Is it a turn off if I have never been kissed and virgin at 25 years old (girl)?

[Anonymous]

I’m a normal, educated and self sufficient girl, kind of decent/pretty who was raised in a culture and with the notion that premarital sex is bad, but lately I’ve been feeling that this notion is unrealistic and probably valid only if u get married at an early age ( as used to be the case).
Also , as far as never being in a relationship…I truly never found someone who I would consider dating till marriage (since I see no point in dating if you don’t intend for it to go somewhere)
I’m not opposed to it now if the right person/someone I’m compatible with comes along

I don’t have any close guy friends either…just normal acquaintances or work friends

I was just wondering is this normal or is something wrong with me? Is this is a turn off for guys?

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1 y

I have been hit on and asked out before a couple of times and guys buy me food/drinks sometimes but have never dated

[ohsheeT]

Ok time out
Deep breath. Your fine and your going to be ok to. I hear and feel everyone of your words. You have to be a very strong person to do what you have done with great Discipline.
You are a way better stronger person than me

I don't care what it is in life I needed to understand it and experience it because everything is tied together there is a reason for everything I hear and feel your words so deep and in so many ways I feel bad or sad I don't know how to explain it.. I think it's just because I can feel you and feel every single one of your words so deep as if I have known you all my life... you have a beautiful heart your kind. Your smart your somewhat happy and you do smile.

I want to say you have Missed out of so many good thing but then I have to ask but has she.. I don't know
I think it has more to do with experiencing beautiful things but then once again I have to ask.. has she... I truly wish I new you because I would have so many question for you

I think this is what makes you so great and also makes me So curious about things.

I can tell you this there are two sides to everything we live in an dual Duality world

It starts at the highest realm God Satan
Right wrong
Yes no
Hello good bye
Positive negative
Love hate
etc etc on it goes
We have to experience each one to under stand the other one and to what ever level or experience you have felt one is the depth you will understand the other

You can not Succeed without failure
So failure is success
There's a fine line between all these And all of these depth.

So I honestly have to tell you. It is not a turn off at all.
If anything it is a turn on And I have to say it's a major turn on.
Like I said I feel everyone of your words. And what you said but what is even more powerful and more beautiful is I hear and feel every word you didn't say and I know you know what I. Saying and all I can say is wow I don't if you will understand this or even if I said it right because there is more to it then I said but I don't know you so I can't go there and I wish I did because this is powerful this has meaning and maybe this is why we were meant to wait.

[strateguy632]

It is rare and good, not a turn off. Even impressive. Nothing wrong but unusual.

[SueShe]

That is absolutely normal and I would not worry about that the slightest bit.

There is a difference between being kissed and fornicating. Being kissed is something more innocent while copulating is something that is probably much more unpleasant because at your age, men just want to get into your pants and then forget you. You are no longer a novelty and most of those men in your age group will look for yet another victim.

There is no need to hurry to be in a relationship just to find yourself to be in a toxic relationship and then what? You lost your most precious asset just because you wanted to be like all the others. It is really not worth it. Keep your virginity for someone that will actually appreciate it and love you for being genuine. Fornication is overrated.

[Asker]

Thank you for the reply… it’s nice to know there are still men out there who appreciate not having that connection with just anyone and saving it for someone special :)

[SueShe]

You'll be fine. Enjoy your single life as long as you can and don't feel pressured into something by your peers just to be like them. You are special and one day, the right one will recognize that you are special and you will be happy that you did not follow others just like a sheep. Good luck.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[Asker]

Your perspective was the best…. thanks for answering😊

[megzs16]

As a woman I'd say some men might actually really like this. Because you're pure and you haven't been sleeping around. Will you come across some guys that will give you a hard time for it? Yes. I was a Virgin until I was 24 and I can't tell you how many guys acted turned off by it. They didn't want to date a girl that wouldn't give them physical intimacy. Looking back now though honestly that just showed they weren't really the right guys for me. The right man with good intentions, who truly values you for you will wait for you to be ready.

[Summeroflove]

If it’s by choice I wouldn’t worry about it. Finding whose right is better then giving it away to a bunch of people and still being single.

[Kabluie]

It's no big deal. I dated a 25 year old virgin, she had kissed a few boys when younger but that's as fast she went. She actually didn't tell me until we had sex for the first time, her reasoning was just waiting for the right person.

[Valdemort]

Nah, I had the same thing. No one really cares. They might be surprised and that's it.

[DonaldDarko]

It's not normal today. It makes more sense than the disgusting behavior you'll see on here. Of course there could be serious draw backs, it could be the result of belonging to some werido oppressive religion for instance. It just depends.

[Asker]

Nothing like that, not due to religious practices. More of a conscious decision, to save it for someone I actually like rather than just anybody off a dating site or an acquaintance.

[Shiprex]

No, it isn't it's something that many girls feel is something that they MUST get through because of societal pressure.

[zagor]

No, a lot of girls are shy and conservative about dating. Just don't wait too long to put yourself out there if you do want to have marriage/children/etc.

[MrChinaski]

Mostly people find someone they respect and like. date them and see how it works out. I'm not criticising your position, but will you ever know if any guy is right for you if you don't date them?

[MrChinaski]

Maybe go non-anonymous. Pick a random name. Stop wasting people's time.

[jahaims]

You aren't a "self sufficient girl". You are a woman. Aka an adult. Self sufficient just means you are taking care of yourself because you are an adult. It's not special just because you are a female. It's called being an adult.

[Asker]

Thanks for clarifying… didn’t intend it to be seen as special but as a general description. Also, this completely overlooks the point of the question

[slatyb]

It's not. If you don't tell your date, he probably won't know. You don't have to disclose this because it doesn't affect anyone but you. Start dating, and do what you feel.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Premarital sex is bad, you could catch an STD or end up a single parenr that no one wants.

I'm saving myself for marriage because the science says its the safest option.

[Panthero80]

Don't be so hard on yourself. You sound perfectly fine.

[Berethor]

It turn on, not turn off, who want a girl who had many guys on her? sure not me.

[glennos89]

Dating is important if you want to find out wether you and him are compatible longterm. You won't find instant connection sadly

[Staximus]

The point of dating is seeing if they are worth marrying or not before you decide to marry them

[Asker]

Yes, I agree … I was equating relationship with dating as there is not much of a dating culture where I’m from

[WhiteThought]

Virgins are highly coveted by men. So no, it is not a turn off.

[Anonymous]

The guys that have hit on you or asked you out did you like any of them back in return or were you not interested in any of them?

[Asker]

No, I wasn’t interested in them…except maybe one but then it wouldn’t have been right as he was in a relationship

[Anonymous]

I also have never been kissed and I'm a virgin, but I'm about two decades older than you.

[Anonymous]

i assume you have had plenty of offers over the years

[Pterodon]

Not a turnoff at all. Always be yourself

[Anonymous]

25 and also a virgin.

[In_Trance]

It's definitely a red flag

[Fury_storm]

it probably means you're ugly

[Babebytheshore85]

Yep..

[xyzguy1296]

I wonder why 🤔?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[xyzguy1296]

Why are you still virgin

[xyzguy1296]

By choice?

[Asker]

Yes, not comfortable having that connection with just anyone

[xyzguy1296]

But sex is basic need of human

[SueShe]

Absolutely wrong.

The most basic needs for survival are air, water, food, clothing, and shelter. Sex is certainly not part of those basic needs.