I still live with my folks to, I was saving up to move out and get a place but then I had an accident and medical debt piled up and then I got in a car wreck and couldn't save my car so there's that and then I got violently sick and more debt piled up.
But I have a plan in place to get rid of it and am working towards that and moving out.
I think living with your folks is fine as long as your trying to fix your situation and get a place of your own you know?
I'm 25, still live with my parents and I am engaged lol my fiancé doesn't care. Now, would I date someone who still lives with their parents? Depends. If they are older than 20.. Are they going to school and/or have a job? If yes, then yes, I would date them. If no, then no, they better figure out their life first before thinking about dating.
Depends on the person, if they still go to college and are trying to get somewhere in life, why not? If they are never planning to do anything else with their life, then no...
I don't care what the situation is for them... and yes it could be legit. I still don't care. I am in a place in my life where I need someone who is on there own and in the same place as me.
Call me selfish but it is what it is. If other's want that then great...not saying it's wrong but not something I want in my life.
I'm with you Coach' i don't really need to interact with a girls parents if were just dating. When a girl lives at home it's something that'll come up.
@MrNameless I have met many amazing women who take care of their parents. Doesn't mean they have to live with them. And if that is what they choose to do then good for them.
Depends on the circumstances. If he's a lazy mooch or doesn't have a good reason, then no. By your mid to late 20s, you should be out on your own and fairly independent!
Now the only exception to that would be if he's living at home because he's caring for a disabled family member. That's beyond his control, and I understand and respect a man that cares for his family.
Yes, I'd actually prefer a girl to live with her parent. I live with my parents and have a good job, know how to cook, and even fix things up around the house. I'm sure many girls are in a similar situation. In my culture people dont generally leave unless they are married with a family. It would be a waste of money that could be used for a better future.
I think the idea that anyone who doesn't jump ship at 18 comes from a few key ideas in American culture.
Consumerism: If adults saved their money by living with family until they started their own the economy would slow down.
Bias of people who left early: pretty self explanatory, these people either want to take pride in their more difficult financial situation or just have a bad family relationship so they dont understand the benefits.
Sex...: I'm sure a decent amount of people, especially now just want a way to hookup with strangers. Obviously bringing home a guy you just met to your parents won't pan out well.
I simply dont see the point of wasting my money to live in a bland room alone, to what end?
People also want to live by their own rules and have their own privacy. Don't want to be hounded/called on by parents for arriving relatively late. And yes, sex is a thing too. You can't have sex with parents in the house. too awkward. And I'm not even talking about hook ups, but actual relationships
You can have sex with parents in the house. You think everyone had their own appartment through 99% of human history? It's not more awkward than parents having sex when they have children.
But if you're so desperate then rent a place, I just don't think others should be pressured into the same decision.
I live in the San Francisco Bay Area where you have to work 2 minimum wage jobs just to afford a 1 bedroom apartment most places, and the venture capitalists, and the techies drive up the property values so high. So, it’s understandable to a point, so they can pay off their student loans quicker, and put aside a sizable savings account before venturing out on their own. I still wouldn’t be too thrilled about dating a girl living with her parents. If they unfairly judge how you live, and expect you to spend money you don’t have, or take them on exotic vacations all the time, I would be very stern, and tell them that until they have their own place, bills that they have no right to criticize how you live. Believe me, those instances of materialism and hypocrisy will likely flare up, and possibly drive you apart.
I was only read when I hit 32 to move out. I was saving up money, so I can move out and have my own life. It's not easy to just move out alone financially. So I'd think this person is good with money and is saving up. Or it could be the person is lazy and loves living at home with aren't too much. With no motivation or plans to move out. Then that starts to be sad. Taking advantage of parents at this point.
Still living with parents is not on its own a deal breaker to me. Family health , circumstance , finances etc can all make getting your own place pretty impossible so no it wouldn’t and hasn’t deterred me
Sure, at least one person should have their own place if you're dating. The thing is after a certain age it's not cute having roommates i'd almost prefer she live with her parents instead. I hope you're not grouping those with roommates as having "moved out" in this particular instance.
If you live in high rent market living on your own is tough to afford. I'm in SD and the average rent for 800-1000 sq-ft apartment is like $2k+ a month. That's a tough sell for someone in their early 20's.
I personally believe that a person doing that is often times a considerate, caring individual that wants to be around close family as much as possible because real love is far better than lack of love, no love or no understanding of love !
I would, but not if they’re still living with their parents well into their 30s. I’m in my late 20s & still living with my parents, so I’d of course be open to dating a girl in the same situation
Well that part now at days would depend. If a guy or a girl ( around the age bracket of 30's & 40's ) are back with their parents or still living with them. My only guess is they would have to have a very good, logical reason as to why they are still with their parents.
Baring exceptional circumstances, I firmly believe that all offsprings should have a flown the nest by the time they're thirty at the very most, and start learning to be completely independent and standing on their own two feet.
It depends on their situation , if they didn’t have their shot together it would be a turn off but if they were actively working and saving to get their own place then not so bad , again just depends on their situation and their reasoning
It's apparently socially okay for the woman to live with her's, so sure. I dated a woman that lived with her's for a while. Found out she didn't want to move out because she didn't want to pay bills in general.
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