Polls: Dating

I am p1 he is p2

2 What is wrong? 😐

1 I guess I feel weird bc I took something that was honest and worried about the implications, even tho I AM usually the one who hates it when People read into stuff and I like it when people are honest so I was bothered by my reaction.

2 I forgive you 

(So I laughed but then I was still concerned he’d think I thought it was significant for some other reason so I re explained I was just caught off guard.)

2 I understand. We can start Over & just be clear.

(So then I was silent)

2 Soooo what are you thinking?

1 I don't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 You don’t know what you are thinking?

1 I don't know what to say 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 what do you want to say

1 I don't know 😂

2 Where does this leave us?🙂

1 I don't know

2 Can you say something other than “idk” —even if you need a few minutes 😆

(So I thought. Which was awkward bc it’s like he’s waiting so I turned around not facing him and thought)

( after I thought)

1 So… I like you, somewhat. 🧐

2 Thank you 😜 uhh sorry you are supposed to be talking 🤫

(So I continued…)

🤔 So I like you in some kind of way, and I _think_ I’d like to get to know you better, but I’m not ready to “date” and I take a LOOOONG time to adjust. It’s been an issue in the past. It isn’t personal it’s just how I am. If I do not want to hang out all it’s bc of how much time I need to decompress it’s not necessarily bc I do not like someone.

2 Can I ask a question?

1 OK but I’m not finished ☝🏼

2 Noted 🤓 Do I stresses you out?

1 No. that’s why I said “it’s not personal”

2 Oh yeah no I know, I know I heard you.

But I’m wondering other than that. Do I _personally_ stress you out.. bc i was kind of shocked at how quiet you were the last time we spent time together, compared to when we used to talk at the library.

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I’m person 1 he’s person 2

We want for a walk, it got cold & I didn’t want to go anywhere that costs anything so we went to his place and Listened to his collection of Ukrainian folk music on records which was cool I already knew bc we talked about It in the library.

We were there for a few hours then it got quiet And when I felt like he was gonna kiss me I said:

1 you can’t kiss me 🚫

2 uhh ok 😐

2…. for the record you have permission to kiss me 😉

So we both laughed. (Then I was going to try to explain my situation but I couldn’t sort it out so just showed him the post)

1 I was having difficulty sorting the situation out ethically and I asked people did advice bc I didn’t want to do the wrong & I have such little experience and strong tendency to avoid doing anything and so I don’t feel like I was able to rely on my own wisdom even tho I think generally, im fairly wise relatively. I asked for advice bc I didn’t want to treat anyone Badly.

(He was a bit surprised how he ended up coming off to me tho & hasn’t considered how odd it might come off to me bc he’s dated a lot of people and it’s sort of normal to him to talk about stuff but he also wasn’t always in the U S so I don't know maybe it’s diff other places)

2 🤔 You don’t seem flirty or anything kinda opposite really , so I didn’t think you were into me -or I thought you were very shy or conservative so I wasn’t expecting you to ask me out and then I guess I just assumed you were more experienced bc you asked me out... if I had known you are not really used to dating I probably would’ve approached things differently… I’m just used to sort of presenting myself as is, & whatever Happens happens

(He doesn’t mind if I give an update lol as long as no one knows him and don’t use his name he find this seeing other people thoughts amusing I guess)

So then I was silent, absorbing things and I felt a bit awkward bc it’s just normal to him so it must look crazy to him that I was concerned.

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if she shared that one day she wants to get married but you two haven’t discussed being exclusive yet, what would you think?

So he’s in my class and asked me if I wanted to hang out and then we hooked up but the mornin after he asked if I was hungry and wanted to go get some breakfast. Did he ask me out?

Have you ever met someone who is good looking, not clingy, you connect, has a good sense of humour but alsoo not a fuck boy?

in china, male population is so big than the female. there's an app where guys able to rent any girl he wants.

Let’s say a lot of guys like a particular girl but he doesn’t find her super attractive. Why does that boost his ego?

A) it boosts your ego because other guys find her attractive even if you dont

B) it boosts your ego not because other guys find her attractive but becuase it’s an ego boost when any girl likes you

C) it doesn’t boost your ego since you don’t find her attractive in the first place