Dating chubby girls and physical activities?

[Anonymous]

I really like this girl. She's a full match. And she likes me back.

She's chubby. I don't mind. I find her body attractive.

But then it comes to activities...

Well, I live on the sixth floor walk up. She has to take a break to catch her breath already on the third or forth floor and she's panting super heavily and and sweating when she finally makes it up these stairs. The same when we go for a walk and there's a hill or an observation tower. The same if she runs even a small distance, like to catch a train.

When she's on top she gets out of breath and tired way too fast.

When I sum it all up I find her lack of stamina quite disturbing.

What's your experience with chubby girls and physical activities?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tricky situation you got there, bro. I get that you really like this girl and all, but the whole physical activity thing does sound kinda concerning. It's cool that you find her attractive as she is, but the lack of stamina could definitely be an issue, especially with the whole stairs and hills situation.

I ain't got too much personal experience with dating chubby girls, but from what I've seen, it really depends on the individual. Some might be totally down to get active and go for hikes or whatever, while others might struggle a bit more. It's all about finding that balance and being understanding of each other's limits.

The key is to have an open conversation with her about it. Don't come at it from a judgmental place, but let her know you're worried about her health and fitness and see if she's interested in working on it together. Suggest some low-impact activities you can do as a couple, like swimming or bike rides. Make it about spending quality time, not just killing it at the gym, ya feel me?

At the end of the day, you gotta decide if this is a dealbreaker for you or not. If her lack of stamina is truly a turnoff, then maybe it's best to just be upfront about that. But if you really care about her, try to find a compromise where you both feel comfortable. Relationships are all about communication and compromise, bro.

Just don't go into it thinking you can "fix" her or that she has to change for you to be attracted to her. That's a slippery slope. Respect her as she is, while also being honest about your needs. Hopefully you can find a middle ground, but if not, don't feel bad about walking away. Your happiness matters too, you know?

[DopeTurtle]

I’ve dated bigger woman and there is some trade offs but it all comes down to the mindset and what they want themselves. If she’s big but she’s easily winded then I would encourage her on the littlest progress she makes in movement.


Example : she climbed up the steps and not as winded like last time. You say “ woah you’re flying up those stairs compared to last week! What have you been doing? Stairmasters or something?”


If she’s interested in changing her life then she’s gonna need the support system.

[DishLady]

You like her but you find this disturbing...

Are you SURE you like her?

What are you doing to help her with this issue? Is she "CHUBBY" or "FAT"? Because chubby doesn't lead to a breathless state like that.

If she's not significantly overweight, then perhaps she's asthmatic.

[Zack-Bann]

Why couldn’t both things be true
Liking a person
Being disturbed by a certain behavior

I don’t see the contradiction

[DishLady]

@Zack-Bann Ok, then...

[Nikki1989]

I can't comment on that because the most unfit people I have never known have been slim to average size people. Junk food and other bad habits will do that to you. I have never had any issues with chubby people.

[Asker]

Were they out of breath after walking up stairs?

[Zack-Bann]

I see couples at my gym all the time where the girl is clearly only there for her boyfriend at first
But ultimately she’s showing up by herself when he’s too busy


I think you need to influence her into a healthy lifestyle
Not by stacking the fridge with kale or any of that weird stuff but by making her fall in love with the idea of self improvement.

[OneViewpoint]

LOL, you're in your 20's. Look forward to your 30's. Your 40's. Are you gonna be happy NEVER doing all the things you like and spending your life on the couch with a bag of Oreos? Not me. I couldn't do it. I want a woman who is at least able to do moderate sports activity with me.

[jled44]

This is a tough one!

[Asker]

Have you any experience or suggestion?

[jled44]

My wife is a chubby and yes it does limit a lot of things we can do but I’ve learned to accept that but believe me I’m only human and sometimes it really bothers me

[Asker]

What things are off? How about hiking, riding a bicycle?

[jled44]

We ride bikes and all that stuff, but sex is where the problem is.. she really can’t get in position besides on her back

[Asker]

Like physiacally can't? How big is she?