanDavis]

whether good or bad... changing ourselves is difficult most of the times, perhaps... adjusting ourselves is more plausible

changing ourselves because others think so or say so... usually not a good idea

changing ourselves for the better, yes.. something we all should always strive for, but I would call that evolving... rather than changing, developing

[Ms_Facesitter]

For me it sometimes isn't. I have to ease into it, like hot bath. Dipping my toes into the warm water slowly. I can't just commit all the way Right away. Change is good, but habits can take some time to change. The want to make a change is already good, I might lose motivation if I try to go 100 % right away. When I change it's little by little and add more as I get used to the change :)

[exitseven]

Yes, I have started to get healthy since I retired. I have been retired for over a month and have lost 12 pounds and my resting heart rate has gone from 60 beats per minute to 52.

[Anonymous]

Change that comes from the mind is all people are taught. But real change comes from the spirit and through the renewal of the mind by the Word of God. I used to be a non believer and went the usual route of trying to change things through the mind only. When you change from the spirit, it is like a seed that grows effortlessly. You don't even realise it is happening! This is what society will keep from you I bet.

[lightbulb27]

For sure, its the only beginning.


You are dealimg with the 800lb gorilla… the sub conscious mind…. And it does not want to change. So readup on that and ask more. There are ways…to some extent.

[ephemeralife]

I think yes, that's a great place to start 🙂


My opinion is your desire needs to be heavily weighted with the reason why your doing it to sustain motivation


I see desire as what you want and motivation is the means of getting there through actions (and of course consistently)


I like what you're aiming for - it's great! No doubt you're on the right track.

[OddBeMe]

Well for the worst personality disorders like psychopathy, getting past denial is a major step. In fact just asking this q means you’re not. But the best of us try to better ourselves.

If not for us then the people around us.

[_Senorita_]

To change yourself just to upgrade yourself for a better future..

[ohmyguy]

Yup it has to be and it's a skill you develop like any other self improvement is necessary whether at stages or at a constant.

[MicahRaine]

Yes otherwise we would all be terrible people

[andy530]

The desire to change is rooted in reasons and if those reasons are valued enough yes it will be enough to have change occur

[dudeinohio]

You just can't change your personality. You are who you are.

[Twalli]

Yes, you've identified a problem. Now you have to find out how to fix it

[Ladsin2]

No. Desire is rarely enough. Willpower, dedication, and commitment are what's required.

[elizamichale1]

Yes i think it is

[Grond21]

It's always the beginning

[TheGriffin93]

Indeed. Desire followed by action.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes.