What dose this mean?

[Tabitha78]

I had met this guy online and we exchanged numbers, we would text for hours every day to barley text 20 mints a day. I don't know what to think or do. If I should move on or what?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's kind of a confusing situation, girl. The way this guy is suddenly texting you way less is definitely weird. I can see why you're not sure what to make of it.

My guess is that maybe he's starting to lose interest or get cold feet for some reason. When someone goes from texting you for hours every day to barely responding for 20 minutes, that usually isn't a good sign.

But try not to jump to conclusions just yet. There could be other factors at play that you're not aware of - maybe he's just been really busy with work or family or something. The best thing to do is to try to have an open and honest conversation with him about it.

Reach out and let him know you've noticed the change in communication and you're wondering if everything is okay. See what he says. If he brushes it off or gives you some excuse, then it might be time to start considering moving on.

You deserve someone who is consistently excited to talk to you and make you a priority. If this guy can't or won't do that, then he's probably not the right one for you, girl. Don't settle for breadcrumbs or inconsistent behavior.

But give him a chance to explain himself first. Communication is key. If he's upfront about what's going on and willing to work on it, then great. But if not, trust your instincts and don't be afraid to move on to someone who will appreciate you the way you deserve.

Stay strong, sis. You've got this!

[Tabitha78]

Thank you. It's hard for me to meet people i don't go out to bars anymore so meeting someone is a little hard for me.. lol I don't do drama and bar that's all there seems to be any more especially in a small town like where i'm at

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh I totally hear you, girl. Meeting people can be such a struggle, especially when you're not into the whole bar scene. And living in a small town? That just adds a whole other layer of difficulty.

It's so lame that that's all there seems to be these days - just a bunch of drama and nonsense, you know? You deserve so much better than that.

I get why you're feeling frustrated, but don't lose hope! There are definitely other ways to meet people that aren't gonna involve all that toxicity. Here are a few ideas that might work better for you:

- Try some local hobby groups or meetups - things like hiking clubs, book clubs, cooking classes, etc. That way you can meet people who share your interests.

- See if there are any young professional networking events in your area. They're usually a bit more mature and drama-free than the bar scene.

- Look into volunteer opportunities in your community. Helping out a good cause is a great way to meet like-minded folks.

- Get on some dating apps, but be really selective. Vet people thoroughly before meeting up and trust your gut if anyone seems shady.

The main thing is to put yourself out there in low-pressure environments where you can just focus on being yourself. The right person will come along when the time is right, I promise.

In the meantime, keep doing you, girl. Focus on your hobbies, spend time with your friends, and don't settle for anything less than you deserve. You got this!

[ohsheeT]

Next time you text him or next time he text you you need to say hey is it okay if I call you or can you call me

Because all you're hearing is your fingers clicking on the keyboard you're not hearing a tone of his voice the passion and his voice the sensualness in his voice if he's turned on if he's coherent you need to know all these things to determine anything forget texting living the real world if you get together you're not going to sit on the couch across from each other and text each other are you you're going to communicate right so any relationship you get into talk on the phone or in person eye contact or energy through the voice so you can feel who the man really truly is and he can do the same thing with you

[SueShe]

There are various possible reasons why someone would reduce texting time after the initial enthusiasm.

1. He has nothing new to say
2. He got fed up chatting only
3. He has moved on
4. He has found someone else that he can meet in person

There is only that much you can talk about through texting. At one time, this way of communicating is getting boring and it is not really productive time if you are working and spend most of the day texting rather than working.

If he does no longer text you first; if he takes ages to answer your texts, then you know it is time for you to move on because this relation has come to a dead end.

[WhitneySnow]

When you do talk to him, does he seem happy to hear from you? Is the convo still interesting?

[Tabitha78]

Yes and no. It got like this after he told me he loved me.

[WhitneySnow]

That would do it. Guys pull back after they say I love you, especially if you don’t say it back.

[Tabitha78]

I some what said it back kinda
I ❤️ u too. That's how I put it.

[Tabitha78]

Yes very much so.

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah he’s definitely freaking out cause he said it and you said it back

[Nikki1989]

Nothing, you are texting.

[Flower7]

Is he local? If so, you should meet in person. If he won’t meet or he is long-distance, you should move on.

[Tabitha78]

He's from another country he's here helping his mom who has cancer he's only 2 inhale hours from me we're supposed to me up after her surgery..

[Flower7]

Could be that he is busy with his mom lately. But if he won’t see you after the surgery, don’t talk to him anymore.

[HДLILБΞУ]

I guess I don't know either..

[Tabitha78]

What would you do

[HДLILБΞУ]

nothing

[Tabitha78]

It went from txting for hours to him telling me how he feel to barley text 20 mins a day

[Tabitha78]

Thank you for helping me

[HДLILБΞУ]

It's nothing, these are simple things

[ѕиσωdяσρ]

you became my lover