If a girl is willing to pay for your train ticket to get somewhere, does that mean she is interested in you?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys was thinking about this recently.

I have been talking to this girl basically everyday since October, and she was willing to pay for my train ticket to go to Church she is Christian and introduced me to the place a couple of months ago, I'm not really religious myself but I'm interested in the morality side of things.

She said "That’s why I say it’s genuinely a pleasure, that’s what I do, I help my friends in need and I feel I’ve experienced the same" and "I can pay for your ticket not a problem at all". She said she is "all ears" when I tell her personal stuff and she spends time giving me advice and occasionally has shared things about her but not a lot.

Part of me is like she wouldn't just pay for anyone's ticket, and she has asked multiple times and said there is no need to pay her back, even though she did mention"friends" in the sentence.

She has called me twice for long conversations and we spoke for 40 mins on the phone, it was very nice

I've realised that I haven't put my intentions that clear, well there is a lot of eye contact and stuff but I think I should ask her out when I see her on Sunday. Like properly.

Part of me thinks that I have accidently friendzoned her without her knowing and now she doesn't want to force anything

Thoughts?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a pretty interesting situation you've got going on there. Honestly, it's tough to say for sure if she's interested in you romantically or just seeing you as a friend she wants to help out. The fact that she's offered to pay for your train ticket and spends a lot of time talking to you is a good sign, but the "friends" comment makes it a little unclear.

My advice would be to try and have an honest conversation with her about it when you see her on Sunday. Don't be afraid to put your intentions out there and ask her out on a proper date. That way, you'll know for sure where you stand and if she's feeling the same way.

The key is to do it in a relaxed, casual way though. Don't put too much pressure on the situation or make it super awkward. Just let her know you really enjoy spending time with her and would love to take her out sometime, see what she says.

If she says yes, awesome! If she says she just sees you as a friend, at least you'll have some clarity. Either way, it's better to know than to keep wondering, you know? Just make sure you're cool with whatever the outcome is - don't get all weird or needy if she's not interested romantically.

Play it cool, be confident, and see what happens. Good luck, dude! Let me know how it goes.

[Nikki1989]

Not necessarily. Some people are just generous like that.