Are you good with where you are in life?

[Ironco]

It's going on 9 years since I was widowed.

I have dated and been with others, but I'm perfectly fine at being single.

I've found a lot of men agree with me, but ladies not so much.

Why is that?

[Crimsyjo]

I was happy single when meds made me lose my sex drive. I enjoyed my own company, making my own choices, doing my own things. But now I'm not happy. Now I have everything I want but a reliable consistent guy to spend my time with and have sex with. It's all I really want. But I can't find it.

Maybe guys with lower sex drives feel more content? Maybe it's sexual needs that drives people to want relationships. Because just company can be found with friends and family. But deeper companionship and intimacy? That only comes from having a person love you and you love them.

[Theonly2121]

I need a bff that can’t keep her hands off me

[Crimsyjo]

@Theonly2121 yes! That would suit me perfectly!

[sage2021]

I'm a lady who lives alone and have been most of my life. I'm doing good with it because I enjoy my own company.

I have my memories of people and times past, which sustains me.

I have God and Jesus Christ who also love me, and I love them.

I'm doing okay with it.

[ohsheeT]

No matter what I'm doing I'm going to be good but of course , I always want more , because i'm always growing and learning

[HawkPerception]

Absolutely fucking not. Not in my career or love life. I have a great family and support system, but otherwise, no.

[DishLady]

Widowers who were married to a good woman are unconsciously always still looking for the best version of their wives to pop around the corner. 5% of your mind and 10% of your heart is always still hers on the BEST day, so it’s hard to feel 100% with a new gal.


It prompts some guys to sleep with everyone… and prompts others to fold and stay single. They don’t even know why. A few pull through and remarry (perhaps when they’re older) but from what I’ve seen among my guy friends it’s not common.


The exception are widows and widowers with kids — many remarry within a couple of years just to manage their work-life needs, esp if they’re young. 🤷🏻‍♀️


Women may or may not agree bc they’re trying to be with you… (duh).

[thegreenyogi]

I'm good with where I am at the moment. I've not yet met someone for whom I want to give up my single status for and I won't settle for anything less then what I am looking for.

[Unap0logetic_]

I agree with you.. I could be single for a long time and be happy. My friends tell me horror stories about their dating life. lol

[DJB72]

First anniversary of my wife's death was a few days ago. I'm not ok, but I will be again.

[Ironco]

I hear you, it does get better, just hang in there.

[Anonymous]

No. But life doesn't care so why should i. Imma keep going till I reach the end of the road. What's the other option really? In the end does any of it really matter? Not really.

[Cidknee]

Hell nah!!