Polls: Dating

Everyone says date in person it's"organic" but does the bar really scream that?

The person can't stand straight , on drugs or coming to see their bartender therapist isn't necessarily the best place to find the one.

So I have dated very few people and only really thought of it after knowing them a long time ‘& only by the time I was already falling in love or already IN love, tho still was not ready for a relationship and even ambivalent about just dating. I have never ever dated to experience & learn better how to date- dating was only after thought to my interest in a specific person.

it occurred to me that this can be very problematic. If you very rarely like anyone I think you can have a false- positive impression of their character. Just bc I’m so very rarely interested in someone this does not mean that anyone I AM interested in os necessarily good for me as a person/ partner or is even a good person at all.

And ultimately in my opinion experience is crucial. Every train wreck I’ve encountered on romantic scenarios was not due to anyone being evil but bc I had no clue WTF I was doing bc I was not used to caring about someone that I was also “into”. And I was extremely uncomfortable dealing with certain inevitable vulnerability etc plus brain freeze 😂

Anyhow , I think in interest of self development & interpersonal capability , I should consider dating as part of regular life & not a rare artifact that maybe I’ll encounter in a lifetime.

Now, when I say date I mean meeting you getting acquainted. I do not mean hook ups or vetting people for whatever agenda. Just getting to know people in a romantic contexts.

Of course I’ll be upfront so no one’s tine will be wasted if they are expecting sex or something heavily physical quickly. I’m Audi not interested in anyone paying for anything so no one is getting explored with no return.

Would it bother you to be asked out by someone who wasn’t blown away by you but was open to getting to know you?

Please between these birthday cakes which one of them is perfect for a guy.

I mean my bestie's birthday is this month and I really want to surprise him with a birthday party.

He is actually the best friend ever.

ok basically. I'm 15 nearly 16 (five foot 1) and I have a crush on a guy I've known for years but he's only 14 (six foot 1). I'm in y11 he's in y10. my friends reckon that he likes me too because rn we are literally best friends. we are also practically neighbors. I want to ask him out but he's like a whole year younger than me and I'm not sure if that's weird or not? and also we see each other every day so if I'm rejected that's gonna be really embarrassing. I'm not the only girl he hangs out with and I'm not sure if he sees me as just a friend or more. and also how do I hint that I like him without making it obvious? and is it weird?

boyfriend of three years said I “my love” that I give is a special kinda of love that he wouldn’t be able to get else where. What does this mean? I feel kinda like that he only loves me because I love him hard but like not that I’m special any help?