Would you date someone that still lives at home with their parents?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes

No

[Static_In_The_Attic]

(PHOTO 1) Absolutely!

(PHOTO 2) Oh Hell No!

For starters times are different & expensive nowadays & I’m finding that a lot of people still live with their parents or a brother or a sister or aunts, uncle’s, grandparents or a roommate. As for me if I met a lovely lady I would give her a chance regardless if she lived with her parents or not. On the other hand if she lived with her parents in the house in photo 1 I would say absofuckinglutely I would date her.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Actually thats not do uncommon in my country because of high housing costs. A lot of folks I know still live at 30 in their parents home.

[Puppystarfish23]

Honestly I would have said no I the past but the cost of living in my country is crazy and it's so difficult to get a house no matter how hard working you are. My boyfriend and I live with his family and we are trying to find a place but it's so difficult because he had his own business. He's even took up two jobs now just to help us get a better mortgage

[Puppystarfish23]

Plus he's needed at home as a lot of his family are disabled and he cares for them

[melanieeeB]

Generally no, I'm at a age where I want a partner who is standing on his own two feet in life.
Sure there can be exceptions, like my ex his mom still lived with him due to health reasons and him having to take care of her but yeah overall and generally my answer is no

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[melanieeeB]

I'm not in high school anymore, I want a man and not a boy.

[username98237498]

you can be financially and non financially independent even if you live with your parents

[MountAverage]

@username98237498 True, but in that case the person apparently chooses to not move out of their parents' place even though they could. How is that better?

[chicosuave]

thats only a first world thing. most women in the world dont care if the man lives at home. most can't afford to live elsewhere on their own. We are coming in times where most people are being evictted and are forced to live with family. women you are out of luck

[username98237498]

@MountAverage why he should move to live alone, if has a family that loves him? living with his family shows that cares about them, why that should be a bad thing? What's the point of moving? just to feel alone?

[MountAverage]

@username98237498 It's called independence. Moving out, creating your own home, living and independent life, is a crucial part of growing up eventually. But I guess some guys want to stay at Hotel Mama forever than become men 🙃

[username98237498]

@MountAverage again i think you can be financially and non financially independent even if you live with your parents

[MountAverage]

@username98237498 Pay attention please, I already adressed that. I'm not talking about financial independence. It's about living an independent life ind your own independent home. That's something every grown up needs to learn, and you can't do that by stiill living with your parents.

by the way. your parents also don't live with their parents.

[username98237498]

@MountAverage anyway even in that case you can be independent, you can do your laundry your meals ecc.. even if you live in the same home of your parents

[MountAverage]

@username98237498 You'll never be fully independent until you have moved into your own place. It's called cutting the umbilical cord.

[coachTanthony]

No. If there are circumstances on the why then I will listen but just to live there then no because she will probably want to move in with me after date 1

[OlderAndWiser]

At my age, people live with their parents to serve as their live-in caretakers. The considerations are much different!

[Guy13]

Hell no unless their name was on the Deed...

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Avicenna]

@CuriousChick101: I don’t think high school is relevant to a 28 year old.

[CuriousChick101]

Even if you had missed out on “dating when you were in high school” like I did? 😢

[Avicenna]

Maybe. It would depend on the totality of the circumstances.

[CuriousChick101]

“It would depend on the totality of the circumstances.” But what does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Avicenna]

@CuriousChick101: Well, obviously, it’s not an issue for a guy who’s still in high school, but the picture of an adult man and his parents makes it clear the question is about dating an ADULT who is still living at home.

So what I’m saying is, she may have good reasons for doing it or bad ones. It depends. If it’s because she is drowning in debt, I don’t want to date her anyway.

[MCheetah]

If she was perfect in personality, then sure. As someone who grew up dirt poor and didn't move out of my mom's house until my mid 20s, I'm not going to judge people based on their income level. Cause that's scummy, in my opinion. As long as she wasn't asking me for money, handouts, loans, or charity. And as long as she wasn't a lazy leech who COULD work and move out, but chooses not to as a western NEET who just spends all day on the internet or gaming. I don't care if she lives at home with her parents and I'd feel the same way about a dude if I was female.

[es20490446e]

It strongly depends.

For example I still live with my parents at an advanced age. But the reason is that I'm building a product that is innovative and takes a bit to develop.

Nevertheless it's looking awesome, and it's almost finished. I'm very proud of it, and people that developed such things usually got plenty of money.

So I purposely chose to face the temporal discomfort of being dependent, at the expense of having better finances tomorrow.

And counterintuitively my main issue is that I don't know when to stop working. For example yesterday I worked from 22:00 to 08:00.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Minxxie]

@CuriousChick101 Sweetie, high school kids are KIDS with barely any brain development. High school is over, it's time to move on!

[es20490446e]

@CuriousChick101 We should look into if it is something temporal, or permanent.

And the reality is: you never know till done. Hence I don't expect to date me at this point. If it happens, great, but firsts come first.

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie “…it’s time to move on!” But boys were not attracted to me when I was in middle/high school—is it really that unusual or abnormal to not “move on” from that fact when you get out of high school? (My parents have told me that but I felt like they were wrong, and now you and @Little_Bumblebee are saying things that make it sound like you think it’s weird or something 😑)

[Minxxie]

@CuriousChick101 It's extremely weird. People who think highschool was the PEAK of life need to grow up. The best revenge is success, happiness, and living well. You don't even 100% know that no boys had a crush on you because guess what? Teenagers are still children and are often way too shy and awkward to tell someone they like them.
If you stay obsessed with highschool you will have a miserable life and annoy everyone around you until they cut off contact. PLEASE seek therapy!!

[es20490446e]

Girls, be dragons here 😅

I personally won't change high school for my present life. My welfare has increased exponentially, for the reasons Minxxie mentions.

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie “If you stay obsessed with high school…”. I’m not talking about high school—I’m talking about when I was middle/high school AGE. So instead of describing it above as “boys not liking me in middle/high school”, I should have described it as “boys not liking me as a TEENAGER”.

[Minxxie]

@CuriousChick101 Okay... well you are not a teenager anymore are you?

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie So is your point that normally when people get out of high school/teenhood they move on from “whether or not they were liked by the opposite sex during those years”?

[es20490446e]

@CuriousChick101 Well, at least for me it has been quite different since high school.

For example hen I was on high school girls were like aliens to me, and I perceived them as hard to attract them.

These days it just feels natural to attract girls. In the end of the day girls are naturally attracted to guys, but on high school I didn't perceive that simply because I was young an inexperienced.

So yes, high school is very different than the 30s.

A famous psychologist called Fritz Perls said that any escape into the future or the past shall be interpreted as a likely resistance to the present situation.

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie I don’t mean to bother you about this, but you didn’t answer the question I just asked you and I want someone to answer it if possible.

[Anonymous]

It kind of depends on her story. Being an adult basically comes down to one thing "are you able to take care of yourself". Maybe she's digging herself out of debt, maybe her parents a widow and living together benefits them both. I worked with this one woman who was one of the hardest working, most responsible people I've ever met. But a bad marriage crippled her for a bit financially. She moved back home which was good anyhow cause she's recently lost her mother to cancer and in my opinion her and her father needed each other anyhow. But now she's back on her feet and stronger than ever. So I try to never make snap judgements about where someone's at in life. I'm only interested in what's there plan and where they're going.

[Paganizonfa12]

It's different for everyone

In the middle east generally it's normal and it's okay to stay with parents till marriage because we take care of our parents and also they love seeing their kids there's rarely someone living with parents beyond 35 as we marry at early age so I see it's bonus if she's living with her parents and taking care of them. Also life is tough now days unless you're engineer or doctor or high end worker marriage and birth declined everywhere on the planet dating is one end of the list with today's life

[petitedollbabee]

Depends on their age. I typically date people older than myself, but if I was dating someone my age who still lived with their parents that would be fine. But someone in their mid-late 20’s, it’s not normal here to still live with your parents unless you’re disabled.

[chicosuave]

petitedollbabee. you live in a fairy tale world. I've met so many guys who still live with parents. welcome to 2022. we no longer live in the 1950s where men could afford 2 homes in one job.

[petitedollbabee]

In my country majority of people over 21 rent/flat or are in university housing. So I don’t live in a “fairy tale world”. It’s just the norm for where I live. I myself rent a house with my partner and have done so since I was 20, and all of my friends rent houses aswell.

[chicosuave]

thats bs. university housing is not living independently. they get loans or mommy and daddy pay for there crap. or even worse if you live a socialist country then everything is pay for and all you have to do is have servers feed you for free. But in the states Then who pays for their university meals? loans or mommy or daddy. you can also verity that by the stats. You must be living in a high society but here in the states 58 of percent of adults are still living with family. yet it will increase even more with high inflation costs. poverty will get worse.

[petitedollbabee]

The question was about living with parents, nothing about receiving money from parents. You seem to have a big problem with people getting help from their parents financially, which has nothing to do with what I’ve said. I don’t know much about what housing is like in America, as I don’t live there. I’m simply saying what’s normal in my country. Sucks for people who live in America I guess?

[chicosuave]

This is a huge problem with most people. Even tho you are all the minority. The rest of the world still lives in one household. just because people are still living with parents doesn't mean they are leeching. Thats a false assumption by most people. Most individuals are working and helping with bills. they are less likely to become evicted because they are not burning their money on apartments or greedy landlords who increase their rents each year. Yes this does involve receiving money from parents and i know a lot of kids who got money from daddy and mommy to live on campus but called themselves living " independently" or they had to borrow expensive loans. which in reality is not living independently. i don't know what's your definition of independence but real independence means living on your own with no help of anyone. Sure good for you that you live with your boyfriend but most people dont want to live with roomates they rather live with people who they mostly feel comfortable with like their family.

[Lionman95]

Yes under the condition that they have a plan for their life and their own rhythm of life. Because depending where you live a rent could be too high to pay and therefore I could understand if they can´t live on their own for financial reasons.
I wouldn´t date someone who´s lazy and doesn´t have an interest in building up success and getting better on their own.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Lionman95]

@CuriousChick101 I mean in a way that they can look after themselves and don't depend on their parents for everything. It was also more of a personal perspective so I didn't include dating in high school but I was more thinking of a woman that has left school and it is about 22+ either studying or working. For me it's about maturity in character I want to make sure that my partner is able of making her own decisions and has enough self respect to take care of herself. It's true that doesn't play a role in high school but many if not most high school relationships don't last longer than two years. But I'm not interested in that type of dating. I would want to a partner for 5+ years with a prospect of marriage.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, I did. And then when he got sick of not being married he bought us a house.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Nice!

[BJP21]

I agree with @melanieeeB, Im on my own and not by choice. Both my parents are passed I would have never been able to afford the home on my own with my income. I like being independent and not having to rely on co dependency of another person. My ex girlfriend threw it in my face about co dependency.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I'd rather not. I think it's super healthy to try to live alone. You get to know yourself, you become more independent.

Unless he had a super good reason not to live alone, like he takes care of sick/disabled parents or something like that

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Little_Bumblebee]

As a grown-up.
As I personally want someone who's about the same place in life and someone who's independent.

When I was a teenager living at home, I wanted to date someone who was a teenager as well.
And now I want an adult like myself.

[CuriousChick101]

Good for you 🙂, but the thing is, I still want to do “teen” dating because I’m still stuck on the fact that boys didn’t like me when I was in middle/high school 😢😢😢😢

[Little_Bumblebee]

Soo... what is "teen dating"?
Where you both live at home, or?

[CuriousChick101]

“Teen dating” is puppy love when you’re in “middle or high school” age. But boys didn’t like me when I was those ages. 😓😓😓😓

[Little_Bumblebee]

You can still feel that puppy love when you get older though..
But often it's not lasting. It's usually just infatuation and the fact it's new.
I get that you want to experience it though

[CuriousChick101]

But boys didn’t like me when I was in middle/high school ☹️

[Little_Bumblebee]

You can still feel that puppy love now.
And in the long run, then it doesn't matter if you were popular back then. It matters more where you are now and will be in the future

[CuriousChick101]

It had NOTHING to do with popularity. It was about how boys were not attracted to me.

[Little_Bumblebee]

... okay

[CuriousChick101]

May I ask what you mean by “…okay”?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well those things are close to being the same, especially back in that age.
I could feel this may had been a chip on your shoulder or something that weighs heavy on you, maybe something you would continue on about. And instead of going into all that, I answered "... okay" - cause I don't have the energy, and I feel like we've already migrated far from the main subject

[CuriousChick101]

It’s absolutely a VERY heavy “chip” on my shoulder that weighs VERY heavy on me! But I have been told that that is unusual and not normal. Do you think that’s true? And if so, then why?

[Minxxie]

@CuriousChick101 Girl PLEASE get therapy this is unhinged.

[Little_Bumblebee]

@CuriousChick101 Being this extreme about it doesn't sound healthy. I think you need to work some things through, work on yourself and get over it

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie Why do you say this is unhinged? 🤷‍♀️

[Minxxie]

@CuriousChick101 Because you can't go back in time and obsessing over it will get you nowhere!
Falling in love is just as incredible no matter when it happens.

[CuriousChick101]

@Minxxie It’s not about me falling in love, it’s about how boys were not attracted to ME.

[CuriousChick101]

@Little_Bumblebee “I think you need to……get over it.” Is it really that unusual or abnormal to not get over that when you get out of high school?

[KralArthur]

To hell with your lonely life style. I love my family 👪 and I love staying with them until i get married. I share my salary with my family because they need me. I wasn't grown up in a rich household. Our life standards are totally different. But one thing's completely true that you have twisted 🥨 relationships. You don't give value to the community. Just you and yourself. You destroy yourself with your own hands. Full stop 🛑

[whiskeyontherocks]

My general rule when I was dating in my 20’s
If there’s a goal that it supports than I see no problem
Saving money for some big trip, or getting financing in order after a major hit.
Reasons I would not; still trying to figure things out. Isn’t in a career that has sufficient income. Basically if they showed no growth potential in life.

[DiegoO]

You gotta check the context. In LATAM, specially in those countries of the region, affected by regimes, there's not much option. In developed countries—and any country in better circumstance—the reality is far opposite.

There's also a cultural component that plays a role.

[Charlesbrandonf]

I think, @Bethany22 is referring, that a man should be able to at least live on his own at that age, while she able do her life on her own, like pay rent on his own, be independent on his own. Doesn’t have to own a house. Doesn’t have to be rich.

[mermaidcancermoon]

Only if they had a generous savings account that allowed them to move out whenever

Or they were involved in caregiving of a disabled parent.

If its not one of these, I dont want anyone that lives with mommy and daddy.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[leighbee]

Yay me then lol

[NerdInDenial]

Sure, I see no problems here; it makes sense currently that people have roommates or live with their parents. Inflation causing the cost of living to increase and there's not many high-paying jobs.

[TheVigilantOne]

I did once never again, she was so unhealthy lazy and toxic it wasn’t good for me, I’d rather date someone who’s independent and can do their own thing without relying on mummy or daddy to do everything. Can’t be healthy for them either.

[DoctorSex]

Of course.

I don't see myself marrying a woman who doesn't love at home under her fathers loving authority and watchful care.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Biancam13]

It depends on their reasons for doing so. I'm in my early-mid twenties so it wouldn't be that unusual. Some of my friends still live with their parents.

[CuriousChick101]

“It depends on their reasons for doing so.” But what does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Biancam13]

@CuriousChick101 Because in your 20s, sometimes things aren't always black and white. People can live with their parents for many different reasons, some which are attractive in a potential partner and some which aren't. :)

[leighbee]

I live with my boyfriend's parents and do you know how expensive it is to rent a house? We will be lucky to be renting in our 30's lol maybe even have a mortgage by the time we are 50 😂

[nspencer]

No, it prob saves money that they can use later to put down on a house with someone. Why should this matter.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Yea, it's definitely less attractive but I know first hand some reasons to stay with your parents even if you can move out yourself

[CuriousChick101]

What do you mean that’s less attractive? 🙄 Because when you are in middle/high school, being liked by the opposite sex has nothing to do with things like that.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@CuriousChick101 highschool and middle school? Why would you be worried about that then?

If someone isn't interested in you because you're under 20 and live with your parents it's because they feel like they can't relate to you. Not necessarily because there's something inherently unattractive about you or your situation.

You don't really have much control over that when you're that young so it's not really applicable

[BlueScorpio]

I did, that was me and my husband before we got married and moved out. He stayed at home and I stayed at home until we got better paying jobs.

[xJeremyx]

Where I am from, everyone lives with their parents until marriage. So its not that taboo. So I would say, yes. Yes I would and yes I have to.

[chicosuave]

most women have a problem with it but most men dont. We men will just take any girl who would live with their parents.

[BobbieBoy666]

Yes I would I see nothing wrong with still living at home. 💞

[Subarugirl]

Unless they were caring for their parents or still in college, no. If I were dating, I would want to date someone who is independent and capable of living independently like I would be.

[peachylife23]

Preferably not because I don't either. Much easier when you are moved out to communicate and enjoy time at home together

[AsaKyo]

Yeah, because I know how much housing has went up between now and when my grandpa was still in diapers lmao..

[sweet-chocolate]

Depends how old he is. If he's 20 then it's okay, after the age of 25, it's a no for me

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[sweet-chocolate]

Firstly don't roll your eyes at me🙄 I'm entitled to my own opinion and if you don't like it then okay. And who is in high school here? The asker is not and I'm not, you are certainly not. So what are you talking about?

[CuriousChick101]

This is because I’m still stuck on the fact that boys didn’t like me when I was a teenager.

[Bethany22]

No. If I'm able to afford my own place at my age, so is he.

[MCheetah]

Not everyone is rich like you though, Bethany.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[Bethany22]

@MCheetah I'm not rich. I share with several roommates

[MCheetah]

Then it's not "your own place," then.

[Bogoboj]

LoL "able to afford my own place" while you have several roommates🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[ButterflyCuddles]

@MCheetah I thought this aswell

[chicosuave]

bethany- thats not indepedence dude. your depending on other people to pay for the big bill. its means you are not fully responsible for the bill. nor the place is yours.

[twotone54]

I would definitely date somebody who is still living at home with their parents have you seen the prices to rent homes and buy homes these days it's freaking hard it's expensive to live.

[jshm2]

Doesn't really apply anymore.

But back then : Date, yes. Marry, no.

[Agent_Elflord]

I would. Not everyone who lives with their family is a loser, I live with mine but am thinking of moving out of state next year.

[TacosRAwesome]

Maybe, since the average here is to live with parents till marriage, but it depends on their level of independence and functionality.

[CuriousChick101]

“it depends on their level of independence and functionality.” But what does that have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[TacosRAwesome]

@CuriousChick101 I'm talking about people in their 30s and maybe 40s. It's not that uncommon for such people to still live with parents here. My question is, if for example I work late on day, will they be able to make a simple dinner, if they go grocery shopping will they get food that matters or will it be like giving cash to a 12 yr old.

[Mrisha]

If they are financially stable and can live independently but choose to live with their parents, then there's nothing wrong with that. I like people who share a close bond with their families. Jeez, I can't believe some of the answers here.

[Juxtapose]

It doesn't matter to me unless her parents are heavily involved in her life and get in my way.

[loveslongnails]

I presume you're talking about an adult? LOL

[Anonymous]

Yeah I already do lol like most people my age.

[lorenzomichael]

Sure why not? There parents are not going to out live there kids.

[Anonymous]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[LinkxPeach]

I don’t know. As long as they’re making money, and know what they want to do in life.

[Anonymous]

It's an obvious fact of life that it's a red flag in men more so than it is in women especially by a certain age unfortunately

[Minxxie]

True, some traditional families try to keep a woman at home until she's married.

[Mediterraneansoul]

Heck yes. At least they'd have family values instilled in them.

[TheAfrikan]

Yes because am dating a person not the house parents house 🏡

[Jltakk]

Its sad that thats the hurdle of all things in this economy. why even bother

[Anonymous]

If you are over 24 y/o and still live with your parents then you are a loser.

[Nikki1989]

No, I just couldn't do it.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[UniquelyBasic]

Depends on the circumstance.

[CuriousChick101]

What does “living on your own” have to do with dating? 🙄 Because when you’re in high school, things like that have nothing to do with dating.

[UniquelyBasic]

@CuriousChick101 I assumed it was meant for adults who could get their own place.

[tara_w]

We all live with our parents at my age

[Drumlin2001]

Not for a serious relationship.

[TroyDT2]

Yeah, I don't care

[Iron_Man]

Yes, of course

[BlackElph]

Yeah. The economy sucks rn

[boobliker]

And, Why not he is stable...

[MountAverage]

At my age? No.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell to the naw. I want to date a mature adult.