Do white guys like black girls? Would you white guys ever date a black girl?

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Hello :) I am a young black girl, junior in high school. I grew up in the suburbs, so I guess that's why I am attracted to white guys more. I am attracted to black guys but not as much. I have never had a boyfriend, no drugs, still a virgin..blah blah blah. But I would love to date a black guy. don't know why...I just don't think that they would date me. Why is that? Is it because of the stereotypes of black girls? I mean honestly, were not all ghetto and loud. At my school, a few of the white guys are attracted to the black girls but I never see them approach them.

I KNOW this white guy at my school likes me, but he never does ANYTHING. I just feel like there's no hope in dating a white guy or any other race, know what I mean? I know a few black girls that like white guys, but are afraid of rejection. I am light-skinned but I know some white that also like dark-skinned black girls. I'm just really curious. For those white guys out there, would you date a black girl? Like I said, we aren't ALL ghetto. I hate how society stereotypes black people and other races. I don't care how anyone looks at me if I do date a white guy, it really wouldn't matter. And that whole thing about how black parents don't approve of their sons/daughters dating a white guy is total crap. My mom would love for me to date out of my race and explore the differences of dating out of my race, but maybe that's because she's mostly half white herself but that's a whole different story ;)

I'm honestly on the verge of just giving up and being like every girl out there. LOL, just please answers my questions, Thanks! :)

VoiceOfReason · Accepted Answer

Let's face it, guys are attracted to girls, that's life. Are there guys who find Black girls attractive. Yes there are. Guys regardless of race have a perception of what they find beautiful. Just like the girls do. Take you for instance, you're Black but you find White guys more attractive. Of course there are White guys who will find Black girls more attractive than other races.

You speak about your parents saying they don't mind if you date outside of your race. Personally I commend them, but the reality is that there are some people, some who happen to be parents with child(ren) of their own who don't share the same views. Again, it all falls upon the individual perception and it doesn't always fall upon the same beliefs as mainstream society.

As far as all Black women being "ghetto". We all know that this isn't true, but many times society will bestow negative traits of a select few upon a whole race and/or gender to justify their dislike for that particular race or gender. Some guys may even follow that stereotype to justify their own decision to date outside their race. It's sad that it happens, but the reality is that it does happen.

My advice to you is this. You're still young, and no doubt a beautiful Black woman. You have your whole life ahead of you so there's no need to give up on your dreams. You also have a lot of growing to do within yourself, many more academic challenges to focus on so you can build a successful career and life for yourself and any future children that you may have. Focus more on self improvement and eventually things will fall into place, even that love for a man (perhaps even a White man) who loves and adores you not because you're Black, but because you are uniquely and adorably you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

With that last paragraph are you saying that you would rather be single than to find a guy of different race to white? interesting. I also grew up in the suburbs and in my pre teens and early teens I was heavily into white girls because of exposure to them. I got out and experienced the world and now I can say that someone's race doesn't affect my attraction to them. If they are attractive they are attractive.

I personally think that you are limiting yourself instead of just opening your horizons and just finding a good partner. There are good and bad people in all race groups.'

In terms of your question yes there are white guys who like black girls. in fact I'd say it is quite common. in link link link link you will find that white guy black girl relationships do exist and there are plenty of them

bongopudding · Accepted Answer

Oh man. Can I tell you that growing up in a suburban white populated area you're socialized to be attracted to the white boys because everyone around you is being socialized to... try to be close whiteness? It's like.. the norm there I bet. So at this stage in your life please know that how they see you really doesn't matter. Do what you want and live how you want. Be proud of your blackness. The black guys are thinking the same things you are... and... I don't know... get some some black girl friends lol

cindyhaha · Accepted Answer

I felt like giving up to until I noticed that many European men are open, they rarely see color. I am talking about Western Europe...these people have get togethers at  cultural places... and I always go and enjoy culture.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some do but you probably have to show interest first like talk to him

sammy1537 · Answer

You know, it could be that the guy is just nervous about asking a pretty girl out. When I was young, I fell in love with this girl. She was gorgeous! Unfortunately, I could not bring myself to ask her out on a date. I couldn't barely talk to her when I ran into her in the cafeteria. I would walk her home after school but that was the extent of it. She made the first move and kissed me. We've been married for 20 years now.

Make the first step. Ask him if he'd like to go get a coffee together. Talk to each other.

G-Daz · Answer

Of course :P, I would date a black girl and yes I'm very attracted to them. I tend to like their personalities (although I guess you are seeking an American's opinion specifically) but the ones here I like, I can't comment on the ones in the US but I am sure I would feel the same. I am sure there are lots of white guys that like you but you just don't know or perhaps they are not sure you would like them without any given sign. You might need to give a nudge lol. but stay strong to your values! its admirable

Keyboardkat · Answer

I'm married so I'm out of the dating market. But I certainly would.
The things I love about women, I love about all women. Race is unimportant!
When I was in college (back in the '60s, so it was a different age), I knew a guy who was thinking seriously about asking out a black girl in our class. I happened to mention it to one of her friends and the friend told me, "If he asked her out, she wouldn't go. She is so much against that!" Everyone has their own preferences. Maybe if it happened today she'd look a it differently.

DeepBlue · Answer

Some guys would like to but are intimidated about the whole "interracial" taboo that used to be very strong until not that long ago. They may be afraid their family won't approve, that their friends won't approve, that black men won't approve, etc, etc. You are young so these feelings are hard to overcome, most young boys aren't confident enough to be themselves regardless of what others think. There will be white guys who will be interested in you though, I promise you that.

treysmoove21 · Answer

I like black girls. You tend to be very outgoing( I'm not saying ALL, just most of the black girls I've met) and I dig that :) I have dated a black girl once before too, and I'm white, well, half Asian but still got that white blood in me.

Racez · Answer

Yes, white guys will like black girls. You just need to spend more time with the white guys, and over time, they will start having interest in you. After all, familiarity breeds attraction.

Anonymous · Answer

''But I would love to date a black guy''. Should that say *white?. I'm a white man 19 years old, and am attracted to black women.

Anonymous · Answer

Your are very different then whites. No offence! Very little about your black culture is the same. So if he can hack that and likes it then it's OK then OK. But wow... I hope he knows what he's getting into..

Jumpdarope · Answer

Why don't you find out through experiencing it yourself?

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of white girls prefer black men, so why do you want something they don't? There's none around?

blakejjj · Answer

It would depend on what the girl is like. But yes I would.

cooldude25 · Answer

I love black women. I have dated them and will again.

Anonymous · Answer

you like caucasian boys?

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