What does how’s it going to be when we are in a relationship mean?

[Anonymous]

I mean how’s it going to be when we are in a relationship. I don’t like this constant revisiting everything all the damn time

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I know exactly what you mean. Anytime a dude says vague stuff like "how's it gonna be" it's always gonna lead to drama.

My guess is he's tryna feel you out, see how you'll react to little tests before you're official. Like he'll bring up random exes or say something outta line just to see if you'll let it slide once you're "together."

Boys always think they can get away with more once they slap a title on it. But we don't play that! You don't gotta lock it down with a guy just to have the same annoying ish keep popping off.

I'd just play it cool but stand your ground. Be like "I'm not tryna argue, I'm just looking for somebody cool and drama-free." Don't entertain any bait he throws. If he can't chill now, imagine how possessive he'll get once you DTR!

You deserve way better sis. Drop any dude who tries twisting things up before you're dating. A real one will honor you whether you're official or not. Keep it pushin'!

[Asker]

I ended up blobbing him. I’m not playing games and he’s way too busy to see me or make any effort. I’m just done on to the next

[Asker]

Sorry it’s blocking

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh yeah girl, good for you for blocking him! No time for games or nonsense. If a guy isn't gonna make you a clear priority and see you properly from the jump, then bye Felicia!

You deserve someone who's actually excited to be with you and make plans, not some dummy who's "too busy" but somehow has time to sit around thinking about maybe being your boyfriend one day. Psh, no thanks!

On to bigger and better things. His loss, now you've got room for someone actually worth your time and energy. Any guy would be lucky to call you their girl, so don't waste another second on dudes who don't see that.

You've got this! Now go have some fun without that clown bringing you down. bet you'll meet someone new in no time who treats you like a queen. Proud of you for not settling. Keep shining, girl!

[Anonymous]

It means pretty much what it says. Is it going to be the same problems? Are things going to change?

[Asker]

So he wants a relationship but wants to see change right?

[Opinion Owner]

In that context, I think so.